On the influence of love on college students' personality development Abstract: The problem of college students' love has always been a hot issue in college students' education and management. Both school leaders, teachers and students are very concerned about this. Various related research articles are also common in newspapers and periodicals. However, for a long time, people tend to focus on the description of the current situation of college students' love and the analysis of its advantages and disadvantages, and rarely further explore the reasons for the advantages and disadvantages. Keywords: college students' personality development, love growth. First, the psychological impact of love on college students. College students' love is an objective and normal phenomenon. We can neither deny nor avoid it. Dealing with emotional communication with the opposite sex, even the problem of love, is an important life topic that every young college student will face. This is an indispensable link in the growth process of college students, especially in the process of personality development. Love is the deep contact between two personalities. In this process, young people's self-concept is developed under the influence of each other. They really know how to adjust their own defects to adapt to each other while maintaining their independence. In other words, after falling in love. Love is of great significance to the development of certain personality factors and social emotions. Moreover, the deep communication between the two people in love has laid the foundation for improving young people's communicative ability and adapting to the future society. No wonder some psychologists believe that love is the most important event in the late adolescence and early adulthood. Only after falling in love can people really mature. The university environment is unique: for college students, it provides a buffer environment when young people step into society. With this buffer, young people can complete socialization more calmly and develop their self-concept more perfectly, without feeling the strong contrast and psychological discomfort of falling directly into society from young people. From this perspective, college students' love is not a bad thing, but it is very helpful for the maturity of young people. In addition, college students generally think that they are no longer naive teenagers, and the love sung in literature and art is of course their goal. (B) the negative impact of love on the psychological development of college students. Although the meaning of love has a positive side, it sometimes damages the mental health of young people. First of all, life events such as being madly in love and widowed in marriage are events with high scores on the psychological stress scale. Excessive excitement and sadness will aggravate psychological tension. Love is something that makes people happy and painful. Young people in love will be happy or upset about some small things. Therefore, love brings a high degree of psychological tension. The further development of love will also bring social problems, which is also an important factor of psychological obstacles. Such as the increase of premarital sex. , causing the psychological burden of young people to be overweight. Although men and women in love will feel strong psychological tension, the harmony and comfort of both sides and the sweetness of love will alleviate their anxiety. Those who suffer setbacks in love are not so lucky. Young people who are lovelorn will lose their souls and feel that the meaning of life no longer exists, and life will only be pain and torture, and some people even go to a dead end. Without proper psychological guidance or strong self-control, lovelorn will have a great psychological impact on young people. Visible love is a double-edged sword for young people. On the one hand, it helps the psychological development of young people to mature, on the other hand, it also brings various psychological problems. This may be the truth of life. If you want to get a sweet return, you must stand the test. Second, love is one of the basic human emotions. As one of the basic emotions of human beings, love is an old and often new topic, and it is also a hot topic of "sleeping with the party" in college dormitories. A large number of facts have proved that the love that fascinates and fascinates college students most is also the biggest "source of troubles" for college students. How to treat love correctly and how to deal with the relationship between love, life and career is of great significance to the growth and progress of college students and their future family happiness. Put the position of love right-love is precious, and the cost of career is higher. The word sparkling love has opened the hearts of many young men and women throughout the ages and written many beautiful and touching chapters. Beautiful love stories such as butterfly lovers, Romeo and Juliet, Marx and Yan Ni are celebrated by the world. It embodies people's desire for happiness and perfect love and their pursuit of lofty and sacred love. There is no doubt that love is an indispensable part of human social life and occupies an important position in life. For the young college students in Seeds of Love, love is the "poem and sun" of life. Advantages and disadvantages of college students' falling in love With the changes of people's social concepts and lifestyles, the problem of falling in love has penetrated into all aspects of college students' study, life, attitude towards life and ideals. The maturity of adolescent sexual function and the awakening of sexual consciousness have caused subtle psychological changes of college students. In this small society where 65,438+08-23 young people gather, the phenomenon of college students' love has changed from hiding half of their faces behind guitars to openly wandering in love, which has become a real problem on campus. After college students crowded across the single-plank bridge, their study pressure was relieved, and they had more leisure time after school to face a brand-new and colorful college life. After a short period of novelty and curiosity, a long homesickness will haunt you. In addition, most college students in China are only children, and their ability to live independently is relatively weakened, and they have little experience in collective life. It is difficult to adapt to the double pressures of study and life for a while. Once the purpose of learning is not clear, it will inevitably lead to emptiness and boredom. Look at the seniors around you. Love will attract these empty college students with its unique temptation. Whether college students' love outweighs the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages has always been a matter of opinion. People who hold the view of approval say that college students can care for each other in their lives when they fall in love; Promote each other spiritually, comfort each other and relieve homesickness; Encourage each other in their studies, improve together, and promote the self-motivation of both sides. From the sociological point of view, there is no harm in college students falling in love, and allowing college students to fall in love at school can avoid the increase of unmarried older women at high levels in society; From a medical point of view, once a female student who falls in love at school enters the society, it is the physical maturity of women in age, and marriage and childbirth are beneficial to both individuals and society. Those who disagree believe that college students fall in love during school, on the one hand, they enter the world of two people too early, and their energy is too scattered, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-motivation and will seriously affect their studies; Secondly, it is often difficult for college students to grasp the accuracy and moderation because of many contradictions and great setbacks in the process of love. Although college students are physically mature, their psychological development is unbalanced, their mood fluctuates greatly, and they are easy to get emotional. Once you are lovelorn, if you can't get reasonable emotional counseling, the consequences will be unimaginable. Thirdly, college students in love have a strong tendency in interpersonal communication, and often alienate their original partners or even the collective, which leads to the estrangement between classmates and affects unity. The sense of responsibility for the collective is also replaced by the affair between men and women, which is not conducive to the shaping and growth of individual roles, nor to the development of the collective; The employment trend is also a sensitive issue that has been bothering college students in love.