First, the necessity of improving college students' ability to adapt to society How can college students improve their ability to adapt to social development? In other words, how can they gain a foothold in today's high-speed social development and not be eliminated by the competitive mode of "survival of the fittest"? If you want to live well in society and live better than others, you must have the ability to adapt to social development when you enter society. Students are called a special group, and college students are another special branch of this special group. They have just stepped out of their ivory tower and entered the marginal zone of social cohesion-university. What they are faced with is how to study, how to exercise and how to improve their ability to adapt to social development as individuals in many colleges and universities. With the deepening of reform and opening up, people's social life and other aspects have changed. College students adapt to the requirements of social development in changes, but a considerable number of college students do not adapt to changes in the environment. Therefore, it is of far-reaching significance for students to study at school and even enter the society in the future. The fundamental purpose of higher education is to promote the socialization of college students. To develop a certain cognitive structure and belief, due to the imbalance of interaction between individuals and the environment, the psychological level of individuals is different, mainly manifested in the differences in cognitive styles and emotional experiences. This implicit different psychological state can be expressed through explicit social behavior, thus reflecting the socialization degree and mental health status of college students. Therefore, the discussion of college students' social adaptation is helpful to better grasp the relationship between cognition and emotion. College students' social adaptation is a process in which individuals seek to maintain a harmonious and balanced relationship with the social environment in their interaction with it. The social adaptation of college students is basically interpersonal adaptation, which is one of the important signs of social adaptation. The social adaptation of college students is mainly a process of playing social roles, thus forming self-awareness and realizing individual socialization. The development of college students' social cognitive level and its limitations lead to the instability of their social cognitive prejudice and emotional development to a certain extent, and it is easy to produce conflicts between roles and self-awareness in the process of socialization. Since China's entry into WTO, all walks of life have undergone great adjustments. Many foreigners have entered the economic field of our country, and more China people have gone abroad. China's economy has been greatly integrated into the international economic trend, the economy is constantly changing, and the society is constantly changing with the rapid economic upgrading. So now many industries need not only professional talents, but versatile talents with various talents. This requires our college students to actively improve interpersonal relationships and exercise their ability to adapt to social development while studying their own majors. Because college students have just stepped out of the ivory tower, there are often some deviations in their cognition of society, that is, they think and do things according to their own will, and there are some prejudices in interpersonal adaptation; This prejudice naturally affected the accuracy of his social cognition. The process of social cognition is based on the past experience of the cognitive and the analysis of relevant clues. Social cognition must also depend on cognitive thinking activities, including information processing, reasoning, classification and induction to a certain extent. When people speculate and judge other people's behaviors, they often know the potential psychological state of others at that time according to their own experiences, that is, they treat others according to their own experiences. So social cognition is restricted by subjective factors. It is precisely because of these prejudices that college students are constantly growing up, accumulating a lot of experience and developing their own life theory. At the same time, it also has the preconditions to adapt to society. Playing social roles is an important part of college students' socialization, and the fundamental purpose of socialization is to cultivate qualified social members. In the process of socialization, college students constantly transform social requirements into the psychological content of social roles, that is, through personal inner activities or personal experiences, they truly believe and accept social leading values and behavioral norms, and bring them into the personal value system; At the same time, the content of the adjusted social role is constantly manifested as individual behavior. This is actually the process of learning and playing social roles. Role conflict is the inner contradiction and conflict when a person plays a social role or several different roles at the same time. The final result of socialization is to cultivate members who meet social requirements and make them play a certain role in social life. This role should act according to the norms stipulated for him in the social structure, and can fully reflect personal values and sense of responsibility. For example, the principal, director and teacher of a school are three roles in the gay relationship, and teachers and students are two roles in the teacher-student relationship. Each role has a set of rights and obligations and a code of conduct system. Adapting to social roles means that principals should fulfill their rights and obligations and act according to the norms of leaders; Teachers and students should also fulfill their rights and obligations and act according to their own norms; In this way, teachers and students will be educated, young and old will be orderly, and so on. This is the purpose of adapting to social roles. In the process of adapting to social roles, we should first pay attention to cultivating our own values and sense of responsibility. Be a useful person to society and mankind. To understand that "I don't have more than one, but I have less than one" will lose my personal value and the meaning of existence. In a word, there are many contents of social adaptation, such as will quality, cooperative spirit, competitive consciousness, sports ethics and so on. All these require us to keep learning and make ourselves qualified members of society. Second, college students need to improve their ability to adapt to social development-to surpass themselves. College students are a special group in society. Their age is a sensitive and unstable period in life, and society is close at hand for them. On the surface, college students in this period are mature in various functions, but in fact, they are very fragile inside. Accustomed to campus life, when they are about to set foot on the society, they are often unprepared, and they will have restless emotions in their hearts, seriously suffer from social maladjustment, and continue to have adverse emotional reactions such as anxiety, depression, anger and mania. , will further improve the possibility of disease, inhibit people's ability to play, and develop many bad behaviors and habits. For example, inattention, poor memory and limited communication skills. In addition, it will also cause obstacles to people's physiological functions, such as headache, dizziness and digestive dysfunction, which will seriously affect the healthy development of individuals' body and mind. However, this is inevitable. Only by finding it and facing it can we cultivate and maintain the social adaptability of college students. As long as we pay attention to the following aspects in our daily life, we will gradually adjust ourselves to better adapt to society.
