Methods of communication between college students and teachers
1. "FM"
The so-called "birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups". The more similarities between the two sides, the easier it is to establish close interpersonal relationships. When the needs and expectations of both sides are just complementary, it is often the easiest to generate strong interpersonal attraction and establish good interpersonal relationships. Therefore, the key to establishing a good teacher-student relationship is to find the similarities between teachers and students. When they agree with each other, the atmosphere will become friendly and harmonious. In other words, if the two sides are psychologically compatible, then one party's behavior can easily cause the other party's positive reaction. On the contrary, if the two sides are in a state of psychological incompatibility, one's attitude and behavior can easily be denied by the other. Everyone has his own way of receiving information and personality characteristics, and what we college students need to do is to take the initiative to understand the teacher's work style, preferences, advantages and disadvantages, adjust their communication methods, and find a platform suitable for their interests, so as to balance the conflicts between their personalities. According to people's social communication experience, if you can be in the other person's emotional state, fully feel the other person's psychological feelings, and then express your understanding, care, consideration and love for him, then the other person will respond positively to you and have a good impression on you. This is the "situational identity" principle in psychology. Adjust yourself, find a platform and do what you like, just to create such an identity, so as to have a two-way response with teachers more effectively, and thus establish a good teacher-student relationship.
respect
Cultivate the habit of respecting teachers, regardless of their beauty and ugliness or good temper. No contempt, no flattery. We should trust teachers and accept their advantages and disadvantages. Be consistent, don't praise others before criticizing them. Only by respecting each other can we communicate with others normally and establish a harmonious interpersonal relationship. Regard respecting teachers as a habit, so that teachers will respect you and achieve a win-win situation.
Communication skills between students and teachers
First of all, don't disturb the teacher's normal work before communicating with him. It is best to ensure that communication is allowed when both parties have time. On the other hand, when communicating with teachers, students should pay more attention to their own words and phrases, and seek "help" with humility, but not too formal. It is the best direction for teachers to regard teachers as their mentor and friends, not to be too distant and unreasonable.
Secondly, communication is a bridge to promote mutual understanding, so communication is essential. Students should not be shy. They should be ashamed to ask questions to their teachers or ask questions that are confusing to them. Teachers are the best people to talk to in school except classmates and friends, and the difference between teachers and classmates is that teachers, as adults of almost the same generation as their parents, can help themselves to the greatest extent, and can also put forward the most meaningful solutions to their own problems.
In addition, for parents of students, teachers pay more attention to students at school, which is equivalent to their guardians at school. Every move is in the eyes of the teacher. Simply put, each student spends more time at school than at home, and even some teachers know their children's own habits better than parents, so it is necessary for students to seek help or communication in time.
How do students communicate with teachers?
1. "Restore"
In interpersonal communication, only with sincere motivation and attitude can the two sides understand, accept and trust each other, produce ideological and emotional resonance, and develop and deepen the communication relationship. However, in the process of interacting with teachers, college students often put teachers in the position of "leader", and have a feeling that subordinates have superiors when interacting with teachers. In this way, there will be obstacles in communicating with teachers, and it is impossible to communicate with the "real me". In fact, teachers are ordinary and real people, and they also have emotions. In the process of communicating with teachers, college students should restore the teacher to a real person, put the teacher on an equal footing with themselves, and sincerely exchange their ideas with the teacher so as to get to know each other. Of course, it is not disrespectful for people who restore teachers to their essence and communicate with teachers on an equal footing. On the contrary, this equal attitude is the embodiment of respecting teachers.
2. "Transposition"
In real life, we are always used to interacting with people from our own subjective judgment, which often leads to some misunderstandings. Therefore, if you want to establish a good teacher-student relationship with teachers, achieve mutual recognition and understanding, and avoid some unnecessary misunderstandings and prejudices, you must learn to put yourself in the other's shoes. The so-called "empathy" is to ask us college students to learn to look at things from the perspective of teachers and find their own ways to deal with problems.