The differences between men and women are well known, and the daily communication of long-distance love is basically done online. When the two sides can't see or touch each other, the insecure side in the relationship often has more psychological pressure, thus forcing the other side to make more language reactions. Girls are more eager to communicate because of their natural communication advantages and desire to talk. In the traditional impression of society, boys are more accustomed to doing things silently and ignoring communication. Therefore, there is a big difference between men and women on the issue of communication frequency. So we have compiled a set of standard contact frequency templates for your reference.

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The mastery of frequency is first of all the mastery of large frequency. Large frequency refers to the contact frequency set by both parties (weekly). If it is set in months, the timeline will be too long and easily disturbed by emergencies, so it is most appropriate to define a larger frequency every week. Although the frequency is once a week, communication should not be too frequent. However, in long-distance love, because the two parties are in different social circles and have independent living conditions, it is difficult to judge whether the other party is busy every day or has free time, or is in a certain emotional state. If you forcibly occupy each other's life time at this time, it will easily affect each other's daily life, and a sense of pressure will arise.

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Effectiveness of communication Furthermore, the key to communication is not how much, but [effectiveness]. Long-distance love is basically maintained by chatting, but because the lives of two people do not overlap too much and the rhythm is inconsistent, it is difficult to communicate synchronously. In the end, it is likely that there will be nothing to say to end this relationship. If the two sides keep in touch for a long time, frequent conversations every day after a long-distance relationship will often accelerate the consumption of two people's same-sex topics. Therefore, if the contact frequency is slightly reduced, not only more communication content can be retained, but also the effectiveness of communication can be enhanced.

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Contact frequency, so the recommended contact frequency is 3 to 4 times a week. Moreover, in these three communications, boys took the initiative to contact twice and girls took the initiative to contact once, which is the best state of the week. If all boys take the initiative, it will cause boys' insecurity. It is necessary for us to make an appropriate response. However, if all the girls contact, they will be too active, which will reduce the interest of the other party, and at the same time make him feel pressure. However, more active contact with each other is an important way to maintain mystery and freshness. It should be noted that by 3-4 contacts, we mean 3-4 simple life greetings after a long time, as long as it doesn't take up too much time of the other party.

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After mastering the frequency of long-distance love communication, we should also learn to master the small frequency of contact, that is, the reply frequency of each chat. If the boy responds quickly, you can give him a warm response, and we can delay the reply for 20-30 seconds; If the boy replies slowly, then your reply must be at least 20 minutes late, which means that you are also busy with your own business. Mastering the frequency of reply can not only keep the balance of contact, but also cause the gap of emotional state because of imbalance.

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Finally, how to arouse each other's enthusiasm through the change of chat frequency? Learning to control the frequency of chatting is actually to control the proportion of emotional input, which needs ups and downs to draw people's emotions (appropriate positive cold treatment can tease ta's interest in communication). For example, ta has a high degree of enthusiasm recently and is very active in chatting with you. You can also increase your initiative, respond positively and increase the frequency of weekly chatting. If the other party calls back every time, you can also call back every second, give ta a positive response, and then pull back our contact frequency.

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Why do you need to pull back the daily contact frequency to mobilize the other party's initiative? Because it's wrong to keep high notes for a long time, you should take your initiative as an accidental state. In this way, the other party will be eager to get your high-frequency reply, so as to be more active. Therefore, the next time you chat, you should take the initiative to take back yourself and act as if the climax of the chat had never happened before. This kind of withdrawal can make the other party feel obvious emotional changes, increase the other party's interest and desire in communication, and make ta work hard to enjoy it.