1. To actively participate in social activities, we must proceed from reality, correctly understand the objective reality, do not escape from reality, and do not make unfounded fantasies, so as to put ourselves in various things, understand it, master it, and further transform it. 2. Actively adjust and choose countermeasures, keep good contact with social real life, do not avoid reality, and actively face various challenges in real life. When personal needs conflict with social reality, we can give full play to our subjective initiative. Subjectively, we should take a positive attitude, not wait passively; When choosing countermeasures, we should judge the situation, conditionally choose the conditions to transform the environment, and unconditionally choose the methods to transform ourselves. Only in this way can we find the best solution without dreaming or giving up on ourselves. 3. Take psychological defense measures, no matter how to transform the environment and change yourself, there must be a process of transformation and consideration. In this process, there will be some troubles. In order to solve this dilemma, psychological defense may be used to achieve the purpose of liberation. 4. Maintain physical and mental health
People not only need physical satisfaction such as nutrition, physical exercise and rest, but also need family, friendship, support, understanding and respect, and get psychological satisfaction through interpersonal relationships. In daily study and work, harmonious interpersonal relationship is the tonic of life. In order to improve people's quality of life, we should improve and cultivate our ability to deal with people.
5. Strengthen physical exercise. Through physical exercise, you can contact more people and things, communicate with people through exercise, enhance the regulatory function of brain excitement and inhibition, improve the nervous system, make people forget their troubles and pains, and eliminate loneliness; Exercise can awaken people's mental emotions, make them refreshed and relaxed, make them glow with youthful passion and improve their social adaptability. Therefore, the first thing for college students is to surpass themselves. If they want to have a place in society, they must constantly strive to surpass themselves. But the strongest opponent in front of us may not be others, but ourselves, so we should surpass ourselves first and then others. I remember reading a passage in a book: A spoiled child who has never been far away, starting from this morning, has to take a bus for more than three hours every day, passing through a dirty, dark and robber-infested area and going to a high school in Manhattan ... Today is the first day of class, which is your first day of high school. Although I didn't get up to see you off in the morning, I clearly heard your hurried footsteps. I know you seem to have some stomach upset, probably because of nervousness. I know, you have to take Q 17 A in the alley, then change to Q 44 A bus, then take the F subway, cross the river tunnel in semi-Queens and midtown Manhattan, cross 53 rd Street south, and then change to L bus at 14 Street to get to school. I'll take you for a test ride two days ago. This one-way trip takes one hour and forty minutes. No wonder your grandmother is fidgeting all day. I also know that the subway in new york is one of the most chaotic and unsafe places in the world. Every day, there is always news of robbery and even murder in the newspaper. Two days ago, a China man was pushed off the tracks by a psychopath and ran over. Last week, another woman died after being dragged by a car for dozens of feet. As for the places you pass by, although there are the busiest Fifth Street and the dirtiest 42nd Street in the world, it is no exaggeration to say that you have to go to school through the forest infested with poisonous snakes and beasts every day. The question is, for a child who has never left home more than three miles alone in the past, why did I leave the high school in front of you and let you take such a big risk and run around Manhattan every day? On the one hand, of course, it's because you have been admitted to a world-famous school, Stuyvesant High School, which is called Little Harvard. On the other hand, I think it's time to teach you to go out and experience. On the journey of life, we all have to go this way, cross this hurdle and pursue our ideals. It should even be said that the road of life is more dangerous, because there is no turning back, taking a road that has never been experienced and can only be experienced once. So, what's terrible about your general education in the next four years? Probably for not being at ease! I'm afraid you can't find the station on your return trip. I specially calculated the time and waited for you at the subway exit. Do you know that?/You know what? When I saw you walk out of the station in fear, my heart was full of mixed feelings, and I was so excited that I was like a father and son reunited for many years. There are tears in your surprised eyes. On the return bus, you complained to me that the last two stops of the subway were too far away, and thought you got on the wrong bus: but you can memorize the names of the stops I couldn't write down when I took you for a test drive last time. Yes, young man! You will gradually find that when you walk alone, you will become smarter; Yes, young man! Rough and dark roads will make you really mature! He did something he had never done before, and he did it well. He adapted to the changes in the surrounding environment, took a strong step and accumulated a valuable fortune for stepping into the society in the future. In the unknown day in the future, this spiritual wealth will be like a sword, allowing him to constantly surpass himself and become an outstanding member of society. Third, the conditions for college students to adapt to social development-the future is beautiful, but a bright future should be created on the basis of reality. Therefore, "based on the present, facing the