In the spring of March, Shandong University, which is directly under the Ministry of Education, promulgated the Interim Provisions on Students' Marriage and Application for Childbearing before the national colleges and universities became popular. For the first time, in the form of school rules, it was issued that "male and female students who meet the legal marriage age can go through the marriage registration formalities in accordance with the national marriage registration regulations". Two months later, during the May Day holiday, Wang Yang, a female student of Tianjin Normal University, held a public wedding, which was witnessed by more than 30 media in China.
Whether it is the introduction of the management regulations that allow college students to get married or the similar hype "May Day Wedding Ceremony", it has completely different significance from the college love in any previous era. When writing this article "The Road of Love Changes of College Students in China in 50 Years", we were pleasantly surprised to find that the love wall once set up for college students collapsed unconsciously in the years, and the love on the university campus began to develop at an unprecedented speed. ...
In 1950s and 1960s:
The era of love and passion
Some people say that college students in the fifties and sixties were the most passionate and ideal young people, but they were also two generations lacking the nourishment of love.
Huang Yaoming, 195 1 was admitted to Dalian Maritime College and graduated from 1955. After more than 50 years, he has no romantic love memories of the university campus in this beautiful coastal city. According to the regulations at that time, all colleges and universities prohibited college students from falling in love, and even wrote the school rules of "No students falling in love, offenders dropping out of school" into the student code.
"No student in our class is in love, and I have never heard of such a thing at school." Huang Lao said that at that time, even if they were lying in the dormitory, their six hot-blooded boys would not talk about girls after dinner. "I don't want to have this' mouth addiction' because everyone thinks that we should not talk about topics related to love. Even if you look at "How Steel is Tempered", you don't talk about the scene of love. "
Although the quiet and elegant university campus can't breed much vigorous love in such a serious atmosphere, there are still congenial underground mandarin ducks. Zhang Yongchuan, dean of the School of Water Resources and Hydropower of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, had such a "lucky" experience.
The academician of China Academy of Engineering experienced love in the college campus in 1950s, but he could only take advantage of the opportunity of school group dance to be with his beloved girl. The frequency and closeness of his contact is the same as that of ordinary students, and he dare not cross the line, otherwise he will be expelled from school. In his view, love at that time was inspiring. He told reporters: "Because I have love in my heart, I feel that I have endless energy in my study." From 65438 to 0957, Zhang Yongchuan graduated from Huazhong Institute of Technology, majoring in hydropower. As soon as I got my diploma, I got a marriage certificate with my college classmates, which used to be a much-told story among my classmates.
In the interview, the reporter found that although dating was forbidden in universities in the 1950s and 1960s, there were still a few "underground mandarin ducks" in schools at that time, and their activities were highly confidential and unobtrusive. Many of them got married after graduation. This phenomenon called "alumni couple" or "classmate couple" was not uncommon at that time.
For the campus love of that era, many interviewees' understanding is that love is closely combined with their own desire for the construction of the motherland. Boys not only pursue the beauty of girls, but also value their "being red and expert" (that is, having correct political stance, noble thoughts and sentiments and mastering excellent professional knowledge). There is a popular love song in the 1960 s, which sings like this: "The river flows away happily, and I miss my beloved girl in my heart ... Your beautiful eyes radiate light and inspire me to go to the battlefield bravely!" "Battlefield" refers to frontier and wilderness. At that time, all college graduates had a loud slogan: "Go to the grassroots! To the frontier! Go where the motherland needs it most! "
This is beyond the comprehension of many contemporary college students: Why did college students in 1950s and 1960s have such passion and ideals? Why do they only have one ideal, that is, to go to the places where they are most needed in the motherland for construction? Why can they give up their love for this ideal?
During the period of * 10, the love of college students in China showed an absolute revolutionary rationalism. "Scar Literature" commented on this: The love of educated youth is either waiting to erupt or like an extinct volcano in depression.
In the 1980s and 1990s:
The era when romantic love began to recover.
If the love pursued by college students in China in 1950s and 1960s can only be regarded as a kind of attachment to serve the motherland, then after 1980s, this so-called moral constraint was destroyed, and college students began to pay attention to and express their pursuit of love, and their views on love changed greatly.
The contribution of reform and opening up to China people's love concept is first reflected in colleges and universities. In the years after 1978, the original love view of college students in China was changed by the love view from the west. After 10 years of culture *, many ideas and systems have been thawed, and various ideological trends have fought fiercely on the campus of colleges and universities. College students in the 1980s naturally became activists among them: they interpreted their ideals and created passion, among which they boldly pursued love. Some people say that the post-80s college students in China are the real "favored ones", and they have the best conditions to pursue love. In the 1980s, universities were characterized by a small number of students, and employers for students to choose from were everywhere except the country. Without worrying about the future, people who advocate "love first" frequently appear among college students in the 1980s. Especially in the middle and late 1980s, under the influence of Hong Kong and Taiwan literary works represented by Qiong Yao, college students gave up everything for love, and vigorous examples of loved one began to appear.
