Yu Fang dictated:
Jianghan and I have been married 12 years. Since I had a child, he has made some affairs from time to time. At that time, I kept thinking about my young son. Now, my husband has a relationship with another woman inexplicably, which has forced me to have no way out. When I tried to convince him that there was no turning point, I decided not to be wronged any more, and the family that could have been happy was facing disintegration.
In those days, people argued that he would never get married.
At the age of 23, I entered a public institution and met Jianghan. Because my arrival immediately became the news in the unit, "there is a beautiful female college student in the administrative department." Rumors are easy to be embellished. For a time, I was said to be a flower, but under the circumstances at that time, I was worthy of a "dazzling" supervisor's words, telling the recent changes in the administrative department. "In the past, only one or two people came to collect office supplies every week. After you came, there was more than one." Jianghan is one of them. He is good at hitting on people, and it didn't take him long to pursue me.
Jianghan also graduated from junior college. He came here through the civil service exam. He looks average, but he works hard, but his family is poor. My mother is very disapproving of our association. My mother is not the kind of woman who takes money seriously, but she is disgusted with Jianghan's dishonesty and bragging. My mother has worked in the organization department for many years and has read countless people. She has a natural way of judging a person. At that time, her mother's appraisal opinion to Jianghan was that her heart was higher than the sky, but she lacked down-to-earth spirit and was too self-centered. The first meeting between Jianghan and my mother also left a bad impression on my mother. "Jianghan doesn't know how to respect others. Such a man is not reliable." Clearly put forward opposition to our contacts, and claimed that if I insisted on following Jianghan, I would not recognize my daughter.
I had long recognized Jianghan in my heart, so I took out my household registration book from home and registered my marriage with Jianghan at the Civil Affairs Bureau, regardless of my mother's objection. My family objected, but I married him anyway.
Jianghan has no house. I live with him in a rented house. My mother loves me dearly and will pay my rent every month. During that time, our lives were very tight. In order to be cheap, I buy food every day. I always go when the food market is closed. In order to change our living conditions, Jianghan will also have people on duty on holidays, because those days are double wages.
He has some prospects, but he has moved his mind.
Speaking of seniority in public institutions, Jianghan has been here for six years and finally got a chief clerk. Everyone knows that the chief clerk is not a leader, but he said at a family dinner, "Don't treat bean curd as improper food." Mom said sarcastically, "Look, who here is not higher than your position?" What are you ashamed of? " However, it was not long before Jianghan became the chief clerk, and he took great pains.
When my son was about 2 years old, the landlord came to Jianghan and said that her daughter had not been admitted to the university and did not want to repeat it. She wants to find a job as soon as possible and ask Jianghan for help. Jianghan readily agreed and asked his daughter to come and talk to him face to face. Without saying anything, the girl scolded "smelly rascal" and ran out of the door, burying her face in it. I asked Jianghan, "What's the matter?"
"Nothing, I just think she looks watery. If she wipes her face, she will be anxious."
"The somebody else a little girl, why want to touch the somebody else's face? Don't say that people scold you, even if you are beaten, you deserve it! "
"Why are your arms and elbows turned out?" The landlord cancelled our lease contract because of this. Later, the matter went away, but less than a year later, I received a phone call from the police station saying that my husband had a little problem. Only when I went did I know that Jianghan was arrested by the police for whoring. I cried and paid a fine of 3000 yuan to take Jiang Tong home. But Jianghan, who came home, also argued that he was involved in finding a young lady for a unit leader, but I didn't believe it at all. He calmed the storm and went on with his life calmly. Although rumors kept reaching my ears, and even I received a phone call from a strange girl, I was too busy taking care of my young son to pay attention to these things. Occasionally asked about him, Jianghan always said that he needed to work, but also for his own career.
Make things worse and then cheat again.
I thought Jianghan would become more practical with age. I didn't expect to learn that he had an affair after May Day this year. A good friend met Jianghan at work in a hotel and found that Jianghan had booked a room for three days. I lied that I was in a hurry and asked the hotel attendant to dial Jianghan's room number. The phone was connected and a girl answered it. The other party only gave me one hello. I'm not familiar with this man. "My husband is not convenient to answer the phone in the bathroom. You can tell me something. " "I'll call again later." I didn't leave the hotel. It's usually dinner time. Sure enough, Jianghan was stopped by me when a girl walked arm in arm to the canteen. Jianghan saw me and said in panic, "Why are you here? Water under the bridge.
Faced with such an unbearable truth, what can I do except heartache? At this time, I was completely disappointed. In an instant, the couple's feelings are as light as water. I drafted a divorce agreement, but Jiang Tong refused to sign it. Actually, I'm just asking for a psychological comfort. As Jianghan was "returned to his original shape", his affair was widely circulated. It suddenly occurred to me that the man who shook my hand for nearly 12 years turned out to be a slut. Not long ago, Jiang Han was invited to the police station again, but this time the police did not let him take it home, but showed me the notice of public security detention.
After my husband's accident, I didn't make a fuss because I knew there was water under the bridge. I didn't mention divorce either, because I didn't want to rub salt in his wound, including not wanting the child to become a single parent. But the day before yesterday, my son ran home crying and said, "Mom, they (little friends) don't play with me, and they also call my father a smelly rascal." The child was influenced by her husband's corrupt style. I don't want to hesitate to propose a divorce from my husband. Although there are still some entanglements, I finally made up my mind.
Random evaluation:
As a friend of Yu Fang for so many years, I naturally understand her feelings at this time. She paid too much for him (Jianghan) Yu Fang, and turned against her family, fearing that she would be accused of not sharing weal and woe with her husband. I am afraid that my children will live in a single-parent family; Maybe all this can only barely maintain this family. But Yu Fang should know better than anyone at this time. Is this person worth worrying about? People should at least have self-control when they are alive. If they don't do this, they will pay a heavy price for their indulgence.
As an adult man, Yu Fang's husband often makes these troubles. He didn't think about the consequences? I think he must have thought about the consequences, but he was lucky enough to overcome his reason.
Maybe I will make Yu Fang think twice, but I want to say, "You (Yu Fang) don't have to pay for your husband's romance!"
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