future, pursuing the future and realizing the future" is not only a matter for futurists and government leaders, but also something that all young people who are interested in hot jobs should keep in mind. In the future, what college students will face in the future is how to adapt to the development of society and find their own flat land in the wave of rapid economic development. When entering the society, the first thing we have to face is communication, exchange and improvement of interpersonal relationship. Only by improving interpersonal relationships can we express ourselves well, which is also a very important means to adapt to social development. Good interpersonal relationship means that your social skills have also achieved something, which is of great help to your future work. So how to improve interpersonal relationships? I wrote my own summary and shared it with you: First, respect others. Second, be honest with others. Third, we should care about others. Fourth, we should understand each other. Fifth, we should abandon a series of unhealthy psychology such as suspicion, jealousy, inferiority, shyness and loneliness. At the same time, when communicating with people, we should also understand the communication environment and objects, master the initiative of communication, be good at asking and listening, be considerate of others' behavior, simply answer questions and get rid of bad body language habits. I believe that as long as you do the above, your interpersonal relationship will be good and you will have many friends, which is why harmonious interpersonal relationship is the tonic of life. Fourth, what college students should learn: patience and self-confidence. Another point is to learn to be patient. As the saying goes, "If you can become a ninja, you will become a Pepsi". Nowadays, due to the continuous progress of society and economic development, people's living standards have been greatly improved. Therefore, students are smarter now. In college, the average age of freshmen is only 19 years old. Therefore, most college students are not very mature now, and they do things without full consideration. 19 years old, according to the conventional thinking, this is still a young and bloody age, and it is easy to act impulsively and recklessly. In life, we should learn to be realistic, not willful, but self-controlled. However, with the development of society, there have been various occupations and many people with different ideas. Some people only think about themselves, so it is inevitable that they will hurt someone. Therefore, it is inevitable that some college students will be embarrassed when they step into the society, set their goals high, and will only end up in discord. However, if we cultivate our patience from now on and expand our tolerance limit as much as possible, then we will face all kinds of difficulties when we are employed in the future. Let yourself have a good attitude, which every student who enters the university must have, so that you can be more capable of adapting to social development and facing social progress in the future. Also, we should cultivate our self-confidence. In our class, there are many people who are not confident. They always think twice and can't do things well. But self-confidence is really important to everyone, and now I can't remember the sentence I read in that book, that is, "Before you do everything, no matter what your grasp is, you should face it with confidence, because as long as you have self-confidence, you have already succeeded half." I think this sentence is very good, because with confidence, things that you can't even think of will happen. As long as you are confident, you have already succeeded halfway. Even if you fail in the end, you still have a very precious memory. At least you have the confidence to try. Of course, it is not enough to be confident in doing things, but also to be prepared. It is our nature to improve our ability to seize opportunities actively. Playing makes us full of passion. There is a passage in Dickens' A Tale of Two Cities: "This is the best time and this is the worst time; This is the smartest era, this is the stupidest era; This is the era of trust, this is the era of deception; ..... In short, this is an era when everything is changing, which makes people lose their direction and feel embarrassed. " In such an era, we are in the prime of life and constantly changing under the influence of society. The library is no longer "overcrowded", and the study rooms are basically bench-to-bench except before the exam. This era is no longer an era of studying hard and grabbing seats in the study room. So, as a modern college student, what should you bring into the society? We pay so little now, and the final reward must be pitiful. So from now on, we should see the progress of society, the efforts of others and our own shortcomings, so that we can always be vigilant. Being ready at all times is already the most basic concept that modern college students should have. With the continuous prosperity of China's national strength, college students have changed from "one in ten thousand" to "everywhere", with fewer employment opportunities and enhanced competitiveness. So when the opportunity comes, how can we seize it? We need to be ready at all times and have the ability to seize this opportunity at all times. Someone said, "Opportunity is like the hair on the forehead of a bald man. If you don't catch him when he comes, you can't catch him when he walks by. " So how can we have this ability? Of course, there are many ways to do this. Here are some of my thoughts: 1. You should be clear about the industry you want to engage in after graduation, and make clear your direction of efforts. 2. Always improve your professional level. Read more professional books to consolidate your professional knowledge. 