I believe everyone has encountered this situation when pursuing girls: you gave a girl an expensive gift, and the girl was surprised to ask you: Why are you so kind to me? This is an obvious hint.
Most inexperienced boys will think in this situation: Yes, why am I so kind to her? It must be because I like her. So I just confessed. Note that if you confess, the pattern of boys and girls will change obviously at this time. Boys will show their cards and become more and more passive, and girls will have greater initiative. Once this pattern is formed, it is difficult to reverse it.
Positive self-suggestion
Therefore, as a social skill, suggestion is very powerful and can change the situation invisibly.
Tell me an example that impressed me deeply. You can learn a lot of hinting skills in this example.
Used to be a student, male, temporarily called a. A has childhood friends. A likes her very much, but she has always maintained a very pure relationship between men and women and cannot develop further. So he complained to me and asked me if I wanted to confess to her. I said no, it's hard for her to agree with you at this time. After all, it will be awkward and better for the two sides to fight for so long. Usually it will affect her subtly.
This problem is actually very common. The closer the relationship between men and women, the less likely it is to be poked. From a genetic point of view, this is human instinct. So I suggest that he should work harder at ordinary times.
The Important Psychology of Attracting Girls
First, he called her in the dead of night, and they chatted. Then he told a story, which was prepared in advance, about a couple around him. Later, he said he didn't know what was going on, so he inexplicably picked up the phone and called her.
Girls are sensitive and suspicious. The first point of doing this is to thank the other person's subconscious through story substitution and make her feel as if she is in love. The second point implies that he cares about her. The effect is that girls will be paranoid and can't tell the truth from the false. Just thinking? Does he like me?
Then he chose a time to invite his friends to have a picnic in the park and took her with him. They ate and talked about who was beautiful and virtuous. Then a buddy asked A who he liked and wanted to marry. A took a sip of water and answered carefully, saying that the person he didn't like already had someone he liked. At this time, A glanced at his childhood friends intentionally or unintentionally, and then turned away.
This is a kind of? Surround and not attack? The implication is that, first, let girls think, and second, let girls slowly accept A. This is a love art that allows girls to increase their investment.
The art of love
After eating, my sister said she was thirsty. A immediately went to buy water, which was delivered to her. A didn't say a word, her eyes kept staring at her sister, and her eyes were full of care and happiness. This is a behavioral suggestion. Suggest that your behavior is your boyfriend's behavior.
A took her for a walk by the lake and went to a place with many children. A pointed to a child and said? How lovely the child is! ? Then he sighed and said with emotion that it would be nice to have such a lovely baby in the future. This is a virtual hint of the future, suggesting that the other party is full of expectations for future love and even marriage life, and because he is around A, it is easy to project this feeling on A, which creates an illusion.
In this way, A repeatedly hinted for a month or two and successfully caught up with the girl she liked.
So to put it bluntly, a hint is to send a signal to the other party. What does this signal reveal? Is that who you are?
You must know your sister.
There is another skill in suggesting a speech, which is irony. Because people are rebellious. For example, when we were young, we went shopping with our father and passed the toy store. My father usually warns us not to touch this and that. But we all had an idea at that time, and that was? Why not let me touch it? I have to touch it! ?
If this principle is applied to chasing girls, it is often ironic. For example, I often say to my goal: Don't fall in love with me. Don't like me. We are not right. I don't deserve this, okay?
This gives the target an illusion that she has really fallen in love with me. Encourage her to invest in me. Then the effect is achieved.
In addition, it is also important to establish comfort before hinting. Imagine that you are walking on the road today, and suddenly a stranger says hello, and you will find him puzzling. But our friends say that the same content has completely different effects.
What we all believe and rely on is probably our relatives and friends around us, just like case A above. If both parties are strangers, even the first step of dating a girl is difficult to do, let alone develop.