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Care about other people's comments

There is no perfect person in this world, and naturally there is no such thing as having both worlds. We should live what we like, not what others want, so we don't have to care too much about other people's comments, whether good or bad.

Fall into negativity

What is negativity? Look at things too pessimistically. Obviously, it is only a small matter, but it magnifies the result infinitely, associating with many things that have not happened or even will not happen, affecting your whole spirit and state.

Feel free to do it.

Clear self-positioning

The reason why we pay attention to other people's evaluation is because we lack a clear understanding of ourselves, but the evaluation in interpersonal relationships is often subjective. Know yourself, only in the social experience and knowledge growth, can we constantly explore ourselves and understand our strengths and weaknesses.

Accept the result

Once anything happens, immediately accept the result, stop unnecessary self-condemnation, tell yourself that "it has happened, and nothing you can do can change the fact", and then put what happened behind you and focus on the next thing.

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Overthink

As the saying goes, "life is unhappy, nine times out of ten." Since this is a normal state, it is good to "see the move and dismantle the move". Life is a ball of wool. If you smooth this out and entangle that, you will be more worried because of your thinking. It is better to eat well and sleep well every day.

Repetitive regret

The past will eventually become the past. Even if there are regrets, there is no need to regret. The date is advanced. Time itself exists to make regrets a thing of the past, so don't always chew out what has become a reality.

Feel free to do it.

Live in the present

To live in the present is to live today, have a good breakfast, wear warm clothes, work hard for eight hours, come home, do something that makes you happy, live every second of today, and deal with tomorrow by yourself, without worrying about the past or the future.

Forgive yourself.

It is also a virtue to be tolerant of yourself and others. If you separate yourself from self-blame, people's skin will heal and their hearts will heal. Only by learning to forgive yourself can you actively help others.

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Suppress emotions

People will be happy, and naturally there will be sadness, joy and anger. It is reasonable and normal for us to have negative emotions. Don't suppress yourself. Find a suitable outlet to vent. Why can't we cry? Can't yell? Can't talk? Actually, you can do anything.

Require perfection

We can constantly pursue near perfection, but we can't be perfect in everything, so don't be demanding. You know, everything is "extremes meet". Being positive is a perfect attitude towards life. Stop demanding, not only let yourself go, but also let others go

Feel free to do it.

Dispel emotions

The world itself has many uncertainties. Even if you have experienced setbacks, blows and pains, you should constantly repair yourself, protect yourself, comfort yourself, be a person who is not defeated by reality, pursue the sunshine in your heart, and run towards it step by step.

Accept the unknown

Don't be afraid of the unknown and don't be afraid of the unknown. Just like a clear stream, you may only catch a few small fish on the surface, but a bottomless lake may catch big fish. Everything has two sides, so think of the bright side.

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Persistent procrastination

Unfinished things will always stay in my mind, reminding myself from time to time that this is a very spiritual thing. It's like a puddle that hasn't been cleaned, occupying your vision and grabbing your mood.

cure the symptoms

Generosity is good, but we can't tolerate those who have no quality, or those who trample on your bottom line again and again. We should leave our beautiful selves to equally beautiful people, instead of letting those who push their luck trample on your precious kindness.

Feel free to do it.

If a generation is bad, it will be bad.

Whether it is work or life, it is time to make a decision. There is no need to hesitate. In fact, the result has surfaced in your mind. If things can't be done, they will be done in batches. If you can't make a decision, talk to someone to make your life clearer.

Dare to refuse

Being able to help others is an advantage of social interaction, but if you feel embarrassed or beyond your ability, you should dare to refuse. This is a long-term social way, just like one candle lighting another candle and glowing together. This is help.