3. We should also improve our spiritual cultivation. Read more books on philosophy and sociology to sublimate their own connotation. The most important thing is to know manners. In the real society, the first impression people give when they are employed is very important. So the library should be the place where we often stay, and the study room should be the place where we often stop. Studying more is the top priority for college students, so we should try our best to do the things in front of us. But don't think that thoughts are overwhelming. It is good to know more, but people's energy is limited, and action is actually very important. Don't understand what you don't need to understand, which is also a truth, and it can also save a lot of time to learn what you are interested in. 6. How should college students choose that everyone is born equal, especially in this real society, being content with Changle is a good way of life. When your ability is limited, it is acceptable to find a job that you are competent for, and it is not so against your will, so you can't keep the idea of "being superior" forever; Because with the establishment of market economy, the employment of talents is no longer a planned dispatch, but a two-way choice. We choose the unit, and the unit chooses us. Therefore, when college students look for jobs after graduation, most of them don't have ideal good jobs in the end, and they will regret their stubbornness and dissatisfaction in the end. There are many such examples. Therefore, maintaining a happy attitude is also a way to improve college students' ability to adapt to social development. Because we are college students and have received higher education from the country, we are the wealth of the country, and we should make our own contribution to the construction and development of the country. So no matter where we are, we should try our best to do our job well. Even if you graduated from a prestigious school, high flyers was recruited to work in a small company. But remember, working in a small company may be your best development opportunity, and we can get development in the end. I remember reading a short story in a book: A college graduate applied for a job, but many good companies refused to accept him, because he had no work experience, so he decided to work as a small probationary employee in a small company. A month later, due to his hard work and talent, he was quickly admitted as a regular employee. Moreover, because there are few undergraduates in this company, his ability has been fully exerted, and he can recognize his own shortcomings and correct them in time; He also has strong innovation ability. No matter what he does, he will have new ideas and be promoted to department manager after half a year. Unconsciously, a year passed, and in an activity organized by the company, he showed his talents and unique opinions, which made the activity very successful. That is, this time, he was taken fancy to by the boss of the company and stayed with him as a secretary. Because he rose from a small probationary employee to this position by virtue of his own strength, he knows the needs of grassroots employees very well and knows what they need. After being approved by the boss of the company, he started the reform in the company with his own learning and accumulated experience. Through this reform, almost everyone in the company got what they wanted, knowing that the company was thinking of itself, so they worked extra hard. Since then, great changes have taken place in the company's business and profits have increased a lot. Three years later, he established his own company with his accumulated experience and excellent communication skills and interpersonal relationships. Through his continuous efforts, he is now a big boss worth over 100 million yuan. This short story tells us that as a college student, we should not set our sights too high when entering the society, but should see clearly our own strength, know ourselves correctly and make clear our development direction; Even if you start from a small clerk, you can get rid of your bad habits, find your own shortcomings and correct them, and gradually accumulate your most lacking social experience. I firmly believe that through our efforts, we will be found and remember that we are excellent. Therefore, contentment is a psychological quality that we college students should have before graduation, because we can't adapt to the society from the beginning, but we can choose to adapt to the development of society while developing slowly and making progress slowly, so that the continuous progress of society can drive our own progress. Of course, innovative people are also what every company wants, and innovation has become the fundamental requirement of quality education for college students. If college students want to adapt to the development of society as soon as possible, it is also the most basic point, that is, to have a good body. Only by having a healthy body can we devote ourselves to our work, give full play to our talents and adapt to the rapid development of society. Therefore, we need necessary physical exercise while studying nervously, so as to have a good body and always be full of passion when doing things. Of course, now every college student is particularly independent, has his own ideas, and may have a set of methods to adapt to social development. These are just my personal opinions. If you want to improve your ability to adapt to society, you need to integrate your own abilities, sort out your own clues, and slowly sum up the methods that are in line with you and can improve your ability to adapt to social development. As long as you understand that you are a college student who is about to enter the society, as long as you understand that you are a college student who is about to contribute to the country and the construction of a "socialist harmonious society", as long as you are a confident college student, as long as you are a pioneering, hardworking and dedicated college student; Through my unremitting efforts, I have the ability to adapt to social development before entering the society. Let's work together, let's fight for our dreams and open up a bright future together.