High school classmates, almost ten years, are getting married now. If you don't mind, call your sister. I want to say, sister, it's not easy to have a relationship of 10 years. Relax. There are many problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law Every family is like this. Personally, I feel that your mother-in-law is just a little stingy. In fact, this mother-in-law is much better than other people who like to find fault. Although my sister is not feeling well, that's for sure, but think of a good place. I just saw it anyway. That's enough. What couples are most afraid of is that the mother-in-law does not choose a daughter-in-law, but the man is generally biased towards the mother-in-law. You're just a matter of money, sister. You're angry, but first I'll be fair at home. Yes, it is natural and normal for parents to prepare a house for their children. Will they give the money to anyone's children? But remember, sister, although that is normal, it is not necessary or necessary. To tell the truth, it's not bad to buy one. You can't ask your parents to buy you a new house just because you are in another city. How many families are not rich enough to afford a house, let alone a second home? At this point, I really feel that my sister has no right to be angry. Although marriage has become one of the basic conditions for a man to have a house, it has gradually made us accustomed to inertial thinking. Parents will buy a house for their son when they have a son. But everyone forgets that parents have fulfilled their obligations by raising themselves and receiving compulsory education, and you really have to support her when she is old, because that is also your obligation. It is your duty to repay your parents for raising you. Sister, only obligations are necessary. Parents' obligations were completed when we were 18 years old, and all that followed was parents' love. A house is a "necessity" for many people, but it is not the obligation of parents. Even if it seems to be a hidden rule, she doesn't owe you. Besides, she has bought you one. It's your own problem to change cities. I mean, why should parents buy it? Maybe my mother-in-law is stingy, but it's hard to make money, you know? Why not buy it yourself? Your sister's family bought you a house, which is why they love you. This is not right. Sister should be grateful.
I can see that my sister's mother-in-law is really stingy and often makes people feel wronged and angry, but please understand her, especially the elderly. Many people are so stingy when they are old, and everything is bought at a special price. These are actually normal. Since my sister has been married since high school, it's only been nearly 10 years now, so my sister should have graduated not long ago, only 2~3 years older than me at most. I just graduated from college. It has been seven years since high school, so it can be said that my sister got married quite early. From what you said, I bought you a house at home and gave you a facade. One year's rent is enough for living expenses. That proves that the facade should be very good and valuable, and I can afford a house with a facade. I can see that my sister's environment should be good, and I have never been short of money, so I should be well protected by my family. I haven't fully seen the society. My sister has never heard of the Internet. Now house prices are soaring. According to the average working class, the Qing Dynasty is about to start working, and now you can buy an ordinary house. I don't know what my sister's education is like. Have you encountered any difficulties in going to work? Maybe my sister doesn't know that money is hard to earn, but it's too expensive. My sister may not think so now. If you and your husband are ordinary office workers and your parents don't help you at home, you will find it difficult immediately. One person's life is different from that of two people, especially since you will have a child soon. Do you know how much a child's milk powder and diapers cost a month? Do you know how much you will spend on nutrition, clothing and socks, tuition, tuition, interest classes, toys and so on? What about the future? I don't know, I haven't counted, and I dare not count those. I only know that the salary of less than 2000 yuan before resigning is absolutely not enough. I am also a well-protected child at home. I was not allowed to do anything at home when I was a child. As long as I study, I'm still not allowed to go into the kitchen at the age of 65,438+05, and I haven't taken a few brooms. When I was a child, my family environment was not good, but who remembers when I was so young? Things are getting better and better at home. Since I can fully remember and understand, the environment at home is not very good, but it is also good. The first color TV was installed in the community, and there was a small dress. The Barbie doll with a cabin was specially brought back to me from Hong Kong, perhaps to make up for the fact that I have no father and my mother is not around, so I can only live with my grandmother, and because my grandchildren have only one daughter, my mother's generation is four sisters, two brothers and one brother. Although I don't use the best of my classmates, mine is definitely not bad. At least I don't lack money to buy things, but even if I give more love, the less I will always lack. I will never know how my parents feel about my love, but let me not know the importance and hard work of making money. Although I am not vain and don't want the best, I am used to spending money on useless little things. Until the end of my junior year and senior year, there were no classes at school, and I didn't know what to do. My family asked me to find a job, but I found that I knew nothing, didn't know what to do, and didn't even have the courage to apply. Finally, my aunt, my mother's sister found me a job and asked me to work as a clerk in his friend's company for one month 1500. After work, my mother immediately announced that she would stop eating, drinking and caring about me, clothes and shoes, and solve everything herself. And give her 500 living expenses every month. At that time, I was also very angry and had a quarrel. I sit at home and give me 1200 change every month. Even if you don't give money at work, even if you wear it, you still have to give the living expenses. The so-called work just now has not been