So, what kind of heart is this? Here I want to declare a premise that many students are easy to teach and not so difficult. Laozi once said: "Staff sergeant learns Tao and works hard, sergeant learns Tao and dies, corporal laughs, but not enough." So, what does this sentence mean? In other words, there are three kinds of people. The first is the staff sergeant. When he hears good things, excellent things, you don't need to tell him anything, he will work hard to do well and learn well. This is the staff sergeant. Of course, these people are relatively rare among the public. The second kind of person is a sergeant, who has the largest number in the public. I am also such a person. You can't do well when you hear good things without being urged, but you need the guidance and encouragement of your teacher. Under such circumstances, I can be excellent and become an elite. The third kind of person is a corporal. No matter how hard the teacher tries, this kind of student can't teach because he has no desire to grow up. Of course, corporal is only a small part, accounting for only 10% of our total number, or even lower. So we can see that about 90% of students can be taught. Nowadays, so many students are regarded as problem children because their parents or teachers didn't do a good job, which led to all kinds of injuries. So it can be seen that many students can teach as long as teachers and parents do well.
I can give you an example. If you have seen the propaganda film of our school, you will know that I used to be a poor student and was despised by my classmates and teachers in the institutional school. I was poor at that time, which had something to do with the teacher's education, because in institutional education, in the old education, the teacher didn't care what I thought. He only asked me to do all kinds of things. As for whether I want to do this or not, do I know why I did it? The teacher never told me. I was depressed at that time, so I became the me you saw in the promo. I am lazy and have no strength in my heart. After coming to today's school, the teachers are very concerned about me, guiding me with their innocent hearts and passing on their wisdom to me, so I can stand here and share it with you today. Through my personal case, I can realize that most students can be taught. Even if they have been tortured before, they are likely to be taught as long as they are educated with new educational methods later. This is a premise I want to express. Through this premise, we can see that it is actually easier for me to teach these students well in this class, as long as I have a pure heart.
So what is this heart like? First of all, let's look at three kinds of mentality of ordinary teachers. The first mentality is: I must help you. This mentality is that as a teacher, I must help you-students, I must help you grow up, how can I help you? This is the first mentality. The second mentality is: for my sense of accomplishment, that is, if I am a teacher and I train my students well, then why do I train him so well? Mainly because I can show off in front of others, gain fame and fortune, and get various benefits. This is the second mentality. The third mentality is: I am doing great things. "Education is the engineer of the human soul", so many teachers will subconsciously think or constantly instill in themselves: I am doing a very great thing, so I must do it well, or I must work hard to do it well, which is also the mentality of most teachers. The third atmosphere is obviously better than the first two, but the essence behind these three mentalities is actually the same. What is their essence? That is, they put all their attention on "me", that is, the teacher himself, not the students. That is to say, teachers who teach according to the first three mentalities, all their teaching tasks and teaching methods are because I am a teacher, and I want students to be what I want, instead of truly respecting students or identifying with them from the heart. In this way of education, students can also feel the teacher.
So what should this pure heart look like? A pure heart should be: sincerely do it for the progress and growth of students, and it has nothing to do with yourself. In other words, even if I don't have any fame and fortune, I do it for free to help students. When everything we do is purely for students, then in this case, we can do a good job in new education.
So, how can we have such a heart? Actually, there are only two words: compassion. Why compassion? When you have a big love heart, when you have a selfless heart, when you have a broad, generous and understanding heart to face everything, when you see students, you will not start for personal interests, but for a love and selfless heart that I really want to help them realize and live the life they want, and a broad heart to look at them. Then, when we have such a mentality, what we do naturally conforms to the principle of new education, and we don't need to learn any skills or receive any training. As long as our hearts are positive, then our behavior naturally conforms to the principles of new education.
