A question raised by a group of friends in college-"What basic qualities and abilities should a child have during college?" . We had a discussion in the group last Thursday. I will simply sort out and supplement it according to my own speech ideas, as a little contribution to the January essay writing of the "children in college" circle. This is called one draft and two votes, giving consideration to circles and groups, killing two birds with one stone, why not? According to the brief history of friends circle and Raymond's suggestion, I will slightly modify the topic-"What basic qualities and abilities should children pay attention to during college?" Entering the university is the first stage in a child's life when he really leaves his parents for independence, and it is also the period when his world outlook and outlook on life tend to be mature and perfect. I think children should pay attention to the cultivation of the following basic qualities and abilities and shape a perfect personality during their college years. First, learn to deal with interpersonal relationships. After entering the university, the first thing I face is the relationship between classmates. Especially roommate relationship, after all, you have to live under the same roof for four years. A harmonious and civilized dormitory environment and a positive atmosphere of mutual help and friendship play a vital role in your successful completion of your studies. Students should be tolerant and considerate when getting along with each other. For example, when others affect their rest, as long as they are not intentional, they have to work hard to adapt themselves. Don't let the environment adapt to yourself, let yourself adapt to the environment. During my freshman year, I will participate in club activities as much as possible, improve my interpersonal skills and organizational and coordination skills, and pay attention to the cultivation of team consciousness and cooperation ability. Not only among classmates, but also with teachers and seniors, learning from others' study and work experience. You can also use holidays to increase your social experience and make yourself more mature through social practice. If college students want to succeed, they must accumulate their own interpersonal relationships, make new friends, especially those excellent students, and establish good interpersonal relationships, which will help them succeed smoothly in the future. Second, learning to manage time is one of the basic qualities of college students. Good habits are a kind of personal competitiveness. Some students are very organized. When you wake up in the morning, you should first think about what to do today, what to do first, what to do later, and how much time to allocate, especially at the end of the term or in the review stage of postgraduate entrance examination. Therefore, the planning of learning is very important. The most elementary method of time management is to take notes with you with a notepad or something like that. Advanced time management methods pay more attention to planning, and use electronic means such as schedules to arrange their own affairs; A higher level of time management means is to set short-term, medium-term and long-term goals, allocate the task progress of each period according to different goals, set reminders with software or mobile phones, and supervise whether you finish the plan on time. In college, we often see that students who can manage time don't study so hard, don't delay entertainment and get good grades. Timing and efficiency are the most critical. Maybe they know the best time of day to learn English, spend a lot of time studying specialized courses, or cross-study several courses is more efficient? I think that if college students manage their time well, they can improve their work efficiency, and they won't be like headless flies shouting "Busy to death" all day and thinking back that they haven't done anything important. If you plan to take an interdisciplinary exam, you should allocate the study time of the first and second majors in your sophomore year, so don't lose sight of one thing and lose sight of another. Third, learn to plan your life. During your child's freshman year, you should be clear about your goal, whether it is postgraduate entrance examination, going abroad or direct employment. You should plan your life and career as soon as possible according to your interests, specialties, personality and family economic situation. Regardless of postgraduate entrance examination, going abroad, and employment, we must do what we can. Once a goal is set, we should make every effort for it, and have perseverance and a sense of responsibility, which is also one of the basic qualities that college students should have. For example, students who plan to take the postgraduate entrance examination in their senior year should focus on laying the foundation of public courses such as English and mathematics in their freshman and sophomore year, so as to avoid being at a loss when they are busy with professional courses in their junior year. This is a fact. You can also use CET-4 and CET-6, computer grade certificate and qualification certificate to give yourself appropriate pressure and motivation, thus enriching your college life. If you plan to go abroad for postgraduate study after graduation, you have to prepare TOEFL, IELTS and GRE from the second year of high school. Parents should also pay attention to study abroad policies and information. Teacher Walker of the group "Children in University" said-in children's life planning, "What role should we play as parents is that we should think, not just make demands on our children. My experience is as anxious as everyone else. I can't wait for the children to become CEOs and CFOs tomorrow. " Yes, let the children choose their own path. What we can do is to guide and grasp the general direction. Let the child fly as far as possible, as long as he doesn't become a UFO, he can't catch it if he wants to. I believe that affection is an invisible silk thread, and home is always the warmest harbor for children. Fourth, learn self-control and self-restraint. College students can no longer let teachers lead them by the nose like middle school students, but should cultivate the ability of autonomous learning. Many freshmen and sophomores are confused and seem to be wandering around. In their junior year, they suddenly sighed: "How time flies so fast!" Therefore, college students should pay attention to the cultivation of self-control at ordinary times, and don't feel psychologically unbalanced when they see others soaking online all day. They should resist temptation and not blindly follow and be lazy. Many students wait until the exam to find that there are so many books to read, and they are going crazy before the exam! It's no use relying on surprises or staying up late. I believe in one sentence-most students who hang up the internet every day will fail at the end of the term. Think about it, who will hang up if you don't hang up? Many students who failed have long been used to it, and since then they have broken pots and broken falls. I met a junior who failed at least three subjects each semester, so he had to retake the exam. He often sleeps in Internet cafes or dormitories during the day and hardly listens to any classes. In the words of his classmates, it is enough for me to do experiments and write a few reports. He only asked for 600 minutes, long live. Hey! Can parents face such children without headaches? Five, other basic qualities of speech ability. Actively use opportunities such as community activities to exercise your eloquence, and don't get stage fright in public. Seeing that many freshmen are nervous and trembling when running clubs or answering questions in class, it is good to experience it several times more. During college, we should seize this rare opportunity and dare to challenge ourselves. Confident. Have confidence in your work and learn to sell yourself. For example, how to establish self-confidence when applying for a job, boldly show your strengths, and let the examiner sit up and take notice of you. Financial management ability. When it comes to financial management, some children are used to the easy way of spending money, and they can't even control their living expenses. Without planning, it is hard to say what great things can be achieved. If children suddenly become extravagant in spending money and always ask their parents for money, parents should pay attention. They should ask about the cost and use. If they are studying, they should give their full support. If you are hitting on a girlfriend or have a bad hobby, you should control it in time. Also, letting children work or part-time during holidays and experience the hardships of labor will also help children learn to manage money, which is also the basic quality of survival. Shi's short comment on children in the Manager of University Circle (Sunday) deserves our consideration-the comprehensive quality during college is the basic skill to survive after giving up all knowledge. In short, college students should pay attention to the cultivation of communication ability, learning ability, processing ability and adaptability to the environment, as well as the training of psychological adjustment and anti-frustration ability. Exercise well at ordinary times to ensure that you have enough energy to cope with heavy learning tasks. We should pay attention to the overall improvement of our own quality, strengthen personal cultivation and behavior norms, and constantly improve our learning ability, practical ability and innovation ability. Strive to become a "senior professional with professional knowledge, ideals and morality".