First, pick and choose, how many correct formulas have you learned?
Chatting up is not a new word. Chatting up is the beginning of people getting to know each other. Sometimes it will succeed, sometimes it will fail. Then when you really meet a girl you like, it means that every day should not be invalid, so from now on, learn the correct formula to get a girl successfully. The best way to strike up a conversation is here. Let's have a look at the friends in need!
From the first conversation to the method of getting along in depth, we pay attention to the mental method.
Chatting up is the beginning of understanding, but there is still a long process from understanding to familiarity, which even determines whether you can communicate further. Let's see how to deal with it! The way to strike up a conversation is easier said than done. Everything has its own way of thinking. You should master that kind of discretion and get along step by step on the scale of discretion and preparation.
1, carefully walked into her life.
If you get involved in her life too soon, the girl who attracts you may label you a stalker and avoid you. On the contrary, the Dance Academy said that you should let her know your existence slowly. Think of a reason to chat with her online, find a reason to meet her and comment on her webpage, or ask a friend to skillfully put your name into the conversation. Once she admits that you are a real, breathing individual, you can slowly establish a relationship.
2. Enhance your attraction.
Maybe you have a bad acne, a crooked nose, or you are only 5 feet 2 inches tall. Apart from bizarre flaws, you will always find ways to improve your appearance. If you have acne, cover the ugliest part with makeup. If you are shorter than other 95% men in the world, buy shoes that can increase your height. No matter how big your physical defects are, you can always have a clean and tidy appearance. Take a bath often. Pay attention to trimming your hair. Use cologne. Women expect their potential life partners to have good hygiene habits, so even if you lack attractive appearance, you can at least smell pleasant.
Second, five ways to improve the success rate of chatting up before chatting up
What should I do if I meet someone I like on the road or in the car? It's natural to strike up a conversation at this time. If you don't strike up a conversation, you will never know each other, so the method of striking up a conversation is undoubtedly very important. So, how to improve the success rate of chatting up? Here are five very practical methods. Also known as foreplay, let's take a look.
1, gum
When you meet a woman on the street, if you are not a super handsome guy, then on the other hand, a super handsome guy does not have to go to the street to strike up a conversation. You can't stare at her for the first time. After glancing at her, you should look away quickly, and then look at her for the second time, giving her an illusion of being elated, thinking that the second time you look at her, you will be attracted to her. Why didn't you like her the first time? First, it is easy for a woman to regard her as an impatient pervert or a worthless man. Second, your image is good enough. Women can't give you the right response because they are nervous, and even give you a dirty look. When you look away, you can give her a buffer time and let her give you the correct eye response. When you look at a woman for the second time, if a woman has a good impression on you, it will send a benign signal, such as seeing you. At this time, the success rate of chatting up is very high. For details, please refer to the related article "What should I do if I am rejected? I want to make a comeback. "
2, limb discharge
This kind is more suitable for men who are particularly good-looking, otherwise they will easily be regarded as perverts. I have little experience here. It seems easy to encounter such a situation on the bus, but I seldom take the bus, but if I am not a handsome guy, I will be careful not to call the police. If you are very confident in your image, then physical discharge is a very good choice, but don't do it on the bus, because the bus pervert has a bad reputation.
Third, how to judge the success of the conversation through the other person's eyes?
No matter what the situation, you can't rush to strike up a conversation, because once you fail, the loss will be hard to make up. It's best to make eye contact with each other before making a shot, and then make a shot. In this case, too many rejections can be avoided. So let's explain "eye contact" first, and then analyze the situation in detail, because in the final analysis, eye contact is to create a suitable opportunity for your attack.
Eye contact is eye contact when you pay attention to each other. Everyone has made eye contact and understood. But for everyone, the meaning of eye contact is different. Real experts can quickly judge the meaning of each other's eyes and then decide what action to take next. This is the difference between experts and ordinary people. For ordinary people, each other's eyes only meet occasionally. This doesn't mean anything, so we'd better make eye contact first, and then strike up a conversation to judge whether to shoot or not. But what kind of eyes are suitable for shooting and what kind are not. It's not easy to explain in a few words. Only by the accumulation of experience. This should be easy to understand. When you walk in front of each other, you should be able to attract their attention.
People's eyes are the windows to people's hearts, so if you succeed on the whole, you can see the results from each other's eyes. Don't be silly and ask her directly, so girls will only stay away from you, know how to look at girls' eyes, and don't be a stake that doesn't understand amorous feelings. Women like humorous men.
Fourth, how to strike up a conversation to impress others.
It is very common to strike up a conversation at a party, which will leave a good impression as well as a bad one. How to make a good impression at the party? This requires high conversation skills.
Suppose there is a gathering of many strange men and women, for example, a dormitory for men and women in a university. Many boys and girls meet for the first time, and everyone eats or plays together. After the party, these girls will talk about the boys they met today. Maybe different girls are interested in different boys, but in their discussion, they often focus on one or two boys. These two boys are either tall and handsome or have great personality charm. But you may not have noticed. Some boys' names, they never remember. No one even realized that they had attended the party. They are poor neglected people.
