No matter how expensive luxury you buy, how awesome your certificate is, how excellent your grades are, and how high your scholarship is, don't say anything without asking your roommate. If you ask, you should try to say that you are lucky. You have to believe that apart from your parents, there are really not many people in this world who want you to live better than her, and there will only be more jealousy and rejection.
Never study in the dormitory!
If you are not in top student dormitory, there will always be some people who dig at you secretly: "Wow, so-and-so works hard and studies in the dormitory every day, but why didn't she get the first place in the exam?" If you don't want to hear this, you'd better study in an empty classroom or library.
4. Don't make phone calls in the dormitory.
Don't think that you can do whatever you want just because your roommate doesn't understand you when you call in dialect, because you never know how many conversations your roommate can guess from what you understand intermittently and how many secrets you have.
5. It is really necessary to protect privacy, buy anti-voyeurism film and computer anti-voyeurism film. Some roommates just like to look at your mobile phone or computer screen, which is so annoying. If I tell her, if she doesn't change, I suggest buying a better peep-proof film. ...
6. accept that there is such a thing as a small group in the dormitory. There is no need to force who plays well with whom. If two or three other people have a good relationship, you don't need to be too sad. This is very common. Of the four dorms for girls in our class (there are six of us), two dorms are always walked by two people, 1 dorms are always walked by four people, 1 dorms are always walked by five people. So whether you are 1 or two people, three people are normal, just accept it, and there is no need to force anything like three views on personality.
1. Roommates are not friends.
Most of the time, you treat people sincerely and others are not sincere. Maybe you may be a roommate's courier porter, rice delivery worker, taxi payment worker, seat-occupying worker in class, librarian ... and a hammer of life. If you refuse to help once, you will be sarcastic behind your back. Why doesn't this man help me? Why did it change after a good start? 2. Mutual respect and understanding
Just went to college, no accommodation, no experience of collective life. I may need to run in all aspects.
For example, some people like to go to bed late, take a bath before going to bed, and play videos outside, while others like to be quiet, wear headphones and go to bed early. So we'd better discuss a specific time to turn off the lights, prepare a small desk lamp for those who go to bed late and an earplug for those who go to bed early, so that everyone can live in peace, while those who like to play outside can reduce the volume, or wear headphones, and those who like to go to bed early can also prepare eye masks and shading curtains.
3. Don't just be a good person.
This may be a bit repetitive with the first point, but I really want to say that having a good temper does not mean that you are the object of being bullied. So there must be strength in gentleness. Learn to answer different questions from different people with high emotional intelligence. When someone asks if you are here, you can say that you are busy. what can I do for you?
This may reduce some things that you feel troublesome. If you can do it conveniently, then help. If you need to waste time and energy and feel troublesome, then don't help.
The picture comes from the internet.
4. Learn to be patient and understand.
Don't let your sudden temper become the fuse of dormitory relationship. Everyone wants to live in peace, so communication is very important. Say what you have, don't keep it in your heart. This is the place where you have stayed the longest. If the adjustment is not good, four years will be very uncomfortable.
If you can't change other people's habits, try to accept them and don't take small things to heart. In this way, your heart will be much broader.
5. Share good things with everyone and remember your roommate's birthday.
Don't be stingy when buying food. Everyone lives together. If you share, you will find the food more delicious. It is actually a wonderful thing to remember my roommate's birthday and celebrate together. You don't need to buy any expensive gifts or special care. Let's get together, eat a cake and make a good wish. It's beautiful.
6. Don't have small groups
You can have close friends, but you can't have small groups. There are few people in the dormitory, and small groups always like to gossip behind people's backs, which is very bad. This habit is very bad, so keep your roots.
First, how to get along with others and integrate into the group. Let me give you my own example: There were six people in our dormitory when I was a freshman, and the head of the dormitory always liked to arrange "programs" for us. Playing cards, chasing Korean dramas, etc. In her words, after the intense high school life, college life is the enjoyment that God gives us. The other four expressed their support and approval. Therefore, I am also embarrassed to "stand out from the crowd" and slowly approach this group. I also play. I don't get along well with my dormitory in college, but I feel very uncomfortable and empty, because the purpose of my college is to study, not to waste time.
Secondly, I learned about the local customs and anecdotes, because everyone comes from all corners of the country and will share beautiful scenery and delicious food with each other. At the beginning of the new semester every year, it is the time for dormitory and food exhibitions all over the country. Now, I can't forget the taste of vinegar and ginger brought by my roommate in Jiangxi.
Third, we also learned to develop hobbies. For example, in our dormitory, some people sing very well, and we also fall in love with singing. Although singing is not beautiful, it can make us happy. Besides, some people like reading poems and dancing. Healthy, we will cultivate hobbies and improve ourselves.
University life is wonderful, and the relationship between university dormitories is not that bad. As long as you understand, you don't go to college for fun, not to fit in. But to learn, to realize their dreams, and then find their own group, has been moving towards the ideal.