Many parents complain that their children don't listen to themselves and can't say anything in their hearts. Children don't want to communicate with themselves, and even some children don't want to talk to their parents. When children don't listen to you and don't want to communicate with you, parents shouldn't blindly think it's their problem. Think about the way they talk to their children. Think about whether the children don't want to listen to you because they can't stand the way you talk. Don't complain that the child doesn't want to talk to you about his psychology. Think about whether you have never paid attention to what children are thinking, and whether you only care about what you care about. When educating children, I always think that children are young and ignorant, as long as they are obedient, as long as they do what their parents say, and never listen to their parents' ideas. Parents always arbitrarily impose their own ideas on their children, make them obey their own values, and completely ignore their children's ideas. Children have no right to resist, they can only obey. Slowly, children don't like to talk in front of their parents, because it is useless to talk, and it is difficult for parents to communicate with their children. Pay more attention to what the child says, not what the child listens to you. Parents are the closest people to their children. When children have troubles, they want to speak out most. But children don't know how to express what they want to say clearly, so they often say things that parents don't understand. At this time, parents need to put everything down and sit down and listen to their children. However, this point is often ignored by parents. Many times, parents always think that children's affairs are unimportant things except study. In fact, these little things are the best way to cultivate children's independence, but unfortunately they are wasted by their parents. On the other hand, I also complain that children can't talk. Know more about your child's heart and don't just blame him. Some children are introverted and do not like to talk. When children don't know what to say in front of outsiders, parents don't comfort their children, but criticize them: "Why are you so stupid? Didn't I teach you? " Why not? "These words seriously hurt the child's self-esteem. Children will think, "My parents criticized me for not being able to speak. Am I really born unable to speak? "Maybe from then on, I closed the door of my heart and never wanted to communicate with outsiders. If parents don't know what their children want to express, they will be self-righteous, preconceived, interrupt their children, criticize their children, accuse them and deprive them of their right to express themselves. Teacher Hao Dapeng, an expert in parenting education at Mama University, reminded parents that the work pressure is relatively high now, and parents may encounter all kinds of troubles at work. However, when you come home, don't bring the emotions at work to your home, don't bring the bad emotions at work to your conversation with your child, and don't treat your child as a trash can at work.