With such a heart, what kind of behavior is in line with the new educational behavior? The first point is: fully respect students. What does this respect mean? I'm not saying that I told my students that you want to be an elite and a leader, so I want to train you in this direction. I mean, I'll help you become whatever you want to be. If you want to fall, I will help you fall. If you want to be lazy, I can also help you be lazy, but if you want to make progress, I can also help you make progress. Let me give an example of a class. In our class, during the holiday, two students are the main force of our class, that is, they have good thinking. Winter vacation homework didn't finish the holiday. Although they wrote more winter vacation homework than others and worked harder, they still didn't finish it. This is not a question of their ability. If they work harder, they actually finish writing, so they are essentially. According to my analysis, I think their attitude towards learning is indifferent, they are frivolous and prefer to play, otherwise they will not finish their homework seriously. So, I told these two students like this. I told them that since you didn't finish your homework carefully, you didn't like studying very much. You prefer to play and do what you like. So, you don't have to come to class in the future, you can go to the campus to play, and then you can apply to me when you want to come back. We called it "exile" at that time. At that time, these two students were the main force in our class, and our class and the girls' class were playing hot games, that is, playing all kinds of PK. However, after their departure, the competition between our class and the girls' class was obviously affected, but what I thought at that time was that I should respect the students' choices and I would not force them, so even if we lost the competition, we should respect them instead of winning the competition, and we should pay more attention to the students' growth. We should not take students as a tool to win, but really care about and help them. At that time, many people would be confused, including some other teachers. I explained this to them. So what effect did these two people achieve after being exiled? Although I played in exile, I played very hard, because I saw that other people in the class were working hard and serious, so I was always worried about being surpassed, so I played very stubbornly. When they came to apply with me, they couldn't answer the questions clearly every time, so they couldn't come back. They spent about a week in a very tangled state. The rest of the students always have an important mentality, thinking that there are good people above and more powerful people to support them, so they can actually work hard or not, but this time because these two people have left, they think we can't do it without working hard. We must work hard. So after these two people left, our class worked hard as a whole, and the people below made great progress and improved their level in a short time, so we still won the game, which made our class have a high cohesion and helped the people below a lot. What about the two students? When our class competed with the girls' class, I called them over to show them how we played. Neither of them can attend. At that time, we beat the girls' class with excellent results, so they felt that I didn't do anything wrong after reading it. It's all the same whether there is me or not in the class, so they let go of their previous arrogant and self-righteous mentality. Therefore, after this exile, the students who were not exiled in our class made a breakthrough, and the students who went to exile made great progress and made a leap in mentality. Therefore, this is the result of fully respecting students' choices and can help students make greater progress. This is the first point.
Second, it is not the teacher who tells the students how to do it, but the students who think about how to do it themselves. In the old education, many teachers formed an inertia, that is, telling students what you should do. For example, I have a good idea. I think writing articles can help students, so I told him that you should write articles because it will achieve your goal. If I tell the students this way, the students will have resistance, because he doesn't understand why he did it, and he is not very convinced to do it. Although he will listen to the teacher on the surface, in fact, his inner recognition of this matter is not high. Therefore, if students are allowed to do things with such a mentality, they will not be able to do well and learn well. This is also the reason why many students do not do their homework well and study hard, but it is difficult, because they deeply reject these methods. What should we do as a new education? We don't tell students that I will tell you a good method because you want to be an elite, but let students think that I should use this method, so as to help me make progress. Give another example of our class. At that time, in order to help our class make greater progress, we invented a "refining tank". What is "refining"? It means not talking all day and then talking to the teacher, which is similar to a closed state. At the same time, military training and physical training should be conducted in the morning and afternoon. Because students are lazy after a holiday, it is called "tempering" to help students find themselves again and control themselves in this way. At that time, all my students received military training, but they didn't think that military training was of great help to them, so when they heard that I might "temper them", they felt very resistant and unhappy and decided to argue with the teacher to the end. If you look at this matter with the thinking of ordinary people, you may keep telling students how good it is, so you must do it until these students have nothing to say. So, what did I do then? I didn't confront my students at first. I asked them to talk about their goals for this semester. Each of them has finished. For example, we want to beat the girl class. How difficult my thinking level is. After they finished speaking, I asked them what you think is the goal of our class. Then they said the goal of our class, and I told them, how do you think we can achieve it better? They talked about many methods. As a result, I told them what was wrong with these methods and what could not help them achieve their goals, which made them admire them very much and made them feel that what the teacher said was very reasonable. Finally, they really couldn't think of a way, so they took the initiative to ask the teacher and said, Teacher, what kind of method do you have? I am willing to listen to you! I will tell them my views on this way of "tempering" and clearly tell them why I want to do it, so that they will think that I really didn't expect it, the teacher said it really well, and I am willing to listen to what the teacher said, so during the "tempering" period, the students in our class have made breakthroughs in different degrees in about ten days. In the later stage, they won many classes of March girls because of their "sinking" foundation, which is the result of what they did and thought after believing what the teacher said.
