There was a young man in Taiwan Province Province who earned a lot of money after years of hard work. He is going to travel to Europe and stay in a hotel. The first morning, he woke up and heard someone knocking at the door. As soon as the door opened, a waiter enthusiastically said to him, "Hello, Mr. Monitor." He doesn't understand. According to China people's inertial thinking, he was thinking, "Did you ask my name?" So he said loudly, "My name is Chen Atu." The next morning, he heard someone knocking at the door. When the door opened, he saw the waiter yesterday. The waiter said to him, "Mr. Good Monitor." He's a little angry. "Why are you so stupid?" So he said even louder, "My name is Chen Atu." The terrible thing happened on the third morning. He heard a knock at the door again. The waiter said to him, "Mr. Good Monitor". He said angrily, "My name is Chen Atu." He couldn't sleep that night. He wanted to find out. So he asked the head of the tour group. The person in charge said, "What did he tell you?" People ask you good morning! "He suddenly felt ashamed. I made a lot of money. Why is my education so low? So he is going to learn English. The first sentence he learned was: Mr. Good Monitor. On the fourth morning, he waited anxiously for the waiter to knock at the door because he wanted to use this sentence. So when the waiter knocked at the door, he immediately said to the waiter, "Hello, Mr. Monitor", and the waiter immediately said, "My name is Chen Atu. "
Do you know why? Because in this world, either you have influenced others or others have influenced you.
My mother is 6 1 year old this year. She is in poor health and often needs to see a doctor. In the past two years, her health suddenly improved. This is not surprising, because the year before last, she believed in Christianity. Amen before every meal. She prays before going to bed every day. Someone asked me, "Miss Wang, do you believe in God?" It doesn't matter whether I believe it or not. The important thing is that my mother needs it. So she believed it. After she believed, she knew that God was protecting her, so she became positive and optimistic, and her mentality became better and better. Her health is getting better and better. Why? Because she has faith.
Belief is incorrect, as long as it suits you, it is the best.
There is a middle school student who was admitted to Zhejiang University last year. The reason why this student was admitted to Zhejiang University is that he has the belief of Zhejiang University. In his sophomore year, he went to Zhejiang University and took many photos. He keeps a photo in his pocket every day. As long as he doesn't want to study, he takes out a photo: I came to Zhejiang University. So he worked hard. Why? Because he has the belief of Zhejiang University, someone asked, "Teacher Wang, how can I succeed?" I want to ask all of you here, what do you think is the biggest challenge in life?
1989 When I was in the college entrance examination, I was very cute when I thought that the biggest challenge in life was the college entrance examination. So I tried my best to take the college entrance examination and failed. Later, when I became a doctor and didn't want to work, I went to the sea to start a business. I haven't found a job for a whole month. What is my biggest challenge? I want to eat. After more than ten years, I finally grew up and was in my thirties. Everyone around me is married. Married. A book says: The Nanjing Massacre was written by Zhang Chunru. She is a famous Chinese journalist of a famous American media. Her career is very important and her marriage is very happy. Her son is two years old. But last year,165438+1October 9, she actually shot herself. Ladies and gentlemen, she's depressed. How can an excellent professional woman commit suicide? What is the biggest challenge? Life and death. Later, I found that college entrance examination, work, marriage, life and death are not the biggest challenges in life. That's just a result. What are the real challenges in life?
That's every moment of life.
What time do you get up in the morning? At six o'clock, the school bell rang: Oh, my God, sleep for another five minutes. Some students said: I am seriously absent from class and can't learn math well. I asked him why. He said that I couldn't bear to look at the nose of the math teacher as soon as I had math class. A middle school teacher, 24 years old, just graduated from college, called me and said, Miss Wang, my interpersonal relationship is not very good. I asked her why. She said, I hate the female colleague sitting opposite me. She is too showy and likes to kiss up to the leader. I want to throw up when I see her. Excuse me, in your life? Why can't you like him? Because you often find his shortcomings. Everyone here, do you have any shortcomings? Yes Since you all have shortcomings, why can't you tolerate others' shortcomings? I ask you to divert your attention from now on and find the advantages of others. There is a method called animal analogy. I asked this teacher: Teacher Zhang, what animal do you like best? She said: Panda. The next time you see this teacher come in, you will hint to yourself: Ah, here comes the panda. After five times, you like her because you find her cute, too. And classmates. I was too noisy to read, so I asked to change my seat. The class teacher said, no, two words: communication. Tonight, you say to your deskmate, brother, please shut up from seven to nine for the college entrance examination, and say whatever you want from nine to nine. I used to be the most unbearable at home: I couldn't sleep by snoring and I couldn't communicate about it. Then I thought. I matched my favorite slow three dance with snoring. Boom, cha-cha Later, I found that snoring is also beautiful. Ladies and gentlemen, if your front and back tables disturb you, you should match their interference with three syllables, which is generally more harmonious. Yesterday, a student asked me: Miss Wang, the college entrance examination is approaching, and I don't want to go home. I asked why? He said: The atmosphere at home has changed. As soon as my mother saw that I was going to burn four eggs for me to eat, my father would say, son, my father has worked so hard to give it to you, so you should be more competitive. There is also a parent who never puts pressure on his son. Son, it doesn't matter if you just take the college entrance examination. Dad believes you. When your son listens, stop it You know your parents love you, but they will always love you. There are only two words to communicate with parents: encouragement. Parents are also very fragile and need your encouragement. You can give them a note: Dad, this mock exam has made my mind a lot better. Dad is relieved. Another one: Dad, my son suddenly missed you yesterday. Look at your dad: Wow, tears are coming out. Next time he comes home, he will treat you much better. Why? Because they found out you've grown up.
