Scene: a screen, psychological consultation room, several psychology magazines, books and pens.
Personnel: consultants and visitors.
(The counselor is sitting in the consulting room, leafing through psychological magazines, waiting for someone to visit)
The visitor stood outside the door, lingered for a while, finally got up the courage to knock on the door gently, then pushed the door open and poked his head out.
Visitor: Teacher, may I come in?
Consultant: Please come in!
Come on: (I nodded shyly and sat in the chair, nodding my head and putting my hands on my knees, embarrassed)
Q: What's bothering you? Can you tell me?
Come: (Looking up) Teacher, isn't it shameful that girls are not attractive? Maybe this is too abrupt, but I ...
Q: Do you think it is shameful that girls are not good-looking? Would you like to talk about the reason?
Come on: yeah!
Narrator: This is an ordinary story, just like other breakup stories on campus. The girl fell in love, and after dating for a while, the boy broke up. The girl fell into pain and self-blame from then on.
I just know now that it's all my fault. I don't have the attractive appearance, figure, temperament and conversation of other girls, and I don't have any special talent and ability, so I can't do anything well. Anyway, I feel really bad.
I think you should be fair to yourself. The world is too small to hold so many great men. Under the unchanging sky, even the humblest grass has its own irreplaceable significance. Tell me about your situation!
At first I wasn't sure what he had done to me. After dating for a while, I found that his heart was not on me at all. When I am with him, he always stares at other girls on the road. I can't breathe, but what can I do! I know I'm not attractive I have tried to change my situation and seek my own value, but I still feel useless. Especially after his breakup, I didn't even have the courage to go out. I dare not face the reality. I'm too tired to live!
Q: (Stand up and take two steps to the stage and the audience)
I can understand this classmate's mood at the moment. In emotional life, many girls think that the limitations of appearance and figure limit their choices. Emotional longing and deep loss have caused strong psychological conflicts, which have aggravated their original anxiety, inferiority and sense of failure, leading them to fall into expectation to disappointment, and from expectation to deeper disappointment.
Q: (Back to your seat) Can you describe how you feel now?
I feel cheated and insulted ... I know he has the right to choose love, but sometimes I really want to get back at him.
I think you still have some feelings for that boy and yourself.
Come on: er ... (embarrassed, silent with his head down)
In fact, you still admire that boy in your heart and don't really want to get back at him, right? You feel unattractive, so you feel powerless. Is that so?
It's my fault, but I'm so disappointing. (After a while, I put away my depressed expression and used a gentle tone.) My personality is somewhat introverted. Yes, I often feel unattractive, used to accepting failure, but unable to change myself.
A man cannot change his past. It is a waste of time to focus on past failures. The most important thing is to pay attention to the present and look forward to the future. Let me give you some homework. Write down your charms and weaknesses. (Continued from the second edition of Heart Sea Pilot Psychodrama: Looking for Charm)
Come: (shaking his head, sorry) Teacher, the word' charm' is too sacred, so let's change it to' advantage'!
Q: All right! Find the advantage first.
Come on: (think, pick up a pen and write on paper, and pass the notebook to the consultant later)
Q: (Picking up the notebook, walking two steps to the front desk, talking to himself)' advantages', I can see that it takes a lot of effort,' disadvantages', but it looks relaxed. "You can't express yourself gracefully." "Calm is more than enthusiasm." ..... Well, there are several' disadvantages' more than' advantages'. (Turning to sit in the chair) From the advantages and disadvantages you have listed, you can see that you have focused on your confidence in your personality to meet your needs. How do you want to make yourself feel better?
I am ordinary, and I can't change it. (A little discouraged) I'm afraid that the new behavior plan is too complicated and difficult, and there is no possibility of success.
Don't worry, we will divide the plan into several stages. At the beginning, you will read your' advantages' after getting up every morning. Then, do a different happy thing every three days and make some records. Listen, can you do it?
Come on: OK, I'll try!
Why don't you go back first and come to me next week?
Come: (standing up happily with a piece of paper) Thank you, teacher. Goodbye! (exit)
Q: (Back to the screen)
Narrator: A week later.
Q: (Step out of the screen and sit in the chair)
Come: (knocking at the door, pushing the door in, very happy, notebook in hand) Teacher, I'll do it. (Sitting in the chair and handing me the notebook) This is my experience.
Q: (Take it and walk two steps to the front desk) (Open my notebook and have a look) Whenever I am embarrassed to recite my own advantages, I no longer feel humble, but a very calm mood, which is nothing wrong. (Page turning) Take the initiative to help students solve problems today. I summon up courage to talk to my classmates. My classmates don't seem to care about my figure ... (looking back) Good, you have experienced the feeling of happiness.
Come: Teacher, will this method of deliberately doing happy things have any effect?
If you really don't want to associate with people, then I don't want you to just pretend. I'd rather listen to you than do it.
Come: no, no, no, teacher, you misunderstood. You know, it is precisely because I always don't believe in myself and give up easily, so I am afraid that this plan will fail, but I will try my best.
I believe you will realize your charm and understand the value of this action.
C: Thank you for your encouragement. Goodbye! (exit)
Q: (Back to the screen)
Narrator: A month later.
Q: (to the stage, to the audience) I think everyone must remember that girl. During the information period, her mood also fluctuated, but she has learned to find reasons from external conditions and no longer blames herself for failure. I can feel the gradual benign changes in her, although she always tells all kinds of troubles. Now she can talk to others generously and openly. Whether she has found true love or not, I think she has gone through the most difficult and gloomy mental journey. Look, it's not coming!
Come on: (Have fun, dress up beautifully and be full of energy)
Q: How did you get out of the shadows?
Come: this month, I have taken the initiative to associate with my classmates, and I will try my best to help anyone who has difficulties; When I needed help, everyone lent a helping hand. I boldly asked the teacher questions and made suggestions, and my grades were greatly improved. People say that my personality has also become extroverted, like a different person. My English teacher has a great influence on me. I will always remember her words "Tomorrow is another day!" The sun is new every day. I feel better every day and face life with a smile every day. I believe that life will return my smile.
Q: Well, that's good!
Come: Thank you very much, teacher. When I first met you, I was involved in the whirlpool of lovelorn and couldn't extricate myself; However, with your help, now I have gradually stepped out of that huge shadow and enjoyed the warm sunshine. My heart is bright and my life has a new beginning. Thanks to the teacher!
Q:? Let's thank everyone!