So, if you need a counselor, great! But the question is, will you find a counselor? This is also learned.

Counselors are not your parents, let alone your nanny, so you must learn how to find counselors!

What can I do for the counselor? Don't ask a counselor for anything. When to find a psychological counselor? How to find a psychological counselor? What is the procedure for finding a psychological counselor? What should I do after I find a psychological counselor? It seems a simple thing, but it is also an ability, a basic ability for college students to survive and be respected. College students, to cultivate this basic ability, look at the following list.

Don't say that the country clearly defines counselors as teachers and cadres, but you have to understand that the most basic thing is that counselors are people first, and everyone has basic needs, such as safety needs, rest needs and respect needs ... think about you, think about your basic needs, and then change places. Please respect the most basic needs of counselors.

At least in the work scene, address identity, not occupation. Please call Miss Wan, Miss Hu, Miss Li, Miss Wu and Miss Ma. Be intimate and shout ten thousand knives, tiger knives, Li knives, martial knives, sabre and so on. That's acceptable. But please don't call counselors by their first names, and don't complain about counselors, Hu counselors, Li counselors, Wu counselors and Ma counselors.

When you see a counselor or ask a counselor to do something, please open your mouth and say "hello, teacher!" " "Be specific, instead of standing there like a man who owes you three catties of rice. When you are finished, please open your mouth again and say "thank you!" " "Don't take everything for granted. You know, counselors don't owe you anything except their duties.

Counselors' responsibilities, status and status determine that counselors are basically "keeping their eyes open and busy turning off the lights", and their mobile phones are on standby 24 hours a day, not to mention counselors have their own families. If it's not a matter of life and death, please try to find a counselor to handle things well during office hours, especially after 12:00 to 2:00 noon and1/in the evening. Don't bother the counselor with trivial matters.

Printing a little information is not a matter of money at all! Counselors need to deal with a lot of things, not to open a printing and copying shop. If Zhang San comes to print in the future, Li Si will print ... the counselor can hardly do anything. There are many printing and copying shops in the school. Would you please walk a few more steps and spend a few cents to print it yourself?

It's not a matter of a few pens or pieces of paper. Sharp tools make good work. As students, paper and pens should be carried with you. The work space of counselors is limited. You borrowed the counselor's office space and office equipment, which was convenient for you, but delayed the counselor's work. In the dormitory and classroom, you can fill in whatever you want, write whatever you want, and then go to the counselor, okay?

Where is the Academic Affairs Office, where is the Student Affairs Office, where is the No.3 Teaching Building, and where is the school hospital ... Although the counselor knows the size of the school and can tell you, you have your own mouth, your own legs, your own hands, and your own classmates and friends. You can solve the problem by checking online, asking classmates, asking brothers and sisters and visiting the campus with your heart. Students, please don't form the bad habit of asking questions with your mouth open in the future, ok?

Go to the hospital if you are sick! If you can go to the hospital yourself, please go to the hospital yourself; It's inconvenient for you at once. You are a member of the group, and your roommates and classmates can help. In case of emergency, you can call the campus phone 1 10, or directly call 120. It is important to go to the hospital for help first. Don't expect a counselor to carry you, take you, accompany you to the hospital and give you money. Especially in the middle of the night, the counselor came to live outside, and the daylily was cold; Taking you to the hospital, overnight, a day is ruined; There is no place to reimburse the gas money of the car.

What to buy, whether to buy it or not, and where to buy it are all your own business. What's more, there are disciplinary regulations that prohibit teachers from selling or forcing students to buy goods. When you encounter such a thing, please ask for help from the omnipotent network, your classmates, friends, brothers and sisters, and your parents. Counselors are not only tax-free, but also inconvenient because of their positions. So students, please don't dig holes for counselors under such circumstances, and don't embarrass them.

I don't know when contemporary college students formed such bad habits. Please listen carefully, watch carefully and ask your classmates. If you are not clear, you can ask the counselor. If you should listen, watch and ask, please stop asking the counselor. Every grade has a QQ group. If you can understand the historical news, please don't ask the counselor again.

Time is life. When it comes to major safety, students, please don't distinguish between time, place and occasion, and report to the counselor immediately.

Take a step back and broaden the horizon. If you encounter contradictions and disputes, please take a step back first and resolve things in the bud. Be a good person, do your work well, and don't make trouble for yourself in vain. But unfortunately, if you don't provoke others, others will provoke you. Please report to the counselor at any node before, during and after the accident!

Life is meaningless, and the meaning of life lies in the meaning we should try to give it. It is normal to explore the meaning of life. But when you, or you find that your classmates, can't think clearly about the meaning of life, or even have thoughts or signs of ending life, please don't distinguish between time, place and occasion, and report to the counselor immediately. After all, life is only once for everyone.

If you find that your classmates and roommates don't come to class for no reason, or haven't returned to the dormitory at night 1 1, please try to contact your classmates by phone, WeChat and QQ to find out the reason and the current situation. If contacted, report the situation to the counselor after a little delay; If you can't get in touch, please report to the counselor immediately.

Whether you have a dispute with others or are cheated, such as getting caught in a campus loan or being cheated into pyramid schemes, do everything possible to tell the counselor as soon as possible, and the counselor will coordinate the strength of the whole hospital or even the whole school, and the school will also coordinate the strength of the whole society to save you and protect you.

In case of fire, car accident, sudden syncope, etc. Remember to call the police as soon as possible and please report to your counselor as soon as possible. At this time, the counselor is your backing. It is your main responsibility, and the counselor will guide you to understand it correctly, make up for it in time, and strive for a lighter treatment; This is not your responsibility. Psychological counselors can help you better defend your rights.

