The son of a well-known parenting blogger in Guangzhou, who was once an outstanding big boy with bright sunshine, committed suicide in the United States on March 5.
The specific cause of the child's death has not been disclosed.
In the school announcement, it says "accident", accident;
Among parents, adults carefully knocked out three words, depression.
Why do children commit suicide? There are two main reasons to explore. First, parents' high expectations make children lose the fun of studying and living. Second, the children themselves are mentally fragile and unhealthy.
As parents, they all want their children to be successful and happy. In the eyes of some parents, success means going to a good university, finding a good job, earning money as an official in the future, or being a big boss, and the children will be happy all their lives, but this is not the case.
A college degree and a respected job can't give them the ability to be happy, nor can they feel happy and successful. Why is this so? What is true happiness and success? You have made the most incisive explanation for psychologists. Happiness is a mental state when my mind is happy. Life is both a pleasure and an annoyance. Everyone in life will feel happy and have troubles. The difference is that some people are happier than their troubles, while others are more troubled than their happiness. Happy people are not without troubles, but are good at solving troubles, turning negative mentality into positive mentality and keeping a happy mood as much as possible.
There are two people living in the world in our hearts, one is too good, the other is too bad, and the other is too good. They weave a happy net in your heart every day. They can look at everything positively, and it feels so good. It has the power to turn negative things into positive things, turn seemingly bad things into good things, turn disadvantages into advantages, and bring you into a world full of happiness and positive.
That little man called Too Bad weaves a painful web in your heart every day. No matter what happens, even if it is a happy thing, he can only see the bad place, frowning tightly and saying, it's too bad, what a nuisance. It will always bring you trouble.
Li Meijin's point of view: "The truly successful education is to cultivate children with psychological sunshine."
As the female writer in Taiwan Province Province said: How many people in this world yearn to be heroes when they are young, but eventually they become ordinary people in the fireworks world. If a person lives in the shadow of parents' depression for a long time, he may run away from home or have a split personality. Even if he succeeds in the eyes of his parents, he may not be happy.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
So, please admit that your children are ordinary after all.
Admittedly, parents, who doesn't want their children to have great prospects? But many times, we ignore the fact that most people in this world are ordinary.
In the BBC documentary "Seven Years of Life", 14 children with different life backgrounds were recorded, and their 56-year growth process was recorded.
The children were only seven when they first recorded it. Facing a bright future, they all have gorgeous dreams:
For example, to be a star, a baseball player and a pianist. ...
When these children grow up to 14 years old, 28 years old, 42 years old, and now 63 years old, they find that the reality is not as happy as they thought.
They Otawa, like you and me, struggle in ordinary posts and worry about all kinds of trivial things in ordinary life.
At the end of the video, the director asked everyone, "Do you regret ...? "The answer he got was" no regrets ".
56 years' record, if we finally come to a conclusion, it is probably: there is no standard answer to life, and ordinary life is also a taste.
I would rather my child is an ordinary happy teenager than become a psychologically depressed learning machine.
Cultivating a sunny, optimistic, confident and strong child is the greatest achievement of education.
In this process, please allow the child to make mistakes, accept the child's ordinary, respect the child's choice, and silently be the ferryman of his life.
In this world, 90% people are ordinary people, 9% people can achieve small things, 1% people can achieve great things. Most of us are destined to be ordinary.
And if you live in the fantasy of 1%, and don't want to face the child's ordinary, it is a kind of harm to yourself and your child.
Everyone wants to be the first, but there is always only one first.
Everyone wants to enter a prestigious school, but there are only a few famous universities.
Let's look at a data. In China's pyramid-shaped higher education structure, only a few are at the top. By the end of 20 19, there were 2688 colleges and universities in China, including 1265 undergraduate colleges and 1423 higher vocational colleges.
Higher vocational colleges account for half of China's higher education, and only about 4 million people can really get a bachelor's degree, and the admission rate is less than 20%.
2 1 1 and 985 universities at the top of the pyramid are a minority. Among them, there are only 1 18 colleges and universities in China, accounting for less than 5%, and these 5% almost monopolize the state's policy support for colleges and universities. Only a few can rush in, enrolling about 500,000 students every year, and the admission rate is only about 5%.
Are people who don't get the first place doomed to failure and gloom?
Everyone wants applause, and they don't want to be the one who applauds, but they will eventually become an ordinary person in the fireworks world.
Elephants have troubles in the sky, and ants have happiness.
If you are healthy, if you are happy, if you don't go against your will, what's wrong with being a kind ordinary person?
So, my child, I don't ask you to have the light of genius, I hope you will have peace and joy all your life.