When you hear this, you may wonder: What is the role of a teacher? The teacher's role is only to convey the quality and honor of the supreme spirit and give ideological guidance. Therefore, teachers are not oppressing students, not telling them that I am better than you, but influencing students with their own supremacy complex, so that students can also become supremacy complex. What is the supreme complex? When he has the supremacy complex, the student will have an independent personality, and he will study very hard all his life, which is equivalent to his self-study mentality and noble and independent personality and thoughts, so the supremacy complex is very important. Then, can the teacher tell the students that you must have the supreme complex, what will happen without the supreme plot? This is true, but it can't really touch the students' hearts, but it can subtly impress them through the teacher's behavior and language, and make them feel that we should have the supreme complex. The teacher is a person with great complex, and I want to learn from him. When I think like this, the teacher has succeeded, because he has taught the students the real. Take our class as an example. The boys in our class are all younger boys, but in fact they are all about three years younger than me, so it is more convenient to call them that. At that time, they had to compete with the big bosses, PK, so I took a report, probably about the recent situation of the big bosses. The overall situation is not ideal, and there are some lazy behaviors. I told them, I told you a good news, and then I showed a student the report. After reading it, all my students are very happy. They said, wow, our original opponent is so bad! I'm so happy. It's too easy to beat them. This is their initial idea. I told them, do you all have this idea? They said, yeah, any other ideas? I told them that if I saw this report, my thoughts were completely different from yours. What do I think? I think of two things: first, if I were in the same environment as big boys, could I do better than them? Why do you say that? Because these big boys are more free, their teachers don't care much, they have the internet, they can surf the internet at will, they have mobile phones and they are richer. Therefore, they are somewhat lax. The boys in our class are restricted by the rules, and the overall state is relatively compact. So I told them that when I saw this report, I didn't laugh at my opponent for being so bad, but thought, if I put myself in his shoes, could I do better than him? If I can't, it means I'm the same person as them. I shouldn't laugh at them I should strive to improve myself and change myself. This is the first point I told them. The second thing I told them was that you shouldn't be proud of having an opponent worse than you. I felt a strong sense of honor when I saw that the big boy had damaged the reputation of all the boys in the school. As a boy, I won't allow my compatriots to do these bad things. I must find a way to prove that we boys are also good, so I will redouble my efforts and let myself regain the honor of boys. These are two things I told them. As can be seen from these two points, in fact, the mind and vision are different. In my daily communication with them, I will subtly convey this kind of mind and vision to them. Let them know that in fact, their vision is relatively narrow, and they should have higher moral character, higher spirit and quality, instead of facing things with a very stingy attitude as before. Therefore, what teachers want to teach students is not knowledge, technology and skills, but the truly supreme complex and spirit. Only in this way can students become supreme students and have a more noble personality.
