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You have experienced the third year of high school, but it is not black for you, but a feeling of more tension than usual. Deep down, you haven't really realized the significance of fighting for your goals. In this pale process, you lost an opportunity to temper yourself.
It is nothing for a person to lose an opportunity, but it is in this loss that many people lose their successful lives. So, class, what have you lost? Black is depressing, depressing, but it represents maturity and atmosphere behind it. In your college life, do you spend a lot of time at a loss, lying in bed in the dormitory, chatting on QQ, and fighting in online games?
A semester, a year, two years have passed ... suddenly I found that I didn't listen carefully to several classes, although all the classes I gave you were above the lecturer level; Suddenly I found that I didn't read a few books carefully, although your university library has a lot of books; Suddenly I found that I had learned nothing, although there was a lot to learn in college. Are you worried about passing the final exam instead of getting good grades, and are planning various methods that will not stand out: surprise study, cheating in exams, buying wine as a gift, and praying alone? ...
First, do you enjoy life or shape yourself when you go to college?
In your college life, many students have reflected such a problem: I don't know what I want to do in a day, or I don't want to do anything. This is a common phenomenon among students who have just entered the university, because you have lost your goal. For many students, college is the last stage of your study. After finishing college, you have to find a job, but for students who have worked for 12 years, it still seems so out of reach. There are no teachers around you in the university. Whether you learn or not is entirely your own business. Without the homework you couldn't finish before, you think that class is empty for you. What if you study? What if you don't study? Instead of making yourself study so hard, let yourself live a little more freely. No one told you what to do, leaving you at a loss.
Most of you lack spiritual independence and good self-control, and you can't grasp these seemingly excessive freedoms at all. You don't know what kind of person you want to be or what kind of career you want to be. From the ideal of primary school, to the future of junior high school, to the university of high school, and then to the confusion of university, you have completed the transformation of your life goals in this process, and the last thing left is dead bugs. It's because you lost your goal. Without a ship without a direction, there is no downwind. I believe that if every student has a goal, you will live a full and busy life and gain a lot. So please set yourself a goal. Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're gonna get!
Maybe someone will ask: why do I have to struggle painfully when others can live a chic life? I'll change it to another question: Does the university enjoy life or shape itself? When many students first entered the university, they had the experience of running for the offices and cadres of the student union and various societies. Afterwards, many students lamented: unfair, everything depends on the relationship. I would like to ask, if schools are still like this, what will society do? Doesn't society play politics, relationships and money more thoroughly? What makes you stand in society in the future? It doesn't matter if you want money. If you don't have money, what else? When you graduated from college, you suddenly found that you didn't learn really good skills except for getting a college diploma and talking about a seemingly abstruse topic. What you do may be just a nice name, or something that anyone can do. Will you still complain then? Each of us wants to live a high-quality life, to let our closest relatives live a carefree life, and to leave traces of our own value in the world, but these can not be achieved through enjoyment. God gave each of us hands and a brain to create and think. This period of time in college is your best study time, so please give up enjoyment, try to reshape yourself and save strength for the future takeoff.
Second, the overflow of feelings is only regarded as a need!
Since we are talking about college life, we should fall in love. The university is adolescent boys and girls, and love inevitably happens here. But I don't know when it started, but this normal thing that can't be normal has never been questioned: today's college students are full of feelings. Nowadays, college students are mixed with most utilitarianism, desire and indulgence in their emotions. When they graduate every year, lovers eat their last meal, hug and kiss for the last time, then turn around and leave, embark on their own journey and forget this relationship as if it had never happened. Love is only regarded as a need.
There are many people who want to catch love or be caught by love. But I hope your love is sincere, earnest, pure and true. If you think he is handsome and want to fall in love with him, please think twice; If you think she is beautiful and want to fall in love with her, please think twice; If you feel lonely and want to find someone to fall in love with, please think twice; If you fall in love with someone just because you heard a few words from a friend, please give up. In fact, the word "love" has clearly indicated its object: the following word "friend" shows that you should know him (her) well and he (she) should be your friend; It means that you should choose carefully among these friends; "ノ" means that you can only choose one of them as your lover and the others as your friends.
Please cherish your emotion, otherwise it will become very cheap. What is love? You should know this in your hearts. I think: being attracted because of Excellence, being loved because of attraction, and learning to love because of being loved, this is the process of love.
Third, responsibility is determined by mature thoughts!
If I remember correctly, your annual tuition fee is more than 5000 yuan, and the highest has reached 10000 yuan. Plus your living expenses and other expenses, most of them can reach 15000 yuan or more. Now you are in college and receiving a high-cost education, but your parents have invested a lot. How much output do you have? Most of you come from rural areas or small business families, and not many people have rich family wealth. Every penny you use now is the hard-earned money of your parents, even the money borrowed everywhere, which contains incomparable hardships and love for you. On their old faces scarred by years, there are also a pair of hopeful eyes for you, muddled and even a little vague. Responsibility is not given to you by others, but determined by your mature thoughts.
You all say that you have grown up and matured, but I think that at the age of 20, you are just an external maturity. You have a responsibility to your parents that you can never shirk, but you gave up your mission in inaction and degeneration. After the end of the semester, when you go home for the Spring Festival, your parents still love you, are still full of hope, and still exhort you, but you don't apologize at all, don't even talk about your study, don't even show them your report card, hide in a corner and sign your name by yourself.
It is difficult to build a thing, but it is easy to destroy it. Students, please remember and assume your responsibilities to your parents.
Conclusion:
There is another itchy sound in QQ; In online games, there is a killing sound, which makes people feel very excited; Under the street lamp by the lake, there are pairs of lovers who are closely related; The poker table is full of money that seems easy to get ... there are too many college students around you, living a chic life that their peers yearn for; You have to endure loneliness and loneliness, which seems to be incompatible with college life. But successful and great people are lonely, and they have cultivated their super perseverance and extraordinary wisdom in the process of patience; There are too many temptations in college. You need to reject them and walk through the university like an ascetic in others' eyes. ...