The topic we are discussing today is "Who to live for, and who to live for".

Then, this topic seems to have little to do with our real life ideas. Maybe some friends will think my views are anti-times. What we see today is how to make money and how much wealth there will be in the future. In other words, the value of future achievements in life can only be measured by "how much wealth you have".

So, why make money? How should I earn this money? What's the money for? Wait, how do you get into society? How to seek a development platform to show your talents? I'm afraid these are our biggest worries. This may also be the "10-year hardship" that we have suffered today, but it is only for the sake of future glory and the realization of our sense of survival value.

We all know that "consciousness dominates behavior" and "consciousness also determines behavior". What kind of life consciousness we shape today has decided the embodiment of our future life value. Today, discussing this topic with college students, I think most of my friends may be disgusted. Because, almost everyone is the younger generation after 90. What you see and feel in life is how to enjoy life and how to find ways to make money. As long as you can get the money, it doesn't matter who you are, haha, right? It is precisely for this reason that I don't know what the life reality of most of the brothers and sisters born in 1980s you see is today. How they feel about life. ? I often talk to our peers about young people nowadays. Everyone has a helpless attitude towards this serious social phenomenon and feels sorry for the younger generation. However, I always have an understanding and tolerant attitude towards the younger generation. Why? "Jade is rough and fleshy"! I said that during the period of education (family education, school education, social education), young people themselves are the raw materials of a very good jade, not the fault of this jade, but the responsibility of the sculptor (parents, teachers, leaders), which has not become a "boutique" that everyone is satisfied with. In the early days of carving (cultivating) "jade", sculptors simply didn't have a good mentality of "carving jade into fine products", just to put these "objects" on the market as soon as possible and get rich "money". But I didn't realize those pure "jade". So there will be unsatisfactory results that middle-aged people see today. At the same time, it also wastes the original pure "jade" materials. "If you don't teach, your dad will pass; Teaching is not strict, the teacher is lazy "! Young friends, if you don't realize the situation and ending of those big brothers and sisters yesterday, then you young people born after 90 may become a group of inhuman "wolves" in the future. It will bring more troubles and man-made disasters to families, teams, society, nations and even countries. What terrible consequences!

Therefore, today, the party and the government advocate "the socialist concept of honor and disgrace with eight honors and eight disgraces" to create a "harmonious" social environment of family harmony, team harmony, national harmony, social harmony and even world harmony. Let everyone understand the philosophy and values of life such as "why people create wealth, for whom, what people live for and for whom".

As far as our school study today is concerned, we should not only learn superficial knowledge, but also learn deeper philosophy. Why? Surface knowledge is both a temptation and a "trap". If it is used in life in the future, it will not only harm people, but also harm yourself. Many phenomena that we can see and feel today have proved this point. You can see how many people today, after finishing college, with thick application materials on their backs, can't find jobs everywhere; How many people, even if they find a job, are really wronged themselves and cannot work comfortably, smoothly and happily; How many people have found jobs in helplessness, but they are unemployed in helplessness; How many people have no choice but to do what they don't want to do in order to survive? Why on earth is this? In the final analysis, they only realized the superficial scientific knowledge, but did not realize the deep knowledge of nature, interpersonal knowledge and social knowledge. Therefore, when people enter the society, they have no endurance to withstand the wind and rain, no ability to distinguish between true and false, good and evil, and no confidence to cope with the test of cruel real life. Therefore, in today's campus study and life, every time we come into contact with problems and things, we should immediately respond to this question, "Why?" . "Knowledge lies in things"! With this learning attitude, we can understand more human philosophy, social philosophy and natural philosophy; Only then can we distinguish between good and evil, right and wrong, authenticity and right and wrong in the world; Only in this way can we "do something and do nothing"; Only in this way can we cultivate a gentleman's demeanor and achieve talents who really benefit the public.

According to the sages who have been tested by practice and recognized by * * * in China for thousands of years, the law of their life cannot escape the law of "enlightenment, self-cultivation, success, career, housekeeping, governing the country and leveling the world". If a person wants to achieve something in his life, he must be "rational" and "beneficial to others", that is, "mingde" and "stop at perfection" in college. As "University" said: "Things follow knowledge, knowledge follows sincerity, sincerity follows heart, mind is cultivated with you, body is cultivated with family, family and country govern, and country governs with the world". What is an "object case"? Is to know things, understand things, understand things; Only after "understanding" can we improve our consciousness and cultivate good conduct; Only after "self-cultivation" will we strive to achieve our outstanding ability and talent in handling things. Only "success" can create a grand career, and only "establishment" can qualify to participate in family management. If we don't even have the ability to "keep the house in order", how can we have the ability to govern the country? Without the ability to "govern the country", it is impossible to "become famous in the world" and "inspire future generations".

