Abstract: The phenomenon of cohabitation among college students is no longer strange. They got rid of the strict control of junior high school and senior high school and came to the university campus, thinking that they can do whatever they want when they are physically and mentally mature. In order to pursue the so-called true love or physiological needs, college students' interpersonal relationship, academic performance, family relationship and living expenses are all affected to some extent. The main solutions are: college students should establish a correct view of love; Parents should be the guiding lights for their children; Schools should boldly carry out the education of "gender view" and "virgin view", provide psychological counseling and take appropriate measures; At the same time, the society should also understand the cohabitation behavior of college students, so that college students can establish a correct view of marriage and love.

Keywords: college students; Cohabitation; Pregnancy; Education; Marriage view

With the rapid development of social economy, people's minds are gradually opening up, and young college students who are at the forefront of the times pursue freedom, which leads to many unmarried cohabitation phenomena. Among them, the phenomenon of college students living together is more serious. The management system of university campus is much looser than that of junior high school and senior high school, and the dormitory sleeping system does not exist, which gives those couples the opportunity to rent a small room outside, buy some small furniture and live a small life.

So how about college students living together? Why is this happening? What impact will this phenomenon bring to college students and why? Our country, guardian, what should we do ourselves?

Therefore, our group launched a series of surveys on the situation and practice of "college students living together".

I. Objectives and purposes of the survey

Respondents: college students (*** 170)

Investigation time: July 31-August 18.

Survey topic: How to treat college students' cohabitation?

Survey methods: questionnaire survey (quantitative analysis and qualitative analysis), interview and literature review.

Objective: The phenomenon of cohabitation among college students is increasing day by day, and college students should treat it correctly. ...

During the investigation, we also found that many people choose to live together in order to meet the requirements of one party and satisfy their sexual life. A considerable number of female college students have sex with their boyfriends because they are unwilling, unwilling or afraid to refuse their boyfriends' demands and express their loyalty to love in the form of personal commitment. This kind of cohabitation belongs to unmarried cohabitation, which many people understand as "trial marriage", that is, "premarital cohabitation based on oral or written contracts and not protected by national laws is defined as trial marriage. After all, the trial marriage is apparently saturated with rational factors such as calmness, reason and restraint. In fact, it is a rational abuse, a self-centered selfish and utilitarian calculation, and an independent measure that only wants the rights and interests of marriage and is unwilling to bear the obligations and responsibilities of marriage. " (1) A pure relationship is worthy of recognition, but it is not only a wise choice, but also a kind of harm to the woman if she lives together just to meet the requirements of one party.

Living together in poor accommodation reflects the lack of hard-working spirit of contemporary college students. Nowadays, with the rapid development of economy, more and more college students grow up under the doting of their parents, and their living ability is declining. "Miss's illness, son's illness" has become a difficult problem for college students on campus. This is not only the failure of education, but also the price of material society. How to make education keep pace with the times and how to cultivate a new generation of young people are even more worrying to the society.

90% of the respondents think that "college students living together" will not get social support. They believe that "cohabitation of college students" is not only a social and moral issue, but also likely to have serious consequences for future marriages. Cohabitation among college students may lead to pregnancy. College students are busy with the pressure of study and life. For pregnancy accidents, more choices are induced abortion. This is a serious harm to women's health. This may cast a shadow over the future marriage. Some investigators even analyzed that the phenomenon of "college students living together" will not get the population, because "a first-hand car is always better than a second-hand car".

Although as many as 90% of the respondents believe that "college students live together" will not be recognized by the society. However, as many as 95% of the respondents believe that "college students living together" will become more and more common in the future. With the development of society, future college students will become more and more enlightened. The social atmosphere of conformity will only get worse. Therefore, the trend of "college students living together" will rise in the future. There are also more investigators who say that the concept of marriage abroad is also the fuse of this phenomenon. College students are easy to accept foreign things, and foreign ideas also affect them. What's more, college students "fully affirm" foreign culture.

Fourthly, the feasible scheme to solve the phenomenon of cohabitation in colleges and universities.

College students' cohabitation is a hot social issue, which impacts the whole social atmosphere and people's moral bottom line. Families, schools and society need Qi Xin to work together to carry out the necessary education in this field. To this end, we combine the suggestions of education experts and the actual situation of society, and give the following feasible schemes.

(A) college students themselves should establish a correct view of love

Love is for finding like-minded lifelong partners in the future, not for comfort and boredom, not just for sexual satisfaction. The quality of love motivation is directly related to the success of love. For example, people in today's society regard "Gao Fushuai" and "Bai Fumei" as the criteria for choosing a spouse. As a bridge of the new era, college students' love view should be an organic combination of ideal, morality, career and sex. College students should not blindly follow, improve their ability to distinguish right from wrong and resist temptation, especially female college students should raise their awareness of self-protection; Male college students should take their love and marriage seriously and not hurt others on impulse.

(2) Parents should be the guiding lights for their children.

Children's first teachers are parents, and children will imitate their parents' behavior. Therefore, as parents, we should cultivate children's concept of social honor and disgrace from an early age. They can properly impart sexual knowledge, including contraceptive safety measures, such as parents preparing condoms for their children in western countries, and can also let college students strengthen their awareness of self-protection from bits and pieces of daily life. Parents should create a good atmosphere for their children to read more positive books, give them correct life guidance, prevent them from becoming flowers in the greenhouse, and dare to exercise their living ability.

(C) Schools should boldly carry out the education of "gender concept" and "virginity concept"

Professor Shen Mowei, director of the Department of Psychology and Behavioral Science of Zhejiang University, said: "The age of college students is a process of physical and psychological maturity. People of this age group will have greater curiosity about the opposite sex, but due to psychological immaturity, they are often prone to some deviations. " An important reason why college students are curious is that they don't understand this matter. If they are properly educated about "gender" and "virginity", for example, schools can hold special sex education lectures. In addition, boys should treat the problem of "virgin complex" correctly, and girls should lead an honest and clean life, strengthen their awareness of self-protection, and let college students better understand sexual knowledge.

(D) Colleges and universities should provide psychological counseling.

The prevalence of cohabitation among college students will inevitably affect their physical and mental health. This may make them pay a heavy price for it, such as the psychological pressure of college students caused by classmates' public opinion after cohabitation, the unexpected pregnancy of girls during cohabitation, the psychological shadow left after abortion, and the girls abandoned by their boyfriends after cohabitation. All these need professional psychological counseling to enlighten them, so as to reduce the negative impact of college students' cohabitation and promote the healthy development of college students' body and mind.

(E) Colleges and universities should take appropriate measures to solve the problem.

Many colleges and universities are aware of the harm of college students' cohabitation, but the measures taken can not solve the negative effects brought by college students' cohabitation. One of the most important reasons is that they use coercion, and college students have the rebellious psychology of "the more they constrain me, the more they have to do it". Therefore, colleges and universities should take moderate measures, not compulsory measures, to appease the rebellious mood of college students. For example, some colleges and universities can cancel the regulation of linking accommodation with evaluation and pay more attention to the needs of college students in all aspects.

(6) The society should understand the cohabitation behavior of college students.

Although the phenomenon of unmarried cohabitation has not been generally recognized by the society, college students' values and outlook on life are not mature enough, their understanding of love and responsibility is not comprehensive enough, their mental and material preparation for the reality is not sufficient, and their social pressure and family pressure are also relatively great. However, the society should understand the cohabitation behavior of college students and learn from some cities or western countries to carry out sex culture festivals. This not only respects the rights of college students as adults, but also mentions ...