The first sentence I want to give you is a belief, that is
I must succeed today.
Remember, it's today, not tomorrow, nor the college entrance examination. Because all the success in life can only be realized if it is successful today.
Someone called me and said, Miss Wang, can you guarantee my success in the college entrance examination? How can I guarantee your success in the college entrance examination? But I must promise you: I must succeed today. Many students said to me: Miss Wang, slogans are useless to me. Do you know how useful slogans are to you?
That is to repeat the prompt frequently.
One year when I was in Xinhua News Agency, I broke into an underground organization with a reporter from Xinhua News Agency: the thieves' group. How do you understand how thieves work? It is found that regular thieves are well organized, and there is a trainer who wears a suit and tie and has a good eloquence. We train them. We were dressed in rags and dug a hole. Do you know how the coach trains? Every morning, he said, ladies and gentlemen, do you know that all men are created equal? Wow, that's nice. ) People are born. I'd like to hear it. Because there is something wrong with our social system, all the money in your pocket goes into their pockets. That's not right. Now it's your responsibility to get the money back. You know how ridiculous this is. But a week later, after a week of training, the thieves were very excited: oh, oh, oh. They moved. You caught him on the road. You are thinking: Why don't thieves blush? He is thinking: Why should I blush? This is my money, and it is my duty to get it back. This is my sacred mission. They have firm beliefs, why, because they keep repeating hints. Of course, you shouldn't have such a wrong belief, you should establish a correct belief. When you don't want to get up in the morning, repeat: I must succeed today, so you jump out of bed.
A classmate was very upset and said to me: Miss Wang, the problem is that I have many problems that I can't solve now. I said what happened to him. He said: the college entrance examination is approaching, but I find myself feeling inferior. It is easy to be distracted in class and the quality of sleep declines. Can't communicate with the class teacher.
I send you the second sentence:
What exists is reasonable.
Before the college entrance examination last year, a top five student of Gaohang called me: Miss Wang, I feel very inferior. Ah, the top five in the school still feel inferior. Do you know what he said? He said, Miss Wang, I am very worried now. Can you survive the failure of the college entrance examination? Ask your teacher at Jinqing Middle School, who can say that he has always been confident? Impossible, he occasionally feels inferior, because inferiority exists, so it is reasonable. Remember, you must come with me. As long as you come with me, you don't have to review after listening to my speech. You have it all under control. Because it exists, it is reasonable. Someone asked: Miss Wang, what should I do if I am absent-minded in class? To tell you the truth: sometimes when I reach the climax of my speech, there are still many beautiful pictures in my mind. This will not affect my speech at all. Someone said: Miss Wang, when I was taking the exam, I had a movie clip in my head. Is the topic done correctly? Yes, no problem. There is a cartoonist Zheng, a children's writer in China. This person is absent-minded in every class, and the cartoons are particularly good. Later, it was found that the reason for being absent-minded was because of his rich imagination. So it is reasonable to be absent-minded occasionally. There is one in Wenzhou. I give a speech every year. When I came back last year, a girl called me: Miss Wang, you must help me. I used to be the first in the school, but now I can't stay. I asked her what the tragedy was. She hesitated for a long time and said shyly, not long ago, a boy liked me, and later I liked him, too. He often plays with me on weekends, and his grades drop. Excuse me, Miss Wang, do you want to break up with him? I say you should still find him. I can't. A student from Luxun Middle School called me: Miss Wang, I can't solve a plot. I asked what the plot was. She said that she had an affair with the teacher. She likes physics teachers very much, and she is very handsome. I asked her how she did in physics. She said that she won the first prize, and as long as she saw him, she was motivated. Students in Jinhua No.1 Middle School said: Teacher Wang, my senior, was admitted to Zhejiang Normal University. He promised me that he would wait for me. So I set a goal: Zhejiang Normal University. Yesterday, he sent me a short message saying that he had changed his mind. At your age, it's easy to be attracted by some advantage of the opposite sex and like each other. But it's just like, not love. Your present relationship is a subtle and pure feeling between friendship and love. Please keep it up. Do you know why this college student changed his mind? When he was in middle school, all the heterosexual friends he came into contact with came from Jin Qing, a small-scale heterosexual friend. He is under the pressure of the college entrance examination and his thoughts are not free. It's not the same when you go to college. When you meet friends from all corners of the country, you will have less study pressure and more freedom of thought, and you will gradually find the one that suits you. So changing his mind is a growing process, Miss Wang. Why will it affect my study? Because you magnified it. Now I will read you an article, Principal Contradictions and Secondary Contradictions written by Mr. Mao Zedong. Mr. Mao said:
People only need to solve the main contradiction, and the secondary contradiction will solve itself over time.