Fourth, many teachers may not like this, but it is really necessary for students to leave their teachers and remain excellent. What does this mean? At the beginning, you should teach your students well, straighten their mentality and teach them the supremacy complex. But in the later stage, when they really learn the supremacy complex, they must learn to separate from the teacher, that is, they can still maintain their Excellence and Excellence in the absence of the teacher. If students rely on the teacher's urging and urging to make progress all their lives, then both teachers and students have failed. Why? Because everything is done by force according to the rules, a really good teacher should let the students know how to get rid of the teacher and still reach the excellent level and still be excellent. Similarly, for a recent example, I will leave my students for a week or so recently, because I will come to Wuhan to share with you. In order to lay a good foundation for not falling in a week, I began to lay the foundation for this matter the week before, and I spent less and less time with them. For example, when I exercise early, I leave them alone. They organize themselves, and they organize themselves when writing articles. I only come to the classroom every day for about a week. So in this case, although I don't care much about them, they are still doing it in an orderly way and managing themselves better. In this case, they actually left the teacher, because the teacher just gave them some thoughts and they learned how to do things themselves. I left them this week. As far as I know, they are still excellent this week. During my absence, they will manage themselves, and the monitor will supervise and urge them. Let students learn the supreme complex. Only after the hegemonic complex is integrated into their bones will they do their own things well without supervision. Therefore, teachers should let students learn the supreme complex, let students grow up, and teachers should learn to let go.
After such teaching, our class has achieved good results in four months. Where are their changes mainly reflected? The first point is the motivation of learning. They used to be very playful and didn't study hard. Sometimes when the teacher tells them articles, they will be naughty and play with coins in private. At that time, they showed an unwillingness to study. I like chatting in my spare time and don't write articles seriously. However, four months later, they worked hard and worked hard. For example, in our class, we study in the morning, in the middle and at night. I got up at 5: 30 in the morning, slept for more than 1 hour, and slept at night 10:30. But many of them applied for three self-study exams at the same time, because they felt that we needed to work hard and make good progress. Secondly, when I don't assign homework (homework after class), they will take the initiative to ask me, teacher, what do you think I should do to improve my thinking, whether I can use this way or that way, and then I will tell them to choose the way that suits them. For example, if some students are narrow-minded, I will advise them to read Meditations, and write down their thoughts after reading them to broaden their minds. If a classmate doesn't think clearly enough, I will let him read Shan Chang's blog post to help him think better. So in this atmosphere, their thinking has achieved better results, which is the first point, the change of mentality.
The second point is the change of hegemonic complex. This change has two points. One thing is that they used to do things that were illegal and wrong in secret, and they were very United and sheltered each other. At that time, they were very United-United and shielded. When they were eating, they unconsciously ate a steamed cake and told me, teacher, we are going to turn ourselves in. We accidentally ate a steamed cake. Teacher, we are willing to accept punishment. Please punish the teacher. I asked them: Why did you suddenly turn yourself in? They told me that if they don't talk, if they continue to shield each other, they will be more like the old big boys, so they think we can't do this, we should do better than them, and we should have the supremacy complex, so they told me about it and let them take responsibility, which is a manifestation of the supremacy complex. Second, our class has been labeled as "pseudo-mother class" since I took over. Why is it called "pseudo-mother class"? Because the boys in our class are sloppy and enterprising, they are completely surpassed by the girls. Unlike men, calling them false mothers is false mothers. Because of the recent article competition with the Lions Group, the mountain leader said that our article was better written, and the mountain leader also said that we had a supreme complex, and our class was United, so we could get rid of the "pseudo-mother class" hat. At that time, I went to tell them cheerfully: Hey, we have dropped out of the "pseudo-mother class"! I thought the scene was that they would cheer. They struggled for four months and finally got rid of the "pseudo-mother class". As a result, their reaction was completely unexpected. They are very calm and collected. They said, Oh, we can get rid of the "pseudo-mother class", ok, and then they started to discuss and analyze together, saying that getting rid of the "pseudo-mother class" is good for them. Because they have no pressure and no common goals. Although we defeated the male lion group, we haven't defeated the female class yet. How can you be a real boy if you don't play girls' classes? So they decided to wear the "pseudo-mother class" hat. This is the only time that their reaction is beyond my expectation. In the past, their reactions were all expected by me, but this time it was completely beyond my imagination. At that time, I felt that their supremacy complex was really integrated into their bones, which was different from what I imagined. They didn't take off the "pseudo-mother class" hat according to their own emotions and face, but they still wore the "pseudo-mother class" hat for their own progress, which I admire for them.