In fact, a lifetime is only a few decades. Generally speaking, 0-6 years old is the enlightenment stage of ignorance; 7- 16 years old, this is the stage of curiosity and imitation; 17-25 years old, which is the stage of learning and understanding; 26-35 years old, is the stage of career creation; 36-50 years old is the stage of summing up experience; 5 1-60 years old, which is the stage of enriching wisdom; After the age of 60, it is the stage of enjoying achievements. In other words, the life time when people can truly reflect their own values is only about 26-50 years old, and more than 20 years is very short! Of course, there are many special lives. Some are sixty or seventy years old, or even older, and are still creating value. But these people are not ordinary people. These people can be called great sages. Their virtue, talent and wisdom are inseparable from him. If they live one more day, they will make great contributions to society and radiate more light. Their life value is not only reflected in this life, but also famous in the world and inspiring the future. I won't list such people one by one. You will see many in the history of our country. Why can those great men inspire future generations through the ages? As descendants of the Chinese people and the Chinese nation, we should understand, let alone know.

Therefore, the sage taught us in "The University": "The ancient desire is obviously superior to the world, and the country should be ruled first; If you want to govern your country, you should first get your family together; If you want to reunite with your family, you should first repair your body; If you want to cultivate yourself, you should be upright first; If you want to be correct, be sincere first; Be sincere, let him know first; Know in the matter. "

In the life history of our nation for thousands of years, as long as people can speak, their families will enlighten and educate us, respect our elders, distinguish right from wrong, be governors and so on. This is the beginning of "understanding". No matter from family, kindergarten, primary school, middle school, university, doctor, master and academician, we all accept the "understanding" from "teachers". What is the reason? That is to understand "human philosophy, social philosophy and natural philosophy" and distinguish "right and wrong between life and the world". Therefore, the sage said that in our learning stage, "if you don't teach, you will change your nature", and teachers should also "teach it with expertise." When I was talking about "university" and enterprise management, I once compared human beings to mobile phones. A good and valuable mobile phone must have three basic conditions: first, a high-quality mobile phone body; Second, the power is sufficient; Third, a good signal. No matter how good the quality is, the power is enough, but there is no good signal. Would you like to use it? Will you be happy if you often get disconnected when you catch the phone, or if you hear the other person scold you when you answer the phone? If you encounter this phenomenon, I'm sure you can't wait to throw away your mobile phone or change your calling card at once. Besides, isn't it the same for a person? No matter how strong the body is, no matter how rich the knowledge is, if there is no healthy and good ideology, then the result of his behavior will hurt everyone and be unacceptable. Therefore, we must first learn to be "sensible" and shape a noble, ambitious and healthy ideological and spiritual soul, so as to give full play to our talents and realize our real life value.

As far as the "philosophy of human relations" is concerned, thousands of years ago, sages and sages have told us that there are the most basic "five ethics" principles in the world. What about "five virtues"? There is no relationship of "monarch and minister, father and son, brother, husband and wife, friend", that is, the relationship between superiors and subordinates, children and parents, brothers and sisters, husband and wife, classmates, colleagues and friends in today's team enterprises. As long as one lives in the world, no one can get rid of these relationships, but they get along well with each other. Generally speaking, "father and son are close, monarch and minister are righteous, brothers are orderly, husband and wife are different, and friends believe" is the principle of human relations that we should follow. That is, "the three cardinal principles-the monarch is the minister's cardinal principle, the father is the child's cardinal principle, and the husband is the wife's cardinal principle" and "the five permanent principles-benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith". "The Doctrine of the Mean" said: "There are five ways in the world, so those who do it are three. Yue: monarch and minister, father and son, husband and wife, brother Kun, friend. Fifth, the way of the world is also. Knowledge, kindness and courage are the virtues of the world. Therefore, those who walk are also. Or born to know; Or learn and know; Or you know that you are trapped; One of its knowledge. Still do it safely; Or do it for the benefit; Or do it reluctantly; And its success. "

