First, change the way of learning and learn to study independently. It is said that "it is easy to get into college", but it is not. A good university not only has a high entrance threshold, but also has a high threshold for going abroad. But there is no teacher in the university to supervise you. In addition to attending classes, all subjects need a lot of reading, practice and experiments, all of which depend on self-discipline. In senior high school, the learning methods based on rote memorization and supplemented by practice must also be upgraded, and the ability to understand, question and verify should be put in the first place in order to achieve ideal results.
Second, life management and interpersonal relationship management. In college, most students will leave their parents and hometown and come to a strange city. Children who have lost their dependence must learn to stand on their own feet, plan their own time, manage their own lives and deal with all kinds of trivial matters. This is the most difficult challenge for every freshman, but it is also the necessary stage to realize their personality growth and independence. In addition, when we start collective life, it is inevitable that we will have conflicts with our roommates and neighbors. How to deal with conflicts? It determines your interpersonal relationship, and then determines the quality of your four-year life and study.
Third, overcome loneliness and fear. Wandering alone, loneliness and fear are two enemies. In early adulthood, our development task was to overcome loneliness, so we began to fall in love and seek emotional comfort. Even "not falling in love" has been regarded as the label of an incomplete university. But I want to say that feelings need to be taken seriously, paid, responsible, concerned and supported. It's not something to play with. If you can't devote yourself wholeheartedly and be serious, then read more books instead of harming others.
Fourth, don't trust others. University is a small society. It's not as simple as it was in high school. Never underestimate the malice of the world. There are many reports on the internet that universities deliberately spread AIDS, pyramid schemes, robberies and intentional injuries, all of which are real. Protecting yourself is the first and most basic ability.
That's all I can think of at present I wish you a happy college life and meet more beautiful things ~
Study hard and dare to fight for opportunities.
A Psychological Responder @ KINOMOTO SAKURA
Accept imperfection and face uncertainty.
It's not a lie, just share some experiences and lessons I learned in college ~
① The evaluation criteria of universities are not unique, but learning is very important.
There are many ways to enrich your college life, such as student work, clubs, scientific research, competitions, entrepreneurship and so on. You can actively participate in various activities and invest a lot of time and energy, but please don't neglect your study.
It doesn't matter if you don't get good grades, but you must not fail.
Because to be honest, it is not a very simple thing to fail in college if you don't meet an extremely strict teacher (because there are usually points (that is, the relationship between teachers and students)). Failure in course records often means that learning attitude is not correct.
Go to class with a curiosity, and you will find that professional courses that look difficult are actually very interesting.
The secret of staying in class in college is: curiosity notes.
In class, I don't have to consider the difficulty of the course/the exam/the score given by the teacher. I just go to class with the idea of "I can learn something new today" and take some notes.
Although the original intention of taking notes at first was to stay focused, I even recorded some words that the teacher said were irrelevant to the course but I thought were good. However, the final exam is coming, and I often find that these notes are treasures.
3 Make yourself more natural in interpersonal relationships. Many times, it is good to keep a friendship between gentlemen as light as water.
College is different from high school. It seems that everyone has suddenly liberated their nature, so you will see many different people. Don't try to please anyone, don't embarrass anyone, just be yourself more naturally, and like-minded people will naturally attract each other.
Of course, if you use a more "psychological" language, it is probably "the reason why you are now is because of you in the past. You haven't experienced what others have experienced, so it's best not to judge others easily by your own standards.
Don't be reserved, be brave in fighting for opportunities and challenges.
University is a broader platform. Whether it is the opportunity to speak or to participate in competitions/awards, you need to sign up on your own initiative, instead of having a teacher put the opportunity in your hand like a middle school. Maybe you can't adapt to this rhythm at first, but don't wait until the opportunity disappears to regret it.
If you lose the election/don't do well enough, you may be lost, but you will become better because of it; However, once you miss it, it's hard to make up for it ~
I wish the landlord a happy and smooth university life ~