Cohesion, this is the third point. Within the class, they are United, hardworking, self-motivated and enterprising, which is equivalent to a cohesive team. What are the main aspects? First of all, if one of them does something disgraceful, something bad, something that doesn't fit a boy's identity, then other boys will tell him that you have done such a disgraceful thing. Do you want us to hit you? Boys will say, I am willing or not. But usually they will agree, and if they agree, other boys in the class will say, well, we'll beat you up to make you take responsibility. Of course, being beaten is not a horrible beating. They usually itch. Why are you tickling? Because they feel that tickling is worse than pain, they usually tickle. This is their overall sense of honor. They think we are a class, and our class has no dishonor. If so, deal with him and tell him you can't do this. Second, they will criticize themselves internally and find problems with each other. Where is this performance? For example, if the person in front finds something wrong in the class, he will take the initiative to apply to me and say, teacher, we have written the speech. Please see if there are any problems. Should we make a speech in class? We should criticize this class well, so that our class can make progress. This is what they often do. In fact, this class can continue to grow with or without me. After these four months, they have learned self-motivation, self-control and supremacy, so they can make progress with or without me in these four months, which is the most important change in our class. However, in the past, if there was no teacher, they would completely indulge themselves, and if there was a teacher, they would be naughty. Now, without a teacher, they can still do well.
Because these three changes in their hearts also have great changes in their external effects. First, their thinking improved rapidly, and they defeated the lion group in this competition. In the past, there was a great difference between girls and them. Girls are much better than them, because they used to dance too much and were naughty. Girls are obedient and willing to listen to teachers, and their thinking lags behind girls. After four months, their thinking level is almost the same as that of the girls' class, and so is their thinking level. Of course, girls' classes are still better than them at present, but there is no big difference on the whole. Secondly, they have become one of the most cohesive classes in the school and are respected by teachers and classmates. In the past, they were the most despised class because they did many disgraceful things themselves, but now they have become one of the most respected classes. Third, students support teachers in advance. When we, as teachers, truly respect the students, really help them, let them gain the power of progress and find new strength, although he may no longer need this teacher, he will be very grateful to this teacher and will also support this teacher very much. For example, my classmates told me at that time, Miss Liu, can you attend the summer camp? Then I told them that according to the regulations of the school, the head teacher can't attend the summer camp. They said, well, if you can't bring a summer camp, can you open a summer camp outside by yourself, so that we won't go to the school summer camp, and we will come to your summer camp, okay? Then we told them, I'm sorry, I really don't want to do it. In the meantime, I told them I didn't have to take you. Even if I don't take you, you can make great progress yourself as long as you study the teacher's things seriously. Later, it made sense for them to think about it, and they accepted my advice to them. This is when teachers really give students strength, students will support teachers as never before.
Finally, it is a summary. After sharing so much through me, you can actually see that the most fundamental and core thing is a truly selfless heart for students. When we have this heart, everything we do conforms to the principles of new education. When we really have this heart, even the universe will help us. For example, when I was in class, many ideas were ideas that the teacher had never used before. They are all my own ideas, I came up with them. Why do I think of them? Usually this kind of inspiration comes suddenly, and then you do it yourself, and the result is correct. So when we really have such a heart, even the universe will help us. I also wish all teachers who do education have the same heart. Thank you!