First, keep the thinking of "passing by"
Put yourself out of my short college life and look at it on the timeline of my whole life. These people are just the people you met during the four years. In that case, why bother with these "dormitory relationships" that affect your progress? Please always have a clear understanding of your life, know what your ultimate goal is to come to college, think about what you want and know what you should do. Never put the cart before the horse!
Second, don't expect or be disappointed.
You know, in fact, except your parents, no one will unconditionally accommodate you and always revolve around you. Others do this to you, and you do the same to others. So don't expect too much from "giving up friendship" at the beginning. The so-called "meeting is fate" sometimes becomes an excuse to move yourself to tolerate the other side without a bottom line, or an excuse for the other side to test your bottom line indefinitely.
A randomly distributed data may meet all kinds of people, who come from completely different living environments, ways of thinking, lifestyles and many other places. Tolerance is naturally better, and there is no need to insist on consistency if you don't get along.
Third, there is a sense of bottom line.
At the beginning, we should properly "lose our temper" and warn each other of our own principles. The "losing your temper" here does not mean looking for trouble, but letting the other party know in a reasonable way that you are not a soft persimmon and will not be the object of their arbitrary treatment.
Don't be afraid of quarreling, and don't be afraid that it will affect your relations. You have to understand that this relationship has long since ceased to exist when they started looking for you. People with real quality and pattern are not so petty and always find fault with others.
Fourth, don't make shallow remarks.
Avoid talking about your personal privacy or what you think is important. Avoid answering phone calls from family and friends in the dormitory, and talk about your family, personal thoughts and subjective evaluation.
Don't judge others when they complain in front of you. Just keep smiling and don't talk, and the other person will definitely stop talking. This is especially important, because there are only a few people going back and forth, and sometimes your evaluation will turn others into a sword that hurts you.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) "distinguish between public and private"
Pay attention to keep a clear distinction between private areas and public areas in the dormitory. Personally, pay attention to maintaining personal hygiene. Please be on duty when you are on duty. No matter what others do, just do what you should do. In case of bad living habits, try not to interfere too much, overcome it from your side, stay away from what you can't overcome, and stay away from it. Again, it is she who will not benefit from bad living habits in the end, and she can't stand selective neglect.
Sixth, pay attention to yourself.
Last but not least, turn your attention to yourself. What do you want to do in the future? What actions do you need to take to achieve this goal? How far are you from this goal?
This action is what you should do now: read more books, research, get scholarships, lose weight, listen to lectures, take part in competitions, participate in activities, get to know more people with the same goals as you, and see more scenery you have never seen before ... After four years in college, there are so many things you need to complete, so there is no time and mood to worry about these meaningless people and things.