The so-called "father-son" relationship is the relationship between children and parents in our family today. This relationship is innate and cannot be changed or replaced. Even if it can be legally changed today, it cannot be fundamentally changed, let alone reversed. Because the affection between parents and children cannot be cut off. Out of animal instinct, parents love their children, and young children depend on their parents, which is animal nature. It is this innate nature that establishes a special affection between parents and children. Father and son are filial! Parents love children is in our nature, children also want to repay their parents' kindness. Parents are good to their children, and children should be grateful, grateful and grateful. The sage said, "Filial piety is the foundation of virtue." What is taught is innate. ""the classics of heaven, the meaning of the earth, and the trip of people. "This is also the foundation of family education. If children don't know, thank and repay their parents, they will lose the essence of being a man. "Book of Rites" said: "Teach people to be polite, make people be polite, and know that they are different from animals. "If parents can't educate their children with the rules of how to be polite, but treat their children as' family pets', it will ruin their lives. The ancients said, "Raising children without teaching is like raising donkeys, and raising daughters without teaching is like raising pigs". In that case, when children grow up, they will be arrogant, selfish, willful and solitary in treating people around them. Therefore, it is necessary to study and develop "being a father, such as a father" at home from an early age; "To be a man, you must have the consciousness of your brother, and to be a man, you must have the habit of your brother". Learn to respect, respect and honor the elderly. " Heaven, earth, monarch and teacher cannot be disrespectful. This is the fundamental rule for children to maintain a good relationship with their parents. If they violate this law and don't know how much their parents owe them and how grateful they are to their parents, they won't repay their parents' kindness. It is impossible to have a respectful attitude, respectful behavior and filial attitude towards parents.

At home, my father is "blue sky". He not only raised us, but also gave us the courage and courage to live. Mother is "the earth". She not only cares about us, but also embraces our ignorance with her broad mind. He (she) expects his children not only to grow up healthily, but also to make a difference and live a happy life when they grow up. This is the attitude of parents towards their children. Therefore, the ancients said: "The filial piety of all virtues comes first, regardless of their hearts, poor families have no filial sons." He didn't respect and be polite to his parents, and even if he gave them more material, he couldn't be called a "dutiful son". What's more, those rebellious children who have no tutor since childhood are always thinking about their parents' little possessions, arguing with their parents for money and profit, and even resorting to law? ! Can such a father-son relationship make the family harmonious? ! "The Book of Filial Piety" says: "Those who love others dare not be wicked; Respect your relatives and don't neglect others. Love and respect are exhausted, moral education is added to the people, and punishment is everywhere. " If you can form good habits, you can, as "University" said: "A gentleman is a Buddhist without becoming a monk; Filial piety, so things are also jun; Like, so long; Well, so things are also. " Being able to be filial to parents is a good beginning of "understanding". This is called "father and son are related".

The so-called "brother" relationship is the relationship between brothers and sisters in our family today. This relationship is also a natural blood relationship. We were born in the same family, taken care of by the same parents, grew up drinking the same mouthful of milk, and had the same blood on our bodies, resulting in irreplaceable affection. Whether you are a half-brother or a half-brother, it is the same. Brothers and sisters should be born earlier than brothers and sisters, always care about their love and affection, and brothers and sisters will rely on them from an early age. At home, only when brothers and sisters give way and protect their younger brothers and sisters will they show deep brotherhood. Brothers and sisters should treat their brothers and sisters with understanding, tolerance and forgiveness. Only in this way can we get the respect of our younger brothers and sisters. "Brother" means "brother"! So "there is no reason to discuss feelings at home, and there is no peace at home." This is called "orderly growth and decline".

