For a long time, college students' falling in love is a sensitive issue that makes moral educators in colleges and universities feel very difficult. From the earliest explicit prohibition of "no dating during school" to the present general acquiescence of "no advocacy and no opposition", friends in love, which loves each other, has always been a unique landscape in universities, and a series of unhealthy tendencies brought about by it have become increasingly prominent, which has become an unavoidable and important topic of moral education in colleges and universities.

1, the utilitarian color is getting stronger. People often say that love on campus is the purest and most sincere, like is like, and love is love. This kind of truth and purity without any material benefits is something you can't have when you fall in love after entering the society. But once upon a time, the so-called "materialism", "money worship" and "pragmatism" in society made this "pure land" impetuous and utilitarian. The love of "starting from scratch and working together" is regarded as a beautiful fairy tale by more college students, and their plans for future life are becoming more and more realistic. Whether the other party has enough "use value" for his future development, his family background, money, etc. Can be a shortcut to success and comfort, and become the first choice for love. "Because of love, so love" this sacred and pure campus love, began to cast a practical and utilitarian coat.

Vanity swells. True love is the collision between hearts, and the mutual affection between feelings. But when it comes to why they fall in love, some college students think that making friends is the embodiment of their ability and charm, and "no one loves" is contemptible. Moreover, in order to show their skills, blindly pursue a good-looking and financially rich love object, regardless of whether the other party loves it or not; In order to save face, win the envy of others, satisfy the vanity of lovers, regardless of their own economic ability and level, spend money lavishly, watch movies, go to dance halls, eat out and give birthday gifts, and all those who should be ostentatious are ostentatious; What's more, it is "overwhelming" to fully show your charm by changing lovers frequently, and cynical "fast food" love has become the capital to show off.

Contempt for "sex" The influence of the western thought of "sexual freedom and sexual liberation", the proliferation of mixed culture in current society and the long-term weakness of sexual knowledge education have made significant changes in college students' sexual concepts. From the initial shyness of "hiding half a face behind the guitar from us" to cuddling and kissing under the moon and flowers, it has become an uncivilized campus "landscape". There are not a few college students who acquiesce in premarital sex, have sex in advance and advocate "trial marriage". Some college students' disapproval and recklessness about premarital sex make many college moral education workers inexplicably surprised. When did the "sex" that was still "hidden" and "hidden" become so common among college students that people did not jump?

College students' falling in love has become an objective fact that cannot be avoided or avoided in today's university campus, and the bad tendency and negative influence of college students' falling in love can not be ignored. As a moral education worker in colleges and universities, we must fully understand and attach great importance to this, and give positive education and positive guidance. Cognition is like a mirror, it is clear when it is illuminated; Emotion is like water, and it is smooth to guide; Concept is like a mountain, it is stable when it stands up. Only by facing up to the problem of college students' love, guiding them correctly, making college students who have never been in love devote themselves to their studies, and making college students who have been in love turn love into the driving force of their studies, can college students in their prime correctly handle the relationship between love and study, love-friendship, love and marriage, and treat love and their future rationally and healthily.