When you speak, you should be sincere, natural and generous, with kind tone and generous expression. When talking, both sides should face each other squarely, listen to each other, pay attention, don't look around or do other things at the same time, and don't do some unnecessary small moves, such as playing with nails, skirts, scratching your scalp, etc. This is not only rude, but also makes them look obscene.
It is also impolite to yawn, stretch, or turn your eyes and attention to the other person without waiting for others to finish.
Pay attention to the other person's conversation and let the other person finish with patient and encouraging eyes. You should use words such as "Oh", "Well" and "Really" from time to time to arouse the other person's interest in speaking. Don't interrupt or cut in when the other person is talking. It is impolite to interrupt and grab words in the middle, regardless of the attitude of the other party or the content of the conversation. If the interruption goes against the original intention of the other party, or is irrelevant, it is obviously disrespectful and even ridiculous. If you really don't understand the other person, you need to interrupt. You must first ask the other person's permission, such as "Please wait a moment, let me interrupt" and "Please allow me to ask a question?" "This can avoid letting the other party misunderstand that you look down on him or are impatient with him. It is impolite to draw a conclusion without understanding, and it is often impolite to express your opinions against the other party's original intention, which often leads to disputes and bad endings.
When talking with elders, teachers or superiors, we should pay attention to showing respect in an appropriate way, but we should maintain equality of personality, treat people equally and be approachable to subordinates, juniors and students. Pay attention to elegance when talking between men and women, and don't play too many jokes on unfamiliar opposite sex. Speaking and behaving in public should be civilized and elegant, and proper humor is icing on the cake, but if it is excessive, it will become glib and you can't laugh and laugh loudly like no one's watching. Once people have the impression that "this is a glib guy", it is very bad.
If you are talking to several people at the same time, you should make overall plans, don't just stare at one or two people you are interested in, take care of everyone present, and it is impolite to ignore anyone. When listening to others, we should not only pay attention to the speaker, but also take care of others properly, exchange eyes and inspire people who don't like to talk and let them talk. Don't ask questions when you are inspired, it will be more difficult to speak. Use some easy-to-talk topics, such as: "Remember the last time we met in the park? It was very interesting. In this case, the other party will go on smoothly. On the contrary, if this inspired us, we met in Xiangshan last month, didn't we? " So what can he say except "yes"?
In case of disagreement, keep calm, or laugh it off, or avoid the topic. If something must be made clear, it should generally be made clear in a euphemistic or negotiated tone after affirming the correct part of the other party's point of view or finding objective reasons for the other party. Don't just say "you don't understand" or "you don't know". If the other person is a grumpy person, it will definitely be the fuse, even if it is not, it will make people unhappy.
Generally speaking, men should not talk in women's circles, nor should they talk to women for a long time or whisper to each other to cause others to look askance.
Don't talk insolently and argue irrationally, don't say absurd and sensational words, don't make small broadcasts as "insiders", don't expose people's shortcomings, don't talk about people's privacy, and don't talk about people's right and wrong behind their backs, which is even more annoying.