Love and tolerance are the greatest support. Sang Ni's parents divorced a long time ago. Because Qingqing's father prefers boys to girls, after she was born, she proposed to let her mother have another son, otherwise she would divorce. Mother Qing resolutely chose to divorce and live with Qing. In the second grade, Qingqing wanted to learn musical instruments. At the same time, her mother took several jobs to buy musical instruments and hire teachers for Qingqing. When Qingqing felt that her mother wanted to give up, Qingqing said, Don't worry, her mother will always support you.
Later, Qing Qing was finally admitted to the ideal school, but once fell into anxiety after graduation. Mom said to her again: Don't worry, if it's a big deal, mom will accompany you to set up a stall, and we can live a stable life together. Later, Qing Qing became a music teacher and her career was booming. Qing Qing often said that when I think of the two words my mother said, I will feel very at ease and feel not afraid of anything.
Parents' divorce and family division will bring some pressure to young children more or less. Many children become uneasy and feel abandoned under this heavy pressure. Some children can't even get rid of that negative emotion all their lives, forming an overly sensitive, inferior and introverted character. And a single mother or father who lives alone with her children often becomes the biggest dependence of her children.
At this time, they must give their children enough love. This love is by no means simple material satisfaction, nor unprincipled doting, but always spiritual support and tolerance. If the child feels uneasy, give him a hug and encouragement. A sentence of "support you" or "don't be afraid, I am here" will give children a sense of security for life.
Work hard, live a good life and set a good example for your children. Lin Yuan's mother used to be a lawyer. In order to take care of Lin Yuan, she quit her job and became a full-time housewife. Later, Lin Yuan's parents divorced for some reasons. After consideration, her mother decided to return to the workplace and send Lin Yuan to a private primary school. Because this school has evening self-study, teachers can take their children to dinner and help with some homework.
Every day, my mother gets up at four o'clock to make breakfast for Lin Yuan. After breakfast, she sent Lin Yuan to school, then went to court and visited, and was busy until Lin Yuan left school.
In the evening, when Lin Yuan was reviewing the text under the lamp, her mother was preparing for the next day's work. Relatives often ask Lin Yuan if her mother is busy at work and can't take care of her as before. Will Lin Yuan blame her? Lin Yuan said that she had seen her mother's work and knew that she worked hard, but she thought her mother was very powerful and admired her, and she wanted to be a lawyer when she grew up.
In real life, many children will lose their direction in life after their parents divorce, and even become "bad teenagers" because they have no intention to study. How should single-parent families guide their children to grow up well? In fact, the method is very simple. Parents are the best role models for their children at all times.
Single mothers or fathers who live alone with their children should take their children out of the shadow of family division and return to normal working life as soon as possible. Work hard, live actively, and let children tell them by actions that divorce is only an episode in life, and they can work hard, live seriously and have a beautiful life like their mothers (fathers).
My mother, who can let go, has no hatred in her heart and moves forward easily, is derailed. After mom and dad divorced, Mingrui lived with dad. Relatives often speak ill of Rui's mother, and Ming Rui also feels that her mother is leaving her, and she becomes a little depressed for a while. But dad told Mingrui, "Don't hate mom, mom and dad just don't love each other anymore. It's no big deal. Although my mother doesn't love my father, she still loves Ming Rui. " In the end, Mingrui gradually stopped being depressed under the guidance of his father. Later, Mingrui's father and mother each formed a new family. On holidays, Mingrui often goes back to her family for holidays. When I graduated from college, my parents also attended his graduation ceremony together. When he grew up, Ming Rui was cheerful and got along well with friends and family.
Divorce caused by marital infidelity often causes one party to fall into deep hatred. Some parents who are hurt by their spouses will unconsciously pass on their hatred to their children. They may constantly accuse each other of being "childless" and "heartless" in front of their children, and even curse each other with some ugly words. They often want their children to hate cheaters and then alienate them to get back at each other.
In fact, children are already under pressure in the face of their parents' divorce, and parents put hatred on their children, so the double pressure will form a heavy "burden" and make the children breathless. Under such "heavy pressure", some children are afraid of marriage and refuse to love all their lives. Therefore, after divorce, it is better to let go of the past and teach children to "pick it up and put it down." After all, no hatred in their hearts can go further.
In today's society, divorce is no longer a "big deal", and many children from single-parent families are also excellent. On the road of children's life, parents' divorce is only an episode. As long as they are properly handled and educated, children from single-parent families can have a bright future.