For students from poor families, the state and schools have a perfect financial aid system. If you encounter financial difficulties and even affect your food and clothing, please don't have any scruples and report to the psychological counselor as soon as possible. The counselor will definitely help you apply for a grant to tide over the temporary difficulties.

Obeying the law and discipline is the basic obligation of every college student. But if you are confused for a moment, or lucky enough to commit a crime, such as being caught cheating in an exam, being illegally detained, or hitting someone ... tell the counselor as soon as possible, and the counselor will try his best to help you make up for it and deal with it lightly.

China's universities are socialist, and political mistakes are directional mistakes. If you or your classmates have joined a religion or cult, illegally participated in a series of demonstrations or participated in terrorist activities, please report to the counselor as soon as possible even if there is no conclusive evidence, so as to prevent you or your classmates from going further and further on the wrong road.

Do you want to join the party, minor in it, take the postgraduate entrance examination, exchange, and choose student cadres? There are no standard answers to these questions. Confusion is normal, and it is also appropriate to find a psychological counselor. However, before looking for a counselor, please ask yourself a few questions: What is my foundation? Am I qualified? What are the important benefits? What's the good of not wanting it? What would I do if I had to? If not, what should I do? What's the problem I haven't figured out yet? List these first, and the counselor can only give you reference advice.

I don't know when it started, "Thank my roommate for not killing" became a buzzword. The biggest interpersonal obstacle for college students seems to be dormitory relationship. If you can't handle interpersonal relationships well, you can find a psychological counselor. However, please ask yourself first: where is the crux of handling bad relationships? Did I do something wrong or not do it well enough? What efforts have I made? What attitude can I change to deal with it? Can escape solve the problem? There are many reasons and methods to deal with interpersonal relationships, but counselors can't replace you.

Safeguarding one's legitimate rights and interests should be encouraged; Counselors also have the obligation to help students safeguard their legitimate rights and interests. However, before looking for a counselor, let's talk about it first: what is the institutional basis for responding to complaints? What is the specific content of infringing your legitimate rights and interests? What evidence do you have? Is it within the legal validity period of responding to complaints? Can you change the result after reflecting the complaint? Counselors will take all complaints seriously, but don't be unreasonable.

If it is difficult to find a counselor, borrowing money is of course one of them, but the counselor is not a bank and can't afford the impact of bad debts. If you want to borrow money from a counselor, please think about several questions first: Why do you want to borrow money? If you just don't want your parents to know, or don't want to trouble your parents, please don't borrow money from a counselor. Did borrowing money from the counselor fundamentally solve the problem? How can I repay the money to the counselor? When will you pay back the money? How to ensure that you can pay back the money on time and in quantity? What kind of influence will borrowing money bring to yourself?

The world outside is very big and wonderful. Come to a feat of saying go, but the reality is also cruel. What awaits you is discipline.

Regarding leave, counselors hate it most. One is to act first, and the other is to find wonderful reasons.

Asking for leave in advance is a basic respect; You are heartless, you can ignore the school rules and strike first; Don't blame the counselor for being meaningless, and deal with it seriously according to the rules and regulations of the school. Fiona Fang can't be made by rules. Even if it is a warning, counselors must deal with it. If it is particularly urgent, you should also try to ask for leave orally, by phone, SMS, WeChat and QQ at the first time.

Counselors don't want to embarrass any students, but try their best to help them. If you ask for leave and the counselor doesn't approve it, you will definitely be given reasons for not approving it. If you are not satisfied, you can further try to convince the counselor. Not yet, you can also go to the deputy secretary and secretary of the college, or the student affairs office, scientific research office, or even the principal and secretary of the school. If you persist in your efforts, you will have to wait for the school rules. Even if there are thousands of reasons, improper procedures, and contempt for school-level school rules, you are very uncomfortable.

"Teacher, I'll ask for leave first!" Don't say why or when, let the teacher guess. You hold your head high, open your mouth and say, "Teacher, I'll make up the sound …" "Teacher, I'll write a note …" "Teacher, I've already bought the ticket …" Why did the teacher accept your order? Please remember that everyone has the instinct of self-defense and resistance, and a bad first impression will often affect the overall situation behind. Perhaps, the counselor doesn't care about you, but it doesn't mean that the counselor has no opinion of you. If you form a habit and step into society, you will inevitably be rejected.

Mona Lisa's smile is mysterious, but in reality, many students' reasons for taking time off are more mysterious than that smile. Before the holiday, the teacher can understand but generally won't approve. You have to make up some reasons, such as your illness and your family's illness. Isn't this cursing yourself and your family? Who did I promise ... I'm afraid I won't go to the meeting ... Who do you think you are, the world won't turn without you? Whenever you take a vacation, there are many wonderful reasons. You think the counselor wants to stay in the last shift alone, so there's nothing he can do. Please don't underestimate the IQ of the counselor, okay? Responsibility, the counselor can only say, if I let you go, I will lose.

Communication is actually very simple. First of all, you should respect people. Second, try not to cause trouble to others. Asking for leave is not a constraint or restriction on students, but to help students prepare for normal participation in social life. Respect for others means respect for yourself. We should learn not to be self-centered, but to have empathy and feel the feelings of others or each other. If you don't bother, you must learn to standardize and review the basic structure of the leave procedure you learned in primary school: (1) Write a topic in the center; (2) the respectful name of the person who asks for leave; (3) The reasons for leave should be clear and realistic; (4) Attach relevant supporting materials, such as cases and letters, when necessary; (five) the starting and ending time of vacation; (6) Emergency contact person and contact information; (7) Congratulations, please approve; (8) Signature of the person asking for leave; (9) Time of signing; (10) Attach the opinions of parents, tutors and other relevant people when necessary. Polite and restrained, pleasing to the eye, the counselor will understand at a glance, and will give you a thumbs-up for being sensible.