However, there are some problems now, whether self-control, rather than strategy increase, is one of the factors affecting behavior.
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Stanford University in the United States has a famous experiment: let a 4-year-old child stay alone in the room, give him a marshmallow, and tell him to give him another one as a reward if he can insist on not eating this marshmallow for 15 minutes.
After the door was closed, two-thirds of the children eagerly put marshmallows in their mouths; Some children even "survived" 14 minutes, and finally fell short. The remaining one-third of the children spent perhaps the most difficult 15 minutes in their lives, and their performance made people laugh:
Some picked up cotton candy and sniffed its fragrance carefully; Some people walk around the table; Some play with skirts or trousers, cover their eyes, cover their faces and sing songs ... The funniest thing is that a little girl ate the "core" of cotton candy and pretended not to eat it. Bridgette di Posada, the author of "Don't eat marshmallows yet, son", commented: "We know she will succeed, but someone must keep an eye on her!"
10 years later, the researchers found that children who can persist in not eating marshmallows for 15 minutes have better careers and interpersonal relationships when they grow up than those who eat marshmallows immediately. Because these children who have resisted the temptation of marshmallows know that the most important principle of success is the ability to "postpone enjoyment"-self-discipline.
I feel a little ashamed to write here. Now there are 7 hours and 25 minutes before the deadline, and my procrastination has broken out again. In the previous two hours, I visited Taobao, brushed Weibo and chatted on WeChat-I ate all the marshmallows in one breath, just like two-thirds of the children, but the problem was that I didn't feel the sweetness of marshmallows at all. On the contrary, I was full of anxiety.
As long as we act now, even if it is only a small step, we can get inner peace, but because of lack of self-discipline, we can't overcome our immediate desires and are unwilling to do something more beneficial in the long run.
Children will "forget" their desires by diverting attention. They are only four years old, but they already know what their brains will think, recognize their own thinking process and know how to control it. The same is true for procrastination. You have to make specific solutions in advance, otherwise "what you should do" will be defeated by "what you want to do".
References:
People's Network-Education-Stanford University Cotton Candy Experiment: Children who resist temptation are better.