legalized, how to do it? But I'm just angry and noisy, but I really can't blame my mother. She just let me know that money is hard to earn and didn't really charge me for living expenses. Every holiday, she will give me some money and a supplementary credit card, but this year I really know that money is hard to earn, ordinary wages are simply not enough, and I don't have to worry about food, clothing, housing and transportation. And sometimes there is grandma's subsidy. I still think money is useless, especially now that I have to travel to save money myself. That feeling is very painful. Besides, I know it's only superficial. I haven't gone deep into the society, formed a family, given birth to a child, and I still can't fully understand the importance of that kind of money. My hometown is Changsha, where there is a young aunt whose grandmother's children are sisters. The environment at home is at least better than mine, and I'm not so spoiled. The so-called high flyers, her husband is still a foreigner. I don't remember England or America. When they first got married, there was nothing. Soon, menstruation found that there was not enough money and began to save money. But when the child came out, she found that it was not enough. She even went back to her parents' home and cried, saying that she didn't have enough money and couldn't even afford clothes. Maybe she is crying because she is exaggerating, but the essence of the matter is true. Sister, when you have children, you will better understand why people become more stingy as they grow up and why they like to buy everything at special prices. Actually, people are all the same. The older you get, the more things you experience, the more you know about the difficulties of money, and the more you naturally save. It's just that some people are more obvious Some people are foreign, some people are self-centered, and some people are the same. Just like my grandmother, she is also very stingy. Although some of them are for us, she often says that we spend money indiscriminately, and sometimes she shows me those cheap but rustic clothes. I don't want her. Sometimes she says I just don't want her because it's too cheap. But grandma is more economical with herself, and will not give up anything, at least frugally, but she will not lack necessary nutrition, chicken soup, fruit and so on. Although she often buys bargains, she never buys anything for herself. We sometimes say that people are old, eat something good and wear something good. She always listens and always buys cheap things. Not that I have no money. My grandmother has a pension, which is nearly 2000 yuan a month. My mother gives her my living expenses, which definitely exceeds what I use. In addition, my two daughters will give some money during the Spring Festival, but she just won't give it up. Only when she comes back from work sometimes will she eat some snacks such as duck legs with soy sauce. I can see that she likes it very much, and it's not expensive. It's only a few dollars, but she never buys a few, and always leaves more than half for me. I have to say, in order to lose weight, I have eaten and never eaten. Old people are like this. The older you get, the meaner you get, including my aunt here. They used to be famous brands, a lot of cosmetics, and they always took me everywhere to buy clothes and shoes to eat. Now that we have children, it's time to spend money on school. Children are always sick, and when they are sick, they spend extra money. They also began to save the world, gossiping, and squeezing special prices to see floats. My mother is stronger, and the hardest time to save is over. Later, when things improved, she bought two houses. Although business is bad now, prices are soaring, but my salary is not long, even if I can't do it anymore, I can rent a house to collect rent, or sell one to earn the difference, and open a small grocery store for the elderly. I have grown up to be the most difficult child to raise. So she didn't go that far, and she was looking for a special price all day. Sometimes I want to sigh, how many lively and youthful girls have been turned into secular and stingy women by a marriage. So I hate getting married.
What a stingy person! What a nuisance! It makes people angry. So is my ex-boyfriend's family. The family is very stingy. My son has a girlfriend, but he has never taken care of it. If you know he is going out on a date, give him 50~ 100. People usually prepare big red envelopes when they bring their girlfriends home. Their family didn't say it was time to meet. They only spent 100 of the New Year's greeting fee. Their family didn't respond to my birthday at all, and they didn't even know the money to buy a gift for their son. Don't they know that their son has no money every time he goes shopping? I spend money when I go out, as if it is natural for me to post it backwards. I don't care about money, and I don't care if he and his family have money, but where am I wronged? I am a treasure at home, and girls are taken care of everywhere. My girlfriends' boyfriends all like them as children, but I am not taken seriously in their home. For this reason, I have argued with my ex-boyfriend too many times. The reason for the quarrel is that I am wronged, but I can't tell my family. I have no face to talk to my friends, so I have to complain to him. However, he often helps to speak at home, which makes my anger even worse. In fact, I also know that their family is such a character, frugal and stingy, and don't care much about anyone. People didn't mean to do this, and it was better for me. They are even meaner to themselves, including his brother's girlfriend. Sometimes I go to play late, and my mother will bring it to my room early the next day to wake me up and give me food, but I know, but I am very wronged and angry. I just complain and let it go. I really can't blame them. So I really understand how you feel, but I am different from my sister. I'm just in love. Since their family has such a personality, since I can't accept such a personality, I can break up, but my sister is married. Since you are married, you should be responsible, especially your 10 relationship. Now that you are married, I can go, but you can only choose to accept it for you and your husband. Old people live decades longer than us. It is better to expect them to change than to expect them to adapt themselves.
