In reality, not everything can be tolerated, and not all "forbearance" can be accepted endlessly. It is limited. In other words, it depends on whether this "forbearance" is good for the goal you pursue. If it is really beneficial, you should "endure", if it will damage your pursuit of ideal goals, you should bravely fight.
Forbearance that should not be tolerated is a sign of cowardice; The unbearable thing is recklessness. As a person who knows Fiona Fang's way, it's natural to be unbearable in the chest and abdomen.
Some people are naturally gentle and kind, but they should pay attention to maintaining their own image and interests. I know who I can tolerate and who I can't tolerate. If your tolerance smacks of "please", it's all wet. Winning the favor of others by forbearance is often counterproductive. Unless you meet a very kind and wise man or someone who likes patience like you.
If you bear it any longer, people will think you are weak and can't tell right from wrong. While being patient, there will always be some compromises on right and wrong. Over time, you will find that sometimes you don't know what is right and what is wrong.
"Mashan is ridden by others, and people are bullied by others." People who are too weak and honest will often become the targets of others' bullying, so you must give them a beating when necessary to let others know that you are not easy to bully.
Eat persimmons and choose soft ones. Some overbearing villains in life can be proud for a while because there are too many honest people in society. They often turn to those who are weak and kind, because they know that doing so will not lead to any worrying consequences. In the environment around us, there are such victims everywhere.
A person's weakness is actually encouraging and conniving at others' desire to invade you.
People should be a little sharp-edged, although they don't have to be armed and prickly like hedgehogs, at least they should make those arrogant villains feel that they have no way to start, and the loss is not worth the candle.
Establishing an unassailable image is a very important life skill to ensure that you are not bullied. This image always reminds those wicked people that if they provoke me, they will bear the consequences and pay the price.
To survive in society, in fact, as long as you show that you are a person who is not bullied, you can avoid anger. Maybe you don't have to report it everywhere. As long as you can catch one or two things, make a big fuss, and let the offenders taste your power, you will immediately receive the effect of "killing the chicken to show the monkey".
First of all, you can set up a provocative image. The so-called pungent, is dare to say what others are embarrassed to say, dare to be embarrassed to show others. If anyone dares to make him suffer indignities, humiliate him to his face. He dares to cry, dare to fight and dare to scold, has a good eloquence and dares to expose the truth. So few people dare to set themselves on fire and ask for it.
Second, establish a strong image. Shaping the image of the strength school is to pay attention to showing your strong strength in peacetime, such as admirable professional skills and extensive interpersonal network. , will create an impression among the people around you, with great energy. If you don't show off your strength, the consequences will be unstoppable. Therefore, most people dare not provoke such figures, and people who hold this image rarely suffer indignities.
In short, it is important to establish an image that does not make people angry. With this image, it is like planting a big tree. From now on, you can enjoy the cool in the shade.
If you face a bully, giving up resistance, giving in and swallowing your words will only make him push his luck. Only by bravely resisting and fighting can we become strong.
Human society is similar to the animal kingdom, and sometimes there is a "jungle" phenomenon. There is a kind of person who always takes advantage of others and is above the weak. Another kind of people is the so-called "doormat", which naturally becomes the object of being bullied.
It should be noted that there is no natural doormat in the world. The reason why people who often become the object of public venting can't take a step on the road of not being angry is often because they stepped on their right foot with their left foot first. They have never done what they want to do, but they dare not. They gave up their resistance the first time they got angry. The repetition of this kind of behavior will form a psychological model and social communication model, and gradually treat this life of resignation as a normal phenomenon, while others think that you should resign yourself to resignation. Therefore, the more angry you are, the more likely you are to suffer.
How to break through this vicious circle? That is to bravely break the first time, make a real resistance, and let the gas giver realize that you are not angry with others. Many people choose to submit to humiliation. They are often afraid of this and that, and subjectively afraid of themselves. Countless facts have proved that it is natural to stand up and defend your legitimate rights and interests. Crossing this threshold, you will find that it's actually no big deal. If you get rid of the mental burden, you will live more comfortably.
If you dare not fight for the first time, you will never know how good the new world tastes. And with the first resistance and a taste of the beauty, you will naturally have more motivation to resist. Over time, you will correct your psychological formula and social communication style, from a person who is willing to suffer indignities and can only suffer indignities to a person who does not want to suffer indignities and will not suffer indignities. There is such a story, which is of great educational significance to us.
A college student is timid by nature, so he is too patient. Therefore, although most of his classmates have no malice towards him, he is always unconsciously regarded as a person who should sacrifice his personal interests. His ticket was taken away by others in the cinema, and he was assigned the task of looking after bags during the spring outing ... but in fact, he is eager to get his share of benefits and happiness like others.
Because of his weakness and extreme patience, this kind of thing has been going on for a long time. Finally, one day, he couldn't stand it. He is always boring and erupting, and there is no ticket for a very wonderful performance. His face was livid and thunderous, and his excited voice shocked everyone. Although there were not many tickets for the performance, the classmate took two tickets in full view and slammed the door. Everyone seems to realize something when they are surprised.
In the later days, everyone seemed to treat him much better, and no one dared to take anything from him easily without his consent.
Because of the first breakthrough, he also changed from a victim to a person who is no longer suffering from it.
Some things, endure for a long time, will feel very depressed. Few people can tolerate others again and again very easily and happily. In most cases, there is always a struggle in your heart. The more times you put up with it, the more painful it will be. This depressed mood will bring great side effects, the biggest disadvantage is that it will damage health and indulge others at the same time. Generally speaking, others will not take repeated forbearance as a signal that enough is enough, but it is easy to push your luck. A wife's repeated tolerance of her husband's deviant behavior will only make him do whatever he wants, and even one day he will suddenly feel that this is normal. A mother who tolerates her son's bad behavior again and again will lead an ignorant child astray.
Imagine if you are also playing a tolerant role in life. Wake up. You should tell yourself to alert others at an appropriate time, or fight back at a critical time, and don't let your principles be violated. Tolerance can show your self-restraint for some well-meaning jokes and acts that go too far, but for those consistent, insulting and even rogue violations, tolerance is equivalent to the sheep surrendering to the wolf. What is needed at this time is resistance. Even if you know that the result of resistance may break off contact or even pay a heavier price, you should try to do it. Even if you can't do it, or you may be violated more, you should be strong, because the result is often that evil does not suppress right. No matter what the result is, you should start from maintaining your own image and give him a head-on blow so that he can respect others.
And blindly forbearing will only make you a weak person without character, and I think that result is what everyone doesn't want. Therefore, we need to change ourselves and break through ourselves. Let's start today. Be firm, don't be a patient person.