Deviation and projection are the main aspects of college students' interpersonal obstacles caused by interpersonal cognition, and their internal mechanism is interpersonal expectation.

1, deviation

Everyone's cognitive bias is inevitable. When there is a big gap between these deviations and individual interpersonal expectations, college students' interpersonal relationships are prone to obstacles.

Step 2 infer

Individuals generally believe that giving is rewarding, reflecting their emotions, will and personality on others, and thinking that others are the same. Knowing others on this basis is projection, that is, the expectation of each other within the individual. Many college students will inevitably encounter obstacles in interpersonal communication or getting along with others, because they are unbalanced or overuse projection in the process of projection.

3. Emotional factors

There are many emotional factors that cause college students' interpersonal communication obstacles. Many college students have psychological problems because of emotional problems, which even lead to crimes. Especially college girls are more prone to emotional problems. Generally, college girls have the following abnormalities:

(1) immature love psychology

(2) The gap between the rich and the poor is a psychological imbalance.

(3) vanity and hedonism.

(4) the extreme psychology of inferiority complex.

(5) the psychology of revenge and venting anger

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A way to deal with a problem

1, enhance personality adaptability

Personality adaptation means that in the process of individual personality development and maturity, their personality traits are closely related to changes in social environment and physical and mental development. Maintain harmony and consistency, reflecting a good adaptability.

Reforming bad personality and cultivating and optimizing good personality are the first steps to establish and develop good interpersonal relationships.

Besides friendship, there are many other factors that affect personality adaptation, such as parent-child relationship, family environment, educational environment and temperament type. Friendship may interact with other factors, so it may be more meaningful to combine friendship with other factors to investigate its influence on personality adaptation.

Students should learn to decompress themselves.

Generally speaking, there are two basic ways to deal with stress: one is to pay attention to the problem, that is, the parties' estimation of environmental conditions will change the existing personal-environmental relationship. The other is to pay attention to emotional coping, that is, the parties try to relieve anxiety rather than directly deal with the scenes that produce anxiety.

3. Strategies to control psychological stress and its negative effects:

From the perspective of clinical psychology and students' psychological counseling, we should overcome the negative influence of pressure on individuals. The strategy is more effective.

( 1)? Eliminate the source of stress;

(2)? Cognitive change strategies (that is, changing attitudes, beliefs and knowledge evaluation of things);

(3)? Take self-defense measures (that is, use psychological defense mechanisms, usually unconscious psychological means)

(4)? Improve coping strategies and methods (including psychological preparation for those predictable environmental requirements, as well as appropriate escape and avoidance strategies, "positive coping" is not necessarily adaptive); Breeden's donkey effect also points out that we should not hesitate to develop contradictions in a negative way.