A woman is emotionally selfish and jealous, and her son is the second man in the world besides her husband. Moreover, due to common nature problems, sons are more attached to their mothers and relatively more obedient to their mothers. A woman's life, except her husband, is devoted to her children, which is natural motherhood. When her son grows up, she is going to get married, so suddenly there is a woman in her life, stealing her son's attention, just like a treasure has been stolen. In fact, if you have been carefully feeding and growing a very small animal, you will feel this way when he leaves. This is human nature, although it is a metaphor. Although the daughter is also the treasure of the family, most people only eat same-sex jealousy, so the mother will naturally not be like her mother-in-law, while the father and the man are more generous in some ways. Different from women's nature. Of course, there is no such film in the woman's family, just simply hoping that the child is good. Always think of the children, the husband's mother-in-law family is really half jealous and half gratified. They want the children to be good, but they don't want the woman who robbed their son to be too good. As a daughter-in-law, she is no more obedient and virtuous than before. Nowadays, girls are the treasures of the family, and boys are letting themselves go. Moreover, children are not so filial. If my mother says more, I will still fight. Besides, you are a mother-in-law and you haven't given me anything. Why, you can't be wronged and lose your temper. So this also forms why after marriage, it is basically a problem in front of the mother-in-law. Basically, all the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have problems, but some of them are more serious. Both sides know patience and understanding, so they put up with the contradictions.
If my sister gives birth to a son in the future, she will feel when she wants to marry. In fact, sometimes I wonder why my daughter-in-law always says that her mother-in-law is not good and her daughter-in-law is difficult to do, but why is her daughter-in-law as inconsiderate as her mother-in-law? Is the power of nature that great?
Sister, since we are married, we should briefly consider these inevitable consequences, which are only a matter of degree, as well as our future life and the upbringing of our children. It is unwise to get married rashly before marriage, even if the feelings are deep. It's not long before I get married. How can I live?
Give my sister a suggestion. Since my mother-in-law is stingy, I want to be out of sight, out of mind. You don't live together anyway. I think it's very happy to get married without living with my mother-in-law, and I don't have to talk about money with her. I didn't give it to her anyway, and I still felt very angry. Let me get this straight. Although such a stingy mother-in-law is irritating, people don't owe you anything. There is nothing you can do. You have to suffer and earn your own money. Why do you want it from your mother-in-law If you don't have enough money, you will be less angry. What can you do if people are stingy? When you ask someone for it, it's not that someone asks you for it, but that he won't give it to you. You are angry. You are the only one who makes you angry. You are both angry when others quarrel. You are angry. Can you get it? Yes, I know my sister will be very upset, even I will be angry, but now that my sister is married, there is nothing I can do to change it. You can try to think that the old man suffered a lot when he was young, so he was stingy. Anyway, he raised your husband. Without her, there would be no husband. Then who will you marry? Comfort yourself in another way and think about what you should be considerate and grateful for. Maybe you wouldn't be so angry. Your mother-in-law is so kind to you, but she is so stingy. Yes, it's really unbalanced. She must feel very wronged. But you can think about it from another angle. Her mother-in-law's meanness reflects the generosity of your family. People nowadays don't all care about face, especially in terms of money. Since your mother-in-law doesn't care about this face, you will accept it gladly. You also said you didn't care about the money. Then think about it from another angle. The support of mom's family makes your back straighter and more dignified. In fact, you know, the most uncomfortable and unhappy thing is actually your husband. He thinks about how your family can help, but that's his mother's way. He will feel ashamed in front of you. You should comfort him and help her mother-in-law in turn, so that he will feel more considerate and considerate to this wife. For example, if your mother-in-law doesn't like you for a long time and chews your ear in front of your husband, your husband will be more inclined to you because of these, and it is not easy to listen to his mother. Moreover, in case of disagreement and quarrel in the future, the support of your mother-in-law and the disregard of her mother-in-law will always make you a step higher than your husband. So there are gains and losses. Although the mother-in-law saved money, she lost power. Although you feel wronged and angry, you won your best weapon and face. This, in turn, will make my sister much more comfortable.