The so-called "husband and wife" relationship is a family relationship that is based on love and enters the family the day after tomorrow. In the past, "wife" was also a newly established kinship among the three families (father, mother and wife) and six relatives (grandparents and grandparents, parents and in-laws, uncles and aunts, brothers and sisters and cousins, children and nephews, in-laws). Then, the root of maintaining this relationship is the harmony between husband and wife. At home, the husband is Yang, Gang (Gang), the master; The wife is yin, soft (eye) and obedient. Generally speaking, raising children, washing and cooking, and daily housework are all centered on the wife, and housework is presided over by her. So "a woman is a man's heart" and "a woman is home". Creating wealth, buying a house, repairing a house, educating children, the husband is the mainstay, and the external affairs are presided over by the husband, so it is said that "men are women's courage" and "men are industries". The husband is considerate of his wife, and the wife is loyal to her husband. The husband and wife share the responsibilities of the family and the family. "conjugal love"! If this relationship is overthrown, there will be problems in the relationship between husband and wife. Speaking of which, I want to give Kong a shout. Old Master Q once said that "a woman without talent is virtue", but this sentence has been criticized for decades, saying that Confucius "slandered women". In fact, over the years, everyone has been unilaterally understanding the words of the sage. We should dialectically understand and accept the views of saints. Confucius' point of view is that "as a woman, she should give full play to her gentle and mellow nature, be a good counselor and assistant to her husband, and can't' offside' instead of her husband to deal with foreign things". Just like today's enterprise team, the "general manager" is the direct management executor of the enterprise, and can't be offside to deal with what the "chairman" should master. How can a woman manage a family without talent? Without talents, how can the general manager manage the enterprise? The "talent" of a saint is offside, not talented. If you are the "chairman", are you willing to let your "general manager" power offside? Therefore, as a wife, no matter how talented and capable she is in society, she should also abide by women's nature at home, so as to maintain family harmony, otherwise the relationship between husband and wife will change, and the stability of the relationship between husband and wife will directly affect the happiness of parents, siblings and children in the whole family. Today, young men and women who are influenced by "Shakespeare's romantic love view" regard romantic love as the basis of building a family and live in plays or novels. Can't stand the hardships of real life, can't bear the responsibility to other family members, and can't forgive, understand and tolerate the shortcomings of husband and wife. Therefore, there have been a large number of divorces, which have caused family breakdown and brought a lot of troubles to families, families and society. At the same time, it also caused great pain to myself. I once compared a family to a fruit tree in a lecture. Parents and old people are like roots, men and women are like trunks and branches, like brothers and sisters, and children are flowers and fruits. If filial parents water and fertilize the roots, the whole tree will flourish; The trunk of husband and wife should have great power to wronged themselves and support the whole tree; Brothers and sisters are attached to flowers and fruits; Flowers and fruits absorb the family nutrients of the whole tree and grow happily. You said, if the couple's trunk is gone, what about the family?

What will happen to the roots, branches, flowers and fruits of this tree? However, today's science can already graft trees, which means that today's families can also "graft". No matter how good a tree is grafted, its appearance may be beautiful, and the "flowers and fruits" that can be harvested must not be "original". Old people and children in single parents or reorganized families are not necessarily happy spiritually, and families are not necessarily harmonious. This is called "husband and wife are different"!

The so-called "friend" relationship is also a "friendship" social relationship established the day after tomorrow. Because of fate, they met, intersected and became bosom friends. They talk about everything, and even this "friendship" goes beyond the "affection" between brothers. The maintenance of this relationship depends on "sincerity", "sincerity has faith"! Why did the ancients say that "birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups"? In the process of our growth, classmates, comrades-in-arms, colleagues, colleagues, collaborators, and even the public who live with us day and night may become "bosom friends." Friends can gain mutual trust by getting along with each other sincerely. "Honesty" is "faith"! If you don't have a sincere and frank attitude towards your friends, then this trust will decline and even be alienated by your friends. This is called "friends have letters".

The so-called "monarch-minister" relationship is also the relationship between superiors and subordinates in our work today. This relationship is a subordinate relationship of "leadership and being led, management and being managed". We must know how to lead others or how to obey the laws and principles of leaders. If you don't understand this rule and principle, the relationship in the team will be in a mess, or even a mess. Then, if a leader respects and cares about his subordinates, they will be sincere and loyal to them. The existence of a team will inevitably be divided into higher and lower levels, and there is a difference between being led and being led. The leader is the core of this team. What should leaders use to attract and unite everyone? You don't necessarily need a leader who is professional and talented in a certain aspect, as long as you have the virtue of being admired and the charm of being admired, it is enough to lead everyone. "Ren Jun" will be "loyal"! My friends, what should you do if you become a boss and leader in the future? Today's era is an era of testing leaders. Why? Because today is the era of economic development, most people live for "economic interests", and the value of human existence is measured by how many "economic interests" they have. So today's leaders will naturally use some means to drive away their subordinates and "collect money" for themselves. The "financial benefits" accumulated by subordinates are only divided into the proportion of leaders. This is "the relationship between leaders and subordinates is the relationship of interests". For the sake of "economic interests", leaders can ignore their own virtues or charms. They only need to attract their subordinates with "financial gains" and control their subordinates with power. However, this relationship between leaders and subordinates based on "financial benefits" is a pair of contradictory relationships. The competition for "financial benefits" will eventually compete with each other and turn against each other. In today's enterprise management, the biggest headache for most enterprise leaders is the job-hopping and betrayal of employees. Why? This is just as Mencius said: "Respect the righteousness and interests after the first, but don't take it!" "I am a minister, I am a son, I am a brother, I am a brother. It is the monarch, father, son and brother who finally move towards benevolence and righteousness, which are interrelated. However, the immortal is not there. "

What we discussed above is the principles and laws of getting along. In a word, the value concept of life forged by our Chinese nation for thousands of years is "to live for others". As Mencius said: "The people (people) are happy, and the people (people) are also happy; People (people) are also worried about those who worry about people (people). " Understand the laws of these interpersonal relationships and master the principles of getting along with others, then, whether at home, at work or in society, you will get along with others happily. Otherwise, you will get along with people nervously and painfully.

