Interpersonal communication skills of college students' dormitory
First, learn to be tolerant.
Tolerance is a virtue? This is especially important for maintaining the harmony of the dormitory. No matter how big or small the dormitory is, the collision between roommates is inevitable anyway. It can be said that? Keep rubbing, keep rubbing? This requires everyone to have an inclusive heart. If everything is haggle over every ounce, we must dispute right and wrong. Needle tip to wheat awn? That will be beautiful, or it may escalate into a civil war, so I suggest you ask yourself before you get angry: What will happen if you really continue? So what if I win? I'm afraid I won't gain anything except losing another friend. On the contrary, let yourself be peaceful. Take a step back. The sky is high and the sea is wide? It not only maintains the relationship with roommates, but also reflects its own tolerance. Why not kill two birds with one stone? Of course, tolerance is not unprincipled concession. What should you do if each other pesters you unreasonably and even thinks you are easy to bully and push your luck? Should I say no from time to time? Giving necessary counterattacks can play a positive role and remind those who have no self-knowledge that enough is enough. Fight back at the same time? The most taboo is hysterical shouting, and fighting? Have no technical gold content at all? Clinic. For example, we can stimulate each other humorously at an appropriate time. Many times, can we fight back humorously? Win without a fight? .
Second, learn to love.
Far and wide, all corners of the country, it is a kind of fate that everyone can get together in one room. So every member of the dormitory has the obligation to cherish this hard-won fate. How to cherish? Do two things: (1) treat other members as brothers (sisters), at least friends, not enemies. Just because everyone comes from different places, it is not easy to get along quickly and harmoniously. But it is not impossible to do this. There is a magic weapon that can make people forget differences, and that is love. I remember a sentence:? Love can cross borders and cultures? . We don't need to be transnational, just cross-cultural. In daily life, as long as everyone can think more about others, pay more and help each other, it is absolutely possible, because? Love? This thing is equivalent in many cases. If you give, you will get something back. And if you pay one point, you will get more. This kind? Make a fortune? I believe that big Ben will also be moved. (2) take other people's things as your own. Don't misunderstand. This doesn't mean to take other people's things for yourself, but to treat others like your own. The generosity between roommates is valuable, but if you have a more delicate heart, it can not only reduce friction, but also reflect your self-restraint.
Third, learn to be stupid.
Just as there is no vacuum in nature, no one is perfect. Learn to turn a deaf ear to other people's shortcomings and don't expose them easily. The whole world must know. Mr. Lu Xun said:? Few people want to be perfect and deserve to live in this world. ? Does this mean that we should be able to treat the shortcomings of other roommates correctly and transfer them? International perspective? Look at each other's advantages. Don't you know that when you expose other people's shortcomings, you are also creating shortcomings for yourself? Exposed? Opportunity. Maybe someone will say, when other people's shortcomings have an unbearable impact on me, do I have to tolerate it blindly? For example, someone's bedroom environment is seriously polluted by living habits, which affects others' sleep and study. It's unbearable What should I do? If this is the case, you should keep calm, don't take drastic measures to accuse this person, and you can't spread it around to show how wronged you are. Both of these methods will cause irreparable cracks in your relationship with him. You can quietly open the window or buy a bottle of air purifier and spray it a few times. This doesn't mean that you have suffered a loss, on the contrary, you can win the gratitude of your roommate. Because you didn't blame others back and forth and put them in an awkward position like others, I believe it is very likely that he will try his best to correct this shortcoming. The consequence of doing so is that everyone is happy, so still? Stupid? Order well.
Fourth, I sincerely applaud my roommate's achievements.
University is a big stage for a person to give full play to his talents. Some people are like a duck to water here, others are unknown. The resulting sharp contrast can easily lead to psychological imbalance and jealousy. If this kind of emotion appears in a dormitory, it is easy to cause adverse reactions and lead to the destruction of dormitory harmony. There is a beautiful and talented girl who is the man of the hour in the school. The phone keeps ringing every day, and flowers call on Valentine's Day. So her three roommates began to feel unbearable and joined forces to isolate her and beat her? Think about it? . As a result, the girl's phone failed, she was not informed of something, and no one spoke when she returned to the dormitory. From then on, she became depressed and depressed, which affected her study. I sympathize with this girl, but I sympathize with her three roommates more. Because of jealousy, they lost a good friend, a good friend worth learning. More importantly, they themselves have lost a valuable quality. This is not good for them. Why is this happening? I can express my heartfelt congratulations to my roommate who has made achievements. While sharing her joy, you will feel that there is an invisible motivation in your heart to be equal to her, which is more worthwhile than the heartache caused by jealousy! We should understand that jealousy is not a good thing, it harms others and ourselves. Never be stingy with your praise, as the saying goes: Praise others is praise yourself? . In short, willingly? Green leaves? You will one day? Red flowers? .
In a word, we should know that man is an animal that cannot live without a group. The more contacts between people, the closer the relationship and the more frequent communication, the more important it is to master certain communication skills. Although the dormitory is small, the art of interpersonal communication cannot be ignored, because you have to live in it, and the quality of life depends entirely on yourself. We should strive to create a harmonious and beautiful atmosphere, make the dormitory a warm harbor for every member, and let students who are far away from home feel the warmth of the family.