In high school, everyone was a warrior, holding a sword and fighting all the way, invincible, just to cross the wooden bridge with thousands of troops and horses and move towards the broad road of life: university.
As a result, many people will find themselves really poor in Tucson when they go to college, because he finds that not to mention the avenue, even the gate is not necessarily comparable to high school!
However, the tragedy has just begun.
Students from all over the world will find that your dormitory not only has no air conditioning, but also has no bathroom. The body that has been shy for more than ten years is about to be destroyed by the big bathhouse. Many girls cried when they went to public bathhouses for the first time. This is true!
Students from north to south will find that there is no heating in the dormitory, no heating in the canteen, and of course there is no heating in the classroom. The problem is! It's obviously the south, and when it's cold, it's freezing!
It is said that in the first month of school, 90% people want to go back to summer vacation and fan themselves to death. Unfortunately, we are not big bears, have no Doraemon, and have no time machine to go back to the past.
Will, unwilling; I repeat, dare not.
After some struggle, most people will choose to compromise and insist. In Zhang Jiajia's words, if you are melodramatic, you will burst into tears and turn back step by step, but you can only move forward.
My little hair bell is the most typical example.
Three months ago, Bell officially embarked on the road of university with the notices from three universities. She grew up under the eyes of her parents and cried from home to the school gate. I teased her that her tears were thousands of miles away.
I thought everything would get better when school started, but I didn't expect this girl to have another mother before school started.
The day before school starts, her mother and aunt are going to return to China. The bell couldn't bear to go home with them, crying and crying, and then chased all the way to the railway station, scaring her mother.
The next story is even bloodier. Bell said that she would stop studying, go back to study, or go to junior college. I was shocked to hear the news, because she finally made it through senior four, and one year later she will be senior five.
I said you struggled for a year last year and didn't do well in the first exam. You finally got into three preparatory courses. Why bother?
She said this school is completely different from what I expected. It is far from the city center, the dormitory is crowded and broken, the roommates are difficult to get along with, and they are all malicious characters. The food in the canteen is particularly bad. ...
She listed n dissatisfaction with the school, and finally said: Why is the university so different from what I expected?
I said: You have complained so much, have you thought about how to change the status quo?
This time she was silent.
University is different from what you think, because you think wrong from the beginning.
Since high school, we have been instilled with the idea that it is easy to go to college.
So many people naturally regard the university as an amusement park, a place to liberate nature after the college entrance examination. They stubbornly and naively believe that after the terrible killing of the college entrance examination, they can easily enjoy peace and prosperity in the next four years, so when faced with bloody reality, they cry for the land, are dissatisfied with everything in front of them, but are unable to change the status quo.
In other words, they have the ambition to change, but they don't have the courage to change, because they are still living in their flawless university dream.
When entering the university, many people will find that everything is so different from the life they once dreamed of, and they will complain that it is not beautiful at all.
The imaginary university will have a group of cute, warm and funny roommates, who will go out together, eat together, go to buy buy, buy buy, and even watch 18 banned movies together; But in fact, there are few parties for six people, and the longest time for everyone in a room is when they sleep.
The imaginary university will have students from all over the country, who communicate with each other with strong accents with local characteristics and tease each other that their Putonghua is not standard; But in fact, a year has passed, and you don't even know how many people are in the class, let alone communicate.
Imagine that there will be endless activities and parties in the university, life will be more exciting every day, and more handsome guys will be known every day; But in fact, in addition to class, you play with your mobile phone every day, and the people you meet every day are either roommates or teachers.
Imagined universities are all beautiful photos of tourist food. If you have no money, you will travel badly. Take a trip if you are willful. Wild animals need no explanation. But in fact, every day is a dormitory, canteen and classroom, and life at 3: 00 is endless.
The imaginary university will have a simple and beautiful bicycle campus love. A teenager not only amazes your time, but also warms your years. But in fact, there are lovers everywhere on campus, but you can only go to single dog day after day.
At this time, many people will say that fairy tales are deceptive, and whoever tells me that the university is wonderful will be killed!
But in fact, the university is not beautiful, but this kind of beauty needs you to discover and create, and nothing of value will appear out of thin air. Life is life, and the diamond in life is the crystallization of sweat and tears.
I have a friend. When she was in college, because the school was built halfway up the mountain, it was particularly desolate and remote. Every time, she has to take a bus for two hours from the city and walk for half an hour by mountain to get to school. This should be unimaginable to others. Many people say that if you don't repeat this kind of school, do you want to keep an alumni relationship with your children in the future?
She just smiled and said, it's not that I haven't thought about quitting, but then I thought, if I always find a way out for myself, if one day I retreat to the edge of a cliff, will I continue to retire?
Later, it was in that desolate and remote school that she studied, attended training classes and prepared to take the civil service exam. She was born in three colleges, but she beat high flyers of one college in the civil service examination and became the best among thousands of people.
Later, I asked her how she did this impossible thing in the eyes of others, and her answer I think I will never forget:
What you see is my sweat, in fact, my tears are as heavy as sweat.
I looked at the fine lines clearly visible in her eyes and thought of that sentence: people who have not cried in the middle of the night are not enough to talk about life.
Then I suddenly realized that she was only 23 years old. Most girls of this age are crazy about wearing lipstick and cosmetics, chasing Korean dramas, loving beans and chasing beautiful men, but she has found another way and chosen a road that no one cares about and become what she wants.
Oscar Wilde once said, I was particularly impressed: we all live in ditches, but there are always people looking up at the stars.
Some people were born with golden spoons, and some people lived at the bottom of society as soon as they landed. We can't decide where we come from, but we can decide what kind of life we can live.
Under the model of exam-oriented education, almost everyone thinks that high school is a crucial turning point in life, but in fact, many college graduates I know think that college is an important stage to truly improve their abilities and sublimate themselves.
What makes people feel helpless is that universities have almost become synonymous with "idleness, idleness and self-indulgence".
I once heard with my own ears a college graduate who has already taken up a job say: a university is a pig farm.
I am indignant at this sentence, but I can't refute it, because it is undeniable that such a phenomenon does exist. No matter how glamorous the city is, there are sewers that shelter evil people and shelter evil practices on the surface. Since the dream of changing the world is too big and the space is too far away, let's start by changing ourselves.
University is not bad, but too many people feel too idealistic and comfortable, and misunderstand the true meaning of university. Too ideal, it becomes a casino; Too comfortable, it becomes a pig farm; Only by working silently can you become a DreamWorks.
We should not choose comfort at the age when we should suffer the most.