? Like many youth movies in China, there will be fragments of graduation breakup, such as "Chinese Partner" and "To Youth". What makes people think that they will break up after graduation? I summed up the reasons:
1. Love motive is too simple.
? Many college students fall in love without considering their future marriage. They fall in love only because they need to love and be loved. On the issue of love, college students have outstanding personality, emotional impulse and are not limited by traditional customs. They generally don't ask their parents' opinions before or even after establishing a relationship.
2. Love lacks deliberation?
? At present, college students' love is younger and the number is on the rise. Junior students, because of their shallow social experience and simple thoughts, many students have no clear concept of their life goals and needs, which leads to their simplicity, naivety and immaturity in dealing with love. In the way of love, the form is often emphasized, while the content is ignored. In love behavior, the process is often emphasized and the result is ignored; Value pleasure over responsibility.
3. The problem of different places
? Time is always the truest prophet, and he will tell you the terrible reality with its length. After graduation, if you and he are no longer in the same city, and you live in different time and space, your life will be divided from now on. You are resting and he is working; You are desperately studying for the postgraduate entrance examination, and he is rushing to find a job ... so repeatedly, time will tell you in the truest words. After a long time, things will change, and you will find that many things have changed. Long-distance love is not only insecure, but also may make feelings fade away.
4. The life plan for graduation is different.
? Before graduation, girls will definitely ask you, what shall we do in the future? She is judging whether you can give her a full sense of security in the future. And most boys just answer, I don't know. This kind of man who has no definite view and plan for the future is the most desperate for women.
? "After graduation, I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination and you have to work."
? "I want to work in a big city, and you have to go back to a small city as a civil servant to take care of your family."
? "I want to go home and inherit my family business. You have to start your own business."
? "I don't know what to do, and you already have your own plans."
? If the goals are not consistent, there will be differences, intransigence, silence and serious quarrels between two people. In my heart, I feel that the other party does not consider themselves and does not love themselves. Another is that one party has his own ideas, but he never shares them with the other party, that is to say, his girlfriend is not in his plan, and the other party can't see the future performance.
? Entering the society, women will become realistic and men will become confused. So the graduation season became the breakup season. Falling in love in society depends more on the economic foundation, unlike when I was a student, I used my parents' money to go to the cafeteria to eat, go to class, eat, drink, and be carefree. For graduates who have just left school, they really don't have enough economic ability and long-term life planning. Do you still have to ask your parents for money when you fall in love after graduation? The meager salary just graduated is a bit tight, coupled with the different life plans of husband and wife and the opposition of parents. If there are still problems in different places, then with the passage of time, the two will eventually go their separate ways.