It turns out that when life is difficult, children's perseverance will naturally be exercised and improved with the needs of life and growth. What you want is not enough, because there is no money at home, which is frustration-resistant exercise; You can't stop doing what you want to do, because you have to do what your mother has assigned you. This is endurance exercise. Your parents don't allow other children to ask you to go out to play, because there are things you need to do at home, which is the cultivation of anti-interference ability. Such perseverance can make young people adapt to their future life and work, so few people in the past felt that they lacked perseverance.
Now that the family conditions are superior, it is easy for parents to ignore the cultivation and exercise of endurance, anti-frustration and anti-interference ability in education. You can have whatever you want, and you don't have to do anything you want. You can do anything you are interested in at any time, even if you can't eat the rice in the bowl, you can even throw it away at will. It can be said that in families with relatively good economic conditions and lack of educational awareness, children do not need perseverance in the process of growing up, so there will be no persistent experience and improvement. Although many children go to middle school, their endurance level is not as good as that of primary school.
But after school, perseverance is gradually required, especially after the second and third grades of junior high school. In study, we began to be asked to read books and do homework, persist in studying and have the endurance to maintain; Examinations and mistakes need resilience to deal with; Playing computer, watching TV, going out to play, and even chatting and eating snacks all need anti-interference ability to face. It can be said that perseverance and perseverance are often compared in the whole middle school, even in universities and social work. Whoever has strong perseverance, who has great perseverance, can achieve something; Whoever has weak perseverance and less perseverance can only do things that don't require perseverance and perseverance. Because there is no corresponding training and exercise before, it is completely impossible to adapt to such high requirements at once.
In fact, it is not too late to start cultivating your perseverance at this time. Since our parents didn't give us a chance to exercise, let's exercise by ourselves. Since perseverance is to exercise and grow in need, exercise yourself in your own growth; Since perseverance is cultivated and improved through tempering, we can cultivate ourselves through current needs and current things.
Endurance, anti-frustration and anti-interference are all non-intellectual factors, and these non-intellectual factors have a characteristic different from intellectual factors, that is, their consciousness. The so-called consciousness means that as long as you are aware, you can improve and gain something; If you don't realize it, you will not only get nothing, but even shrink back.
Intellectual factors, including observation, attention, memory, thinking, imagination, even if you don't realize the need to cultivate, even if you don't want to improve at all, you will unconsciously improve in your study. For example, reciting the text, although you don't know that reciting the text is good for improving your memory, although you don't want to recite it, you have to recite it because of the teacher's request and inspection. Over time, you recite more and your memory will improve. As long as you go to school and follow the teacher, whether you like it or not, whether you realize it or not, your intelligence level will improve.
Non-intellectual factors are different. Non-intelligence factors include interests, hobbies, goals and ideals, ideas, attitudes and habits, and more importantly, persistence, anti-frustration and anti-interference ability. These qualities are also called people's basic qualities. In our growth, these qualities will not naturally improve with age and study. If you don't realize it, you won't get it For example, if you fail in the exam, if you realize it, this is the time to test your ability to withstand setbacks and an opportunity to exercise your ability to resist blows. Just to see if you can fall and get up again, you will face up to the difficulties, won't feel embarrassed, and the negative emotions will be alleviated soon; However, if you don't realize this, but think you are too ashamed, you will complain, your spirit will be devastated, and you will sow the seeds of anxiety for the next exam, and it will become more and more serious with the increase of the number of times. This will happen in motivation, attitude and perseverance, because you don't realize that even your psychological level will return to childhood.
For example, your plan, which is also a non-intellectual factor, is a psychological factor to achieve the set goals. If you make a plan, if you don't realize what impact it will have on your non-intelligence, just to accomplish these planned things, then it is likely that this plan will fail again because of your habits, or planned steps, or because of the interference of others, or because of the difficulty of things. What's more, you will further deny your own quality because of unfinished plans, and you will think that you will never have perseverance.
If you realize that you once regretted not completing the plan, then resolutely implementing and completing the plan is the main purpose of your exercise. You can use this plan to see if you can stick to it, especially when you are hesitant or disturbed by others, or because things are difficult or because of poor planning. You can remind yourself by testing yourself and tempering your consciousness. So, finish this time.