0 1? Chaoshan Goddess from Northeast China, From Inferiority to Blooming
Teasing yourself as a "Chaoshan person in Northeast China"-student Fenfen gives people the feeling that this temperament goddess is really high!
However, no one can imagine that her outstanding height once bothered her, even the source of her inferiority complex.
When I was a child, because I was too tall, I always put up with being compared to my height by inexplicable boys. Because she is too tall, she constantly accepts other people's pointing fingers; She has been isolated by her classmates because she is too tall.
I always feel that I am different from others and my family is poor, so Fenfen has been living in inferiority and tolerance. Even after graduating from college, I stayed in a company for six or seven years, earned thousands of dollars and lived together. "Finding a Gao Fushuai to marry" is the highest dream in life.
The turning point occurred on 20 17, and the company had new changes, which broke the idea that Fenfen continued to muddle along. She left her former company to work hard in Shenzhen and began to think about which direction her life should go. At first, her monthly salary was only 4,500 yuan, but she was still willing to invest herself with her savings and spent nearly 200,000 on her studies. Fen Fen is also constantly exploring himself, reading and writing articles to toss about sideline business.
She began to build a personal brand and constantly upgraded in the workplace. Now, she has an annual income of one million, and she has helped her parents in her hometown to build a new house, fulfilling their dreams.
She also began to engage in freelance work and travel around the world, helping talented people turn knowledge into wealth and helping more people build their personal influence. When someone cares about her height, she no longer feels inferior, but can calmly say, "Compared with other people's eyes, it is more important for me to be live high and become what I like."
02? Only when your life has passed the dark moment will you have the courage to pursue the light.
Shu is the youngest of four children, born in a family of less than 20 square meters. Because of the limited conditions, the midwife delivered her baby at home. As a baby, she suffered the first accident in her life-improper handling of the umbilical cord of the newborn, which led to massive bleeding. The family pieced together their last savings and saved their lives, but the family fell into a more impoverished situation.
In order to survive, for the whole family to survive, dad had to sell his beloved little daughter to others himself. Fortunately, after selling his daughter, he felt a strong sense of guilt and yearning, and let his father plead for his daughter again.
After "being sold" and "going home again", the strong uneasiness made the young tree mature rapidly. She has been a good girl at home since she was a child. Since the first grade, she has taken the initiative to help with housework and wash clothes for the whole family. I'm afraid I'm not doing well enough, making my family unhappy and being abandoned again.
Unfortunately, she was trapped in the shadow of inferiority complex. She was bullied on campus in middle school, and garbage was thrown on her bedroom bed. Even high-class gangsters followed her with ulterior motives.
However, when God closes a door for you, he always opens a window for you. After entering the university, Shu 'er met her first best friend, encouraged Shu 'er with tolerance and love, and took her out of the low point of inferiority.
When I have worked and gradually stepped out of the shadow tree of my childhood, I got up the courage to mention to my mother that I was bullied at school and almost raped in the past, but my mother responded disapprovingly: "You are so ugly, will anyone want to rape you?" ?
This violent communication made her desperate, and she didn't even know how to keep good communication with her mother. She found that how to deal with the relationship with family of origin and how to face the pain brought to her by family of origin were her lessons to study hard. She also began to learn to communicate and speak, hoping to build bridges with others and resolve the relationship with her parents and friends. When she came to Yan Rui, she bravely took the first step and began to pursue her own light.
Teacher Jia Xuan said: Only when your life has gone through the darkest moment can you have the courage to pursue the light.
03? You ask me how much I love you, and the moon represents my heart.
There is a saying in Forrest Gump: "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you are going to get".
Tian Nan has always lived in a happy family, with a successful career, wealth and dignity, and a lovely big treasure, which is so beautiful and complete. At this time, however, she received the next chocolate given to her by fate:
A few years ago, she gave birth to Bauer in the delivery room with difficulty. She saw her second child weakly: small body, white hair and white skin. The doctor told her that the child had congenital albinism.
Children with this disease have very fragile skin, and the sun can easily burn their skin. It is safest to walk in the moonlight. So people gave them a beautiful name-Yuezi.
Tian Nan remembered her sister who was a doctor in America. She is willing to use all resources to treat this lovely and poor moon child.
"This is a congenital disease and cannot be cured." The doctor denied her idea. Fate gave her a big joke. She has money and resources, but she is still not good for her children!
Tian Nan once fell into despair. She doesn't know how to face the joke of fate. Until one day, she saw the video of nick vujicic's speech. The young man who was born without hands and legs deeply inspired Tian Nan with his inspirational story: the child was born with visual defects due to illness, but he can also say that life is infinite. As the mother of the child, she can't give up on herself.
So, two years ago, she began to learn to speak and boarded various speech stages, hoping to demonstrate to her children and become their role model and strength!
Now, Tian Nan is also studying business speeches in Yan Rui. I hope he will live not only for his children, but also for himself in the future! Facing the dear moon child, Tian Nan wants to express it with a song title: You ask me how much I love you, and the moon represents my heart.
04? See through the essence of life and still love life.
Born in Jiangxi, Xiao E has been living and growing up with her grandmother and aunt because her parents divorced. She is eager for the care of her family, but her relationship with her father has always been relatively distant. Unfortunately, she didn't have time to take the initiative to repair this relationship. During the summer vacation of her freshman year, she got the bad news that her father died unexpectedly. The shock of his father's death made Xiao E feel less and less family.
After graduating from college, Xiao E, a finance major, began to look for a job. 10 years ago, it was something to celebrate to be able to work in a bank, but little E with no background was recruited to work in a bank in Guangdong with excellent performance. Little E, who was overjoyed, quickly shared this good news with her grandmother at the first time.
Grandma didn't quite understand the significance of getting a high-quality offer, and suggested that her granddaughter go to another distant relative with little contact to share her joy. It was this suggestion that made Xiao E cry at that time, and she realized that her immediate family in this world was too thin. Every time she is happy, there are not many relatives to share.
After coming to work in Guangdong, the brand of strength, sensitivity and self-confidence brought by her family became more and more obvious, which made her keep a sharp style in her work on the one hand and stumble on the other. It was not until the last two years that Xiao E began to realize where his self-distrust came from, and gradually reconciled with himself and accepted himself.
Xiao e said that she likes a sentence very much and shares it in a circle of friends. Today, she gave it to every student and teaching assistant in the class: there is only one hero in the world who has seen through the essence of life and loves life!
After listening to E's story, I remembered a little devil's sentence in Fire and Ice: "Take your weakness as your armor". It means that when you accept your weakness or misfortune from the heart, no one can use it to hurt you again.
Little e, I believe that you will eventually reconcile with your past self in your continuous growth ~
Teacher Jia Rui said: Everyone's life has a story. If not, live a story. If you accidentally live an accident, then the accident itself is your best story.
Fortunately, after hearing other people's stories, you will find that everyone's growth is a cruel process.
Fortunately, now you have accepted your imperfect self, or are trying to learn to accept yourself;
Fortunately, you are not alone, because Yan Rui has a group of people who want to be close to you and hug you after listening to your story.