Not long ago, the son of an old leader of mine got married and this happened. The old leader was transferred to Beijing, his son also worked in Beijing, and the wedding was held in Beijing. The problem is that his main colleagues and friends are in their original units in other places. This is the way he handles it. First of all, I rented a bus and went to pick up my colleagues and friends from other places every once in a while. The second is to arrange unified hotel accommodation in Beijing. The wedding was very lively, and everyone who should come came, rich or poor, took their places. Of course, the old leader still has some money. If the only son gets married, it will cost some money. In addition, colleagues and friends from other places will also give hundreds of gifts. Generally speaking, catering can't make people lose money.

Do foreign friends need to solve the travel expenses when attending the wedding? Different places have different customs. Even if there is no custom, there are established "hidden rules". People from other places attend the wedding, one is a classmate friend and the other is a relative from other places. Different groups should be treated differently. It is also a relationship, and the relationship is iron. You don't have to worry about this kind of thing. It doesn't matter whether you come or not. There is also to put yourself in each other's shoes. For example, if a friend is in financial difficulties, you should put yourself in others' shoes. Relatives in financial difficulties, you should also think of others. Besides, if someone is married, you will face the same problem.

First, you are rich in economy and your wedding planning is lively. You can solve the travel and accommodation problems in a unified way, at least that's what you said. For convenience, you can give a red envelope according to the level of travel expenses when you return the gift, and others will understand. Rich people hold weddings for fun, but they book five-star hotels, Maotai and Zhonghua for a gift of 600 yuan. If it's just for fun, it can be solved. Of course, it seems that you are very atmospheric.

Second, you are an ordinary citizen with an average economy. Be realistic, pragmatic and simple. There is no need to make up for the famine left behind. If it is between different cities, to count the number of people, you can rent a bus or CMB and pick it up in a unified way. Accommodation must be arranged by the wedding party. Scattered outsiders, closely related, naturally know how to deal with it, and you will pay it back in the future. It doesn't matter whether you come or not. Relatives with poor economic conditions, of course, refer to close relatives. If we can solve the toll, we can solve it. After all, relatives are one.

Finally, what should I do if I meet some great friends? Have empathy. Most people still look at this kind of thing objectively. If you don't make it clear that you want to solve the travel expenses, people will consider the distance, don't want to come, or think it's not cost-effective. They may give you a gift to express their blessings, and you should also express your understanding. There are also people who don't come for various objective reasons, and even make excuses. If the relationship is not in place, don't worry. After all, everyone has their own way of living.

I'm better suited to answer this question. I just got married less than 1 month and got married in my hometown village in Shandong. There are about 20 foreign students, all from Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Henan, Qingdao and Jinan, and one foreign student.

This is how I serve:

1 The students paid their own tolls, but when they got off the high-speed train or plane, I arranged for someone to take them to the hotel. Because our wedding was held in the village, I arranged for them to stay in the best hotel in the county.

Students near the province asked them to drive and go to the airport by the way. High-speed railway station, help me pick up other students.

I arrange accommodation, which is basically a small county with a high grade.

Be sure to send them to the station after the wedding.

Let them stay for one night and walk a long distance the next day.

Be sure to let them get off and go back to the station to take the bus. I will take care of them in the middle.

I encountered this problem some time ago.

Background 1: At present, the debt is 40,000, and there is no deposit. I lost my job as soon as the company closed down. In Guangzhou,

Background 2: My best friend (not really, I had a good time in junior high school, and then I kept in touch, that is, we got together to play during the Chinese New Year. In 20 18, I found a boyfriend in Henan and got pregnant, so I told another friend that we were going to be godmothers and immediately went to buy bracelets and necklaces for the baby (we never gave each other gifts on our birthdays before). ) and then talk until the baby is born.

Then she planned to hold a wedding on 2065438+0965438123, and wanted us to go, but she also said that she would go back to her hometown, so we just wanted to go back to our hometown to attend.

Then she said that she had no friends in Henan, only her parents would go to the wedding and wanted us to go. 20 18 was unemployed on February 23rd, and 20 19. 1. 1 has found the next company to work in advance. But it happened that she mentioned this to me at that time. The round-trip fare to Henan is 1400, and in this case, 1 I can't go to work, which means I will stay at home for more than half a month, and I will come to Guangzhou to look for a job in February, and I won't get my salary until March at the earliest.

Someone may ask me why I don't work first and then ask for leave. First of all, the past week was very important. If you take four days off a month, you have to deduct three days' salary, 300 yuan, and then the round-trip fare 1400, and the gift 1000, because the baby just turned one month, and then the wedding on the 23rd will come back in 24 hours at the earliest. I have to buy a ticket to go to work and go back to Hunan for a few days, and the fare is 350 yuan.

Then the custom in our hometown is to go to the wedding and the bride will reimburse the fare. My other friend and I jokingly asked her if she would reimburse her fare. She ignored the first question and didn't answer it. She answered twice, but she cried. We don't think it's necessary to do this. Anyway, it's the same to go home and drink during the New Year. When we have this fare, we can buy more things for her and the baby. Later, she also promised to reimburse the fare, but in that case, my friend and I would add up to thousands of fares, so there is no need to wait for her to come back to buy wine.

For example, do you want to travel, balance yourself, and consider the actual situation. Anyway, even if you pay for the trip, people will remember it later, and it doesn't matter if your best friend suffers some losses.

My personal idea is that if I go to Henan to hold a wedding, it will take time and money, and she will also hold a wine in her hometown, then it will be fine. As for the fare reimbursement, I'd better save the last sentence for buying gifts for her and the baby.

Finally, I suggest reimbursement.

Just over a year after graduating from college, my roommate got married. I asked for leave, bought my own ticket, and was about to enter the station. The classmate who went first sent me an address and asked me to book my own hotel, saying that they were all in pairs and two people shared the room fee. I'm alone, so I have to pay for it myself. Then he said that his roommate didn't answer, so he sent a place to take a taxi. I just hehe, the classmate who went first. They discussed it and changed all the gifts to 300 yuan. Then turn around and refund the ticket, even if it is the first time to send a red envelope. I invited everyone in the group early. I didn't take a vacation, so I didn't mention the fare. No one got off to connect. I sent a taxi to the hotel and called to make a reservation. It was my first marriage and I had no experience.

When I got married in Hebei, most of my college roommates worked in Beijing. At first, I thought about not wanting bridesmaids or groomsmen. Later, I thought about why my classmates didn't want bridesmaids. Travel expenses are not much, less than 100 yuan per person. I was going to arrange for them to stay in a hotel. Because there are many houses at home, my roommate can't tell the hotel, so he lives in my house.

The night before, my father and cousin drove to the city to meet them. When they got married, they were sent to the city by train. The gift for my sisters is not melon seeds candy, but my mother's smoked pork elbow. I thought it was delicious when I went back to eat. Even a roommate asked my mother for pickled pickles, and finally forgot.

My husband foolishly scattered all the red envelopes when picking up the bride, and there was no red envelope when looking for shoes. My roommates didn't cause any trouble to my husband, and the bridesmaids were allowed to speak at the wedding. Several sisters gave me enough face, and the whole wedding went smoothly.

Round trip fare+bridesmaid dress+pig elbow