(from a male perspective)

In love, men of different ages need different things.

When you are young, freshness and excitement may be more important, but with the maturity of your mind, what men value is quietly changing.

If you want a man to love you forever, you should not only meet his physical needs, but also understand his three spiritual needs.

First, comfortable and comfortable.

In a relationship, Zui wants comfort and comfort.

A so-called comfort, summed up in one word, is intimacy.

A good relationship is to stay with each other while keeping a proper distance, so that both of them feel comfortable and comfortable.

Every man wants to enjoy intimacy, have a certain space to be alone and do what he likes.

If the other half always wants to control him, often inspects posts or is suspicious, men will feel that their space has been violated, so they are prone to rebellious psychology and want to escape.

Any twisted and uneasy relationship will not go far after all.

If you want a long-term relationship, you should care about what you should care about, ignore what you shouldn't care about, and give men some space and freedom.

Don't be overly emotional, don't go overboard on a trivial matter, and don't pester me if I don't agree with you.

Stay independent and live a good life. When your heart becomes rich and full, you won't suffer from others' busyness or catching shadows.

Know how to relax, stand alone when apart, and be sweet when together.

Second, a sense of belonging

Some people say that like is freshness, while love is a sense of belonging.

In fact, in every man's heart, there is a little boy who longs for warmth, security and a partner who can reassure him.

No matter how strong a man is, he has a weak side, and sometimes he can't stand it, but they are often used to healing alone.

If a woman can accompany him, comfort him and give him love and warmth at this time, it is a great spiritual encouragement for men.

And he will cherish this relationship doubly because of the touch of his soul and his heart.

In feelings, the sense of belonging that men need is actually very simple, mostly from some inconspicuous details of life.

Sometimes, a greeting may soothe his broken heart, a hug will give him the courage to start over, and a simple meal will make him feel the warmth of his family.

As long as you can help him when he is tired and accept his unbearable and fragile, then no matter how big the storm is outside and how much suffering he has suffered, he will go forward for your future.

Third, the sense of identity

In the relationship between men and women, drunkenness can arouse men's excitement and accumulate auspicious nature, which comes from women's identity.

The more you encourage him, the harder he works, the more you scold him, the less he wants to do it.

After all, most men have strong self-esteem and want to be worshipped, recognized and respected.

If you can see his efforts and recognize his efforts, he will feel very happy and fulfilled with you.

Don't be stingy with your praise. Nothing. Praise him more. Let him find a sense of existence and satisfy his inner vanity, which will help your's feelings warm up.

In fact, men are easy to coax, they don't need surprises and romance, they just need recognition and praise.

When he feels your appreciation and affirmation, there will be a kind of power in his heart, which can offset the anxiety and frustration he feels in life and work, and make him full of enthusiasm in an instant.

This may be the so-called power of love.

What men need is nothing more than permission, acceptance and recognition.

Here are some tips to improve boys' sense of comfort, belonging and identity:

Improve comfort

1. Tired after a day's work, the boys hugged each other and smiled and said "thank you" when they first met.

2. By his side, two people don't talk silently. As long as you are around, he feels quiet and comfortable.

3. Be a child in another world. Adults are out-of-date children, who only show the cloven foot in front of some people.

Talk to boys more and share your feelings slowly if you have any questions.

Leave more space for each other to be alone, and you don't need to be together 24 hours a day.

Enhance sense of belonging

1. Set up a few friends and relatives and share your daily life with him.

2. Introduce your relatives and friends, and occasionally give some interaction to make him and your family and friends more familiar with each other.

Give him a unique name. This intimate relationship is a sign of your sense of belonging. Once you call him, you will get different responses.

4. Think from his point of view. Many times, a boy doesn't want to say anything. When he feels that you are thinking about things for him, he will naturally have a sense of belonging to you.

5. Give the boy care, sometimes act as a mother, and he is the true self by your side.

Enhance identity

1. Being able to praise a boy's merits can give him some confidence and make him feel that being with him is a happy thing for you.

Getting the approval of the other half will make boys feel more at ease and happier, and decide that this is right for them.

2. Accept his endless beauty and failure, let him realize that he doesn't need to be an omnipotent hero with you, let him know that he can feel fragile and sad with you, and screw up some things, and you will give him more comfort and patience.

3. Being able to show the demand for boys at an appropriate time, boys sometimes need the dependence of girls, which will make boys feel valuable.

4. Be more positive and less negative. If boys and girls communicate some problems, I hope to get some logical analysis and suggestions from the perspective of girls, which can help boys judge some problems and make some decisions.