Excuse me: what is your main contradiction now, the college entrance examination.
You make your college entrance examination goal \ study plan at once and give it to your handsome brother. Let him also make a goal \ study plan for you. You two supervise and encourage each other until the college entrance examination is over. Say, Miss Wang, is this all right? All right.
One said: the college entrance examination is coming soon. I shouldn't miss her, but I still miss her. You are anti-human. How could you miss her? I'll teach you a way: as long as you think of her, write down your goals at once, because goals are the most distracting. So remember: you like others, and others like them, so it is reasonable. Some people say, Miss Wang, who doesn't like me? No one likes your existence, so it is reasonable. Don't worry until the time comes.
Hangzhou has the Seventh People's Hospital. I go once a year, and you can go if you have the chance. This is a mental hospital. I went to understand how depression, autism and many mental diseases are produced. Later, I found that most mental patients have a process of schizophrenia.
They regard what they have as a problem, and then the problem gradually arises.
Everyone feels inferior occasionally, and so do I. When I feel inferior, there are only four words in my mind: act immediately.
You are different. You will regard it as a problem. You are thinking: Why do I feel so inferior? Is my parents' genes not so good? They don't care about me. Why does our head teacher always treat me with dirty eyes? Do I have any personality defects? There are eight people in our dormitory. Why don't seven people talk to me? Am I rather withdrawn? God, why are you so unfair? Because you regard inferiority as a problem.
A student from Yanzhou Middle School was admitted to China Technology and Business University last year. Before the college entrance examination, she called me: Miss Wang, I think about a question every day. I'm thinking: I will definitely lose sleep on the 7 th and 8 th of the college entrance examination. I asked her: Have you seen anyone who has played mahjong for three days and nights and is in good spirits? He said yes. Why? Because they want to win money. You are very excited about the 7th and 8th National College Entrance Examination, because you have to challenge your life. Two days and two nights without sleep will not affect your performance at all. There are two kinds of people's sleep states: one is shallow sleep and the other is deep sleep. Brain cells rest alternately. Someone asked me: Miss Wang, I am good at dreaming every day. All right. Go back and ask your grandfather if he can dream every day.
After the college entrance examination, the students called me: Teacher Wang did well in the exam, thank you. I asked her: Are No.7 and No.8 asleep? Yes
Ladies and gentlemen, the college entrance examination is coming, and you are getting more and more excited. It's too hot. It doesn't matter if you can't sleep. Just remember two words: lie down, lie down. Many students are very interesting: I must fall asleep, or I will have no spirit in class tomorrow. So I hypnotized in the oldest way: count the lambs, one, two, three, and count to five thousand. Why?
One student is even more outrageous. When he can't sleep, he must get up and sing. All the songs he sings are the saddest songs: ghost stories. When the neighbors heard this, they were frightened and thought that Leslie Cheung had appeared again. I can't help it. He hired a hypnotist and never studied psychology. How did he hypnotize? Come with me and relax. Twenty minutes later, people found him motionless. The master was very proud and hypnotized successfully.
Can you ride a bike? Yes After a while, you get on your bike, stare at a tree in the school and tell yourself: I must not hit this tree, I must not hit this tree, I must not hit this tree. When you count to the tenth time, you will hit the tree. Because you want to hit a tree.
There was a great philosopher in India named Osho. His metaphor is very appropriate. He said: The human brain is like the sky, which can carry unlimited information. People's distractions are like clouds in the sky, which will come and go at any time.
A student called me: Miss Wang, sometimes I feel very helpless. I want to kill myself. What should I do? I asked him if he committed suicide. No, someone asked: Why can't I control my brain? Raise your hand if you can control your brain. Why can't you control your brain? How do you control your brain when it comes into contact with the universe? You know your brain receives 700 messages a second. It disappeared. Why don't you want to live sometimes You see many people commit suicide. Even one of your idols, Leslie Cheung, committed suicide. You are thinking: even if he goes, I will go. Why do you feel inferior? Because you see many excellent people feel inferior, you are thinking: how can I have confidence? The anxiety, tension, fear, worry, suicide and depravity in your mind are all a microcosm of society. Both exist, so both exist.
Don't take the existing facts as a problem.
Accept it and let it live in harmony with you. As soon as you accept it, you will find that it disappears immediately. When you are nervous, oh, you disappear. If you ask yourself: Why am I nervous? You'll get more and more nervous.