Advantages and disadvantages of college students' love; Whether college students should fall in love or not will have great influence, which has become one of the hot topics in recent years. Many students will say it is good or bad without thinking when they hear this topic. However, I think things always have two sides, so does the problem of college students' love. When we come into contact with its negative side in life, or even go to extremes, we will come to the conclusion that college students' love does more harm than good, but if we come into contact with its positive side more widely in life, how can we say that the harm outweighs the good? Just like eating fish. Sometimes we get caught in the throat by fishbones, but can we say that eating fish is not good just because of these fishbones? Do more harm than good? Don't! Because the fishbone stuck in your throat is only level one, it can be completely avoided if you are careful; And as long as we eat fish, we will certainly get nutrition. So I think dating in college has both advantages and disadvantages. After the "purgatory" of the college entrance examination, most students are full of infinite fantasy about college life, which naturally includes love. As I pointed out at the beginning, college students' love has both advantages and disadvantages. Contradictions are both antagonistic and unified, and both sides of contradictions can be transformed into each other under certain conditions. We can't simply discuss whether the advantages outweigh the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. It is necessary to comprehensively analyze contradictions, adhere to the dichotomy and prevent one-sidedness. Since the contradiction is universal, it is necessary to analyze the specific problems. First of all, I think the benefits of college students' love mainly lie in the following aspects: 1. Being in love can increase one's sense of responsibility. Correct love can make a person mature from immaturity, thus enhancing the sense of responsibility to society. When students fall in love with someone, they will consciously cultivate a sense of responsibility and mission, and then learn to pay and improve their personality. For example, if you are lazy and he (she) doesn't like it, then you may change for each other. Or if you are greedy for petty gain and the other party doesn't like it, it is possible to change it for the other party. 2. Students falling in love can make a person more ideal and ambitious. Ideal endows love with profound social connotation, which is the internal foundation of love. Love is the blending of two people's feelings, and the unity of loving each other and loving yourself. One party's expectation of personality will affect the other party's expectation of personality. One party's approval of the behavior will affect the standard of the other party's behavior; What one party says will affect the expression of the other party's voice. This mutual contrast of personality and mutual recognition of interests have formed the same ideal of life for both sides, thus inspiring men and women in love, encouraging each other, inspiring people's wisdom and subliming people's character. 3. A correct view of love can make college students respect the equality of personality more. As a form of interpersonal communication, love is bound to be bound by morality. To love each other is to give them freedom and happiness, and to respect each other. In fact, there are many touching love stories on campus. According to this newspaper, a man and a woman in love in a university unfortunately suffered from leukemia, but the girl did not leave after learning about it. She cares more about her boyfriend, regardless of social discussion, begging money from passers-by on the street alone to treat her boyfriend. It can be said that their love is positive, beautiful and touching. 4. Love becomes the adjustment of learning and the driving force of two people's progress. As the saying goes, a scholar dies as a confidant, and a woman thinks of herself. After two people fall in love, they always want to show their best and pursue better things. At this time, they will have the motivation to continue their efforts, such as two people discussing the postgraduate entrance examination together and going abroad together. No matter what the result is, the active efforts in the process play an important role. Secondly, I don't deny that college students do have disadvantages in falling in love. 1. The university stage is the transition period for students from adolescence to adulthood, and their psychology and physiology are not yet fully mature, which is easy to produce temporary impulses. In college, when a person is not at home, he often feels lonely. At this time, he is eager to have someone to talk to and rely on. The difference between different regions leads to different temperament and habits, which makes the opposite sex more mysterious and attractive, thus deepening students' desire for excitement and freshness. Some students can't accurately distinguish friendship from love in their communication with the opposite sex, and are blinded by their impulse and curiosity to the opposite sex, naively thinking that their love is coming, and the hasty communication is often followed by indelible pain. Although college life is beautiful, you can relax appropriately, but you should still focus on learning. You can't do two things at once. Since you are in love, it is likely to affect your study. Some students mistakenly put love in the highest position in life, pursue love first, indulge in emotional lingering, and ultimately affect their study and future. It is not uncommon for female students in universities to commit suicide by jumping into the lake because of emotional problems. This shows that the psychological quality of contemporary college students is still not high. There are also some college students who regard love as a fashion. They think that universities can't keep up with the times without falling in love, so whether they like it or not, it's appropriate or not. They "don't care about eternity, only care about possession", and regard love as a child's play, which will not only hurt each other, but also hurt themselves, and even cause some harm to classmates and family around them. 4. College students can't be completely independent in economy, and most students' economy still comes from their parents. It is inevitable that falling in love will increase expenses. Every Sunday, there will be many "even numbers" on the university campus. They go to high-end restaurants and buy expensive things, but they never thought that their romance was bought with their parents' hard-earned money! Some college students choose lovers on the basis of money, but true love is not based on money. 5. There is a big gap between school environment and social environment. Students take an oath at school. However, due to family and social factors, most of them go their separate ways after graduation, and the success rate is very low. If the psychological quality is not good enough, it will be where you will go-waiting for these lovers like pain. We can neither blindly agree with nor arbitrarily oppose the issue of college students falling in love. We should treat it with a correct attitude. In order to establish a correct view of love, college students should not only realize the positive influence of love, but also realize the negative influence of love. For college students, when they meet love in college, they should take care of it, cherish it more, have a correct view of love and handle all kinds of relationships in love, so as to have a bright future and pure and beautiful sweet love. It is difficult for a college student without rational control to master the ship of love, and the love of a person without rational control is definitely a failure. Finally, I want to tell all the students in higher vocational colleges that love can certainly be matured by experience, and can be grasped at the cost of pain, tears and lovelorn, but don't forget, what is the most important task when we go through the cruel college entrance examination and finally enter the university? You can still fall in love after graduation, but you can't start over in college. This is not only a big economic account, but also a priceless human account. Please make it clear.