Sun Maolin, 1988, graduated from Shanghai Institute of Publishing and Printing. Even without a bachelor's degree, Sun Maolin was successfully assigned to a large literary publishing house in Shanghai. Sun admitted that he had been in love twice at school. Even now, Sun Maolin's love is still full of romance. "I will try to write a love letter and talk about my ideal at the beginning, but I will quietly express my love in the article. Although I can't say anything particularly disgusting, my praise for her is often expressed in words. " Sun Maolin told reporters that the school at that time also explicitly prohibited falling in love, so love letters could only be secretly placed in books and given to each other in the name of borrowing books. "Like real lovers, we will walk and sit in a small forest with few people. When we are happy, we will gently read Xu Zhimo's poems and enjoy simple and sweet love. "
It was also during that period that distribution became an obstacle to campus love. Sun Maolin told reporters: "At that time, the school was obviously opposed to love and could not tolerate the behavior of students falling in love. However, because these students have not acted excessively, they cannot be expelled publicly. At this time, distribution has become a natural and effective way to separate students. Many friends in love have worked hard because of the directional distribution of the country. This is a great regret in life. "
From the late 1990s to the early 20th century;
The experience era under the network speed.
Scholar Li Yinhe said: "The second watershed of China people's love appeared in the late 1990s and early 20th century." In fact, this sentence will be more appropriate as a portrayal of college students' love in China.
At the end of 1990s, the love of college students in China has undergone fundamental changes, in which the Internet undoubtedly played a key role. Some people think that the most spectacular result created by the internet tide in today's society should not be the occurrence and proliferation of one-night stands, but to help college students realize and enjoy love quickly. Some people have commented that the Internet is full of flesh. College students who grew up in this cultural environment naturally "liberated" their ears!
"I think the time when the network really entered the life of college students was 1998, and then its power increased year by year." Luo, who graduated from the Computer Department of Central China Normal University in 2002, still remembers surfing the Internet two years ago: "Internet cafes just started at 1998, and surfing the Internet is very expensive. At the beginning, there were only three computers per hour in 8 yuan, all of which were chain stores in Jinqiao, about the size of 40 computers. Because it is expensive, there are fewer people surfing the internet. Students who have no financial ability are not frequent customers of consumption. "
Gradually, the cost of surfing the Internet decreased, from 8 yuan to 4 yuan, 5 yuan, and then the number of three-hour 10 yuan cards increased. "After the price is cheap, there are more Internet cafes and the scale is gradually increasing. College students have gradually become the main source of tourists. "
It was also at this time that the iconic online novel "First Intimate Contact" with the theme of online dating began to spread on campus. This romantic online love novel, which was later made into a movie, influenced the way of college students' love with the magical speed of the internet.
Miss Wang, who graduated from Shanghai University of Finance and Economics with a score of 1999, still remembers the popularity of this novel at that time: "This book is about two college students who have never met each other through the Internet, and then a very sad love story is deduced." It was this online love story that touched all the college students at that time. 1999, 95% of the people sitting in internet cafes were college students. They began to talk with men and women behind the internet through QQ, dreaming that one day they could experience the magical love of the hero in their first intimate contact.
It was at this time that college students in China re-recognized the role of the Internet for the first time: it turned out that the Internet can not only watch news and look up information, but also chat, make friends and even fall in love. QQ began to take the place of love letters in the past, and immediately transmitted love letters to each other's computer screens through the Internet. A female college student who started online dating under the influence of this novel told reporters: "The protagonists in the book are all college students, and I am also a college student. Unconsciously, I think I should fall in love. "
For college students who used to fall in love with QQ in the late 1990s, the Internet began to change their views on sex. They believe that sex life and sexual experience are no longer the patent of husband and wife, and sex can also happen in love. According to a survey of Zhejiang University, 62% students agree that premarital sex is allowed as long as they are in love. 85% of students think that men and women who have already had sex don't have to get married. About 60% of the students surveyed are tolerant of homosexuality, and they think homosexuality should be allowed. More than 62% people think that cherishing chastity is a suppression of human nature. The era of asexual love among college students in China, which lasted for almost 30 years, is over. The conservative concept of sex, once strictly based on marriage, was abandoned by them. More and more college students begin to seek sexual behavior between lovers that can make them happy. Sexual knowledge and science have become the knowledge that college students are eager to know. From this, it is not difficult for us to understand why sexual descriptions are written into college textbooks, college students getting married and other news.
In the change of college students' love in China, more attention should be paid to the attitude of more bystanders in the education administrative department and even in colleges and universities. In addition to helplessness, after all kinds of reflection and criticism, they finally showed more elements and more objective tolerance than in the past. During the May Day period, the first real campus marriage entered the historical stage. ...