Confucius once said, "Stand at 30, don't be confused at 40, know your destiny at 50, listen at 60, and follow your heart at 70." . In modern society, it is not too late to stand at forty. Because of the sufferings of the previous generation, the previous generation hoped that their next generation would not live so hard, so many people aged 25 to 30 did not live according to their own wishes, and many people's lives were arranged by their parents. Without hobbies, I can't find my meaning in life, I don't have a clear direction in life, and I don't even know what's the point of living except my present job. So I feel very confused. In retrospect, everything is not my own. Without your own persistence, you are particularly frivolous. Without your own goals, you can't persist for a long time. This problem in society deserves our consideration, whether it is the problem of parents or children, or the basic education of society.
Parents: From the perspective of parents, parents' starting point is good and of course correct. Because parents' knowledge and understanding are relatively mature. However, with the development of society and the changes of various factors, it is inevitable that children will have any deviation in carrying out the mission entrusted by their parents. Because the children are young, have limited knowledge and understanding of society, and don't understand their parents' intentions, they are discounted when they are implemented. No one can predict what the effect will be, and it may be useless, neither required by parents nor taken by their children. Children are always at a fork in the road. When they understand this society, they find it is too late. Confused, I feel too late to struggle. I just hope my children don't go their own way.
Children: Some children always follow the pattern planned by their parents, which will have a certain impact on children. When children grow up, this influence will follow. They want to go their own way, and feel that their parents' words are always lingering in their ears, and there are always shadows in their hearts. In the end, my parents didn't go well, and neither did I. When can I get rid of my parents' influence, I can succeed. So if you want to start over, you must first get rid of the influence from your family.
Society: At present, the education mode in many places is still the education mode in the 1990s. With the rapid development of society, exam-oriented education has been unable to connect with society. The talents that the society needs now are all-round talents with wisdom and practical ability, and the "successful" talents produced by this educational model are obviously wrong. Many people don't know what to do after college. The deeper reason is to think about what they have, what they will do and what they can do since they are sensible. When you go to the society, what the society gave you before and what it gives you now can make a foothold in the society.
At the age of 27, before I got married, I chose my own path, fought for it, and worked hard for it. If you have a family, be realistic. Don't start from scratch. Think about what you can improve on the basis of the original, keep charging, work hard in your own job, and constantly increase the chips you need for work, so as to realize your dreams.