At any time, the composition of society is inseparable from "politics, culture and economy". "Politics" dominates everything in society. Political stability determines the development of industry, agriculture, commerce and science and technology. Politics is the root of social stability and chaos. The Doctrine of the Mean says, "Human nature is sensitive to politics, and tunnels are sensitive to trees." "Rule the country by the people, follow the example of the people, cultivate one's morality by the way, and cultivate one's morality by benevolence. Benevolent people, people are also, and relatives are the biggest. Honest people should also respect kind people. The killing of a kiss, the respect of a saint, etc. It was also born by ceremony. " Throughout the ages, in the history of our nation, the political rule of changing dynasties has always been the mainstream of our Chinese history. A "respected" ruler will be prosperous, peaceful and prosperous, and will rule the country for a long time, which can last for hundreds of years. For example, in The Doctrine of the Mean, "Honesty has no interest, and time passes." Rulers who are "ignorant of morality" will be replaced, and the time to rule the country will be shorter, maybe several years or decades. For example, in "Mencius", "Those who get the country without mercy must have it; Ruthless people in the world have nothing to do with this. " "Culture" restricts politics, and advanced and positive ideological culture will promote bright social politics; Negative and greedy ideology and culture will also contribute to dirty social politics. For example, if a family is happy for other family members and participates in the creation of family wealth, then the family will have strong affection, happiness and harmony; If a family participates in the creation of family wealth with the attitude of enjoying wealth for individuals, then the family will disintegrate and leave it behind. Therefore, the Book of Rites says: "Rites are based on their aspirations, and they are happy to be in harmony with their voices. Politics is based on deeds, and punishment is used to prevent their rape." "Economy" is the fundamental material guarantee for social development. The rich and stable life of a family, a team and a country comes from the healthy economic development of different industries such as industry, agriculture and commerce. Unhealthy economic development will lead to the intensification of social contradictions and social chaos. If a family's financial resources and income are unhealthy, it will lead to the intensification of family conflicts and even bring disaster to the family. The same is true for a team and a country. "University" said: "The way to make money: more people live, less people eat, and people who use it are comfortable, so they are rich." "A man of virtue, a man of soil, soil rich, rich and useful. De, this is also; Those rich people will end up with nothing. At the end of the day, fight for the people. "

"Heroes come from troubled times, and talents come from prosperous times". What kind of social environment will create what kind of talents. Different social environments are like different weather changes. Rainy weather will make you sell umbrellas; Hot weather will make it possible to sell air conditioners; In midsummer, selling skirts and sweatshirts will be successful; In the cold winter, you will successfully sell coats and boots. The key is that we can "know the weather from the clouds". In what kind of weather, we have to cope with different lives and adapt to different lives. Rainy days, without an umbrella, will get wet; Isn't it a fool to wear cotton-padded boots in hot summer? ! However, no matter what the weather is, we should keep a clean, tidy and healthy life. For example, Mencius said, "Wealth cannot be lewd, poverty cannot be moved, and power cannot be bent." "Poverty is immune, and achievements are beneficial to the world." No matter what environment you live in, you can't lose the principle of being a man, and you can't lose your dignity and integrity. Once you lose your dignity and integrity, you lose your humanity. Therefore, no matter what kind of social environment we live in, we should, as the golden mean says, "just stay where we are and don't want to be outside." We should know ourselves and ourselves, that is, "I will do whatever I can". You can't do things that hurt others and hurt yourself. Today we often talk about someone, "that person's cultivation is too poor" and "that person's quality is too low". How low are those people? How bad is cultivation? However, compared with the teaching standards of saints, the manners of those people have not reached the corresponding level of consciousness, and the concept of "public morality" is not enough. As far as everyone here is concerned, have you reached the standard of teaching saints in terms of moral concepts and quality training? We are just "pot calling the kettle black". Therefore, I think all our young friends here will have a wish at present: when I enter social life, "I must become a respected, talented and successful person." So, what can we do to realize our wishes? Let's continue to discuss "how to cultivate one's morality" next time. Thank you!