? What should my daughter do if she doesn't obey in college? 1, parents should keep pace with the times. Times are changing rapidly. The children of this generation are exposed to many things, and their thoughts are influenced by the soil of the times. Many ideas are different from the older generation. As long as children's thoughts and behaviors are not harmful to life, they should be respected. If a child's incomprehension, thoughts and actions really hurt her, as parents, we should try our best to help her, but please note that this is help, not control and coercion.
2. Go into the child's heart. The reversal is due to lack of communication, which may be caused by being with children for a long time. Children lack honesty and trust in their parents, and the gap is deep. How come? It is necessary to eliminate barriers, change the way you treat your children, and let them accept that you are equal and democratic with your friends. Like friends and confidants, you can say anything, really go deep into your child's heart and understand his real thoughts. This eliminates all kinds of misunderstandings, delusions and misunderstandings. Only in this way can children listen to their parents' reasonable opinions, otherwise many children do it on purpose.
3. The question of principle will not be dealt with. On the one hand, rebellious children constantly challenge the rules, on the other hand, they constantly pursue the rules. Parents should be cautious and scientific when making rules. Once the rules are made, they must be followed. Focus on the big ones and put down the small ones. Encourage children to try, except those that threaten life and health. Many times, they are relaxed, saying no is not strict.
? Reasons why children are disobedient and tired of learning: 1. Traditional ideas have influenced some parents. China's long-standing preference for boys still exists among some parents. Parents lack democratic awareness of their children's education, and always think that their children are immature and must obey themselves absolutely and cannot have their own opinions. ? Children don't or rarely regard their parents as confident objects because they are afraid of being scolded by their parents for doing something wrong. Many middle school students are disgusted with their parents' accusations when they think they have done something wrong. The reason for their disgust is that their parents are overbearing and rigid.
2. Some improper exaggeration of mass media is also a factor leading to rebellious psychology. For example, some film and television works try to beautify the rebel's personal behavior, exaggerate the rebel's ability and advocate individualism. Many high school students appreciate the "rebellious heroes" depicted in TV and cartoons. Rebellious psychology is not conducive to the formation of children's outlook on life and physical and mental health. It will lead to the morbid personality of teenagers, such as being suspicious, paranoid, indifferent and out of place, and make them listless, passive in learning, demoralized, wavering in their beliefs and disappearing their ideals. The further development of rebellious psychology may also evolve into morbid psychology or criminal psychology.