A party between boys and girls. After leaving, there may be three impressions of girls:
(i) Good impression:
(2) Bad impression:
(3) No impression.
Which is the best result? Many people may think it must be a good impression. In fact, my answer is "impressive", including impressive good and impressive bad. But don't leave any impression.
A deep bad impression is better than no impression;
Imagine that a group of girls talk most about the boy who held the most beautiful girl on the grass at the party, and he was so happy and indulgent when he talked about it. If this boy appears again, will every girl remember his name and even take the initiative to joke and fight with him? If this boy calls a girl and asks her out to play, do you think she will say yes without hesitation? Are you ready? Other girls in the same dormitory will still envy her.
It's hard to imagine the follow-up development between the boys who were unknown at the party because of shyness and these girls. No more than a week. No girl recognized him or remembered him. Shyness is the enemy of attraction;
In fact, these shy boys have some little secrets in their hearts. I'm going to meet a lot of girls I don't know today. I must behave well and make a good impression on them. I can't leave any bad impression. " This is the psychological basis of shy boys. When dating, he didn't dare to say dirty jokes loudly, for fear that girls would think he was dirty: he didn't dare to refute what girls said; Because he was afraid that the girls would think he was rude: he didn't even dare to wolf down the meat on the table; I am afraid that girls will think that he has no culture. He suppressed his primitive impulses everywhere. He restrained his most natural reaction, so he was so quiet throughout the party that even his roommate couldn't remember whether he had been to the party that day.
Wow ~ what ~ good pleating:
Maybe this story sounds familiar to you. I had a similar experience in college, and this feeling is my personal experience:
Those boys who have the opposite experience boldly show off at the party and even run amok. His whole psychological foundation is "Let's have fun". He does all kinds of interesting things, flirting with beautiful girls and making shy girls cry. And smiled. Maybe he doesn't know it himself. He left a deep impression on all the girls, and all the girls wanted to have some stories with him.
The first step to pick up a beautiful woman is to make her interested in you.
There are three situations in the prologue of general conversation:
First, direct chat-up method
It's very simple. Just say what you want to say, such as "Hello, I just saw you there and thought you were beautiful, so I came to see you." My name is XX, and then bulabulabula is the most direct and quickest way to strike up a conversation. If you make good posture and appearance, the success rate will be considerable. Usually we meet in the street, or on the bus or subway, because time is short. There are still some tips that I won't go into details.
Second, the indirect strike up a conversation method
This is usually used when there are psychological obstacles, such as meeting a girl somewhere, "Do you know where XX is?" Then she will show you the way, or I don't know. Then you have to change the subject and say, "Actually, I know where XX is. I just saw that you have a lot of temperament and wanted to come and meet you. Unfortunately, I couldn't find a suitable excuse, so I asked for directions. I'm XX. Nice to meet you. Then Blabla blah ... "This indirect way, the advantage is that it is easier to get close to each other, but it is a little roundabout. I use it occasionally. For details, please refer to the related article "How to strike up a conversation? So that the right girl can go with you.
Third, look at the acupuncture method.
This requires skill, as well as your observation and comprehensive quality. For example, at the railway station, a girl is carrying a big bag. If you want to know her, you must go up enthusiastically. "Let me help you for your hard work." It's easy to get to know each other. Another example is a girl talking on the phone in a public place. If you can recognize her accent, you can ask, "Hey, are you from XX?" She said it doesn't matter whether it's good or not, as long as it's easy to speak. The needle measures your comprehensive quality.
Boy: May I ask you the way? Girl: Where to? Boy: To your heart.
Boy: May I borrow your mobile phone? Girl: What? Boy: I'm going to call my mother and tell her that I have seen a peerless beauty and that her daughter-in-law has landed again.
Boy: It's raining heavily today. Girl: Yes. Boy: That's because God is drooling over you.
I smoked all night last night, and the smoke turned into a face before my eyes. I waved and everything disappeared. I didn't know until I saw you today. That's a sign ~
Keep it simple. At first, don't be glib.
I forgot my mobile phone number. Can you call your cell phone?
No girl doesn't like listening to these glib words, and no girl doesn't like boys who can say good things. After learning these opening routines, I believe you can overcome your shyness and bravely open the door to pick up girls.
The emotional world is complicated, but there are always rules to follow. "Men are not bad, women don't love them." Those bad men who are deeply loved by women just naturally understand or master the rules and skills of love and apply them, so they become very popular. I used to be a lonely patient. I am fed up with this lonely life, so I am determined to change myself. After years of study and practice, I finally walked out of this painful ocean. In the past, I had no one to teach me. Although it was successful, it wasted too much youth. Unfortunately, if I had known this one day earlier, I wouldn't have forced myself to bully my little brother every day.