Recently, I attended a wedding. The bride is a sophomore girl born in 1996, and her husband is 16 years older than her. She is a successful lawyer. A group of girls who are still in the boudoir after 1980s are chatting during the dinner. Some people say that the little girl got married because of her son. Getting married so early is doomed to "ruin her studies and her life". Some people say that it is better to marry well than to do well. How about marrying "Uncle"? High-quality men are scarce varieties, so get married early.

The author checked the information, and from September 2005 1, the Ministry of Education lifted the restrictions on college students' marriage, as long as they met the legal age requirements, men were 22 years old and women were 20 years old. Since the ban on college students' marriage was lifted for more than ten years, the phenomenon of college students' marriage has been common. Up to now, "getting married" is not unusual. There is even news that you are pregnant, holding your baby to attend the graduation ceremony, and college students have a second child. Near the graduation season, some college students' "mothers" began to surface, and there were mixed opinions on this phenomenon in society.

Supporters believe that getting married and having children in college can make up for women's inherent disadvantages in the workplace. Many girls find it more helpful to indicate "married and pregnant" in their resumes. They feel that solving the problem of getting married and having children when they are young will not only help them recover quickly, but also help them to go into battle lightly and devote themselves to their careers in the future.

"Many women work hard in the workplace, and the more they fight, the more they can't let go of their careers. It is easy for women to miss the best reproductive age. It is better to be a good mother first and wait until the children are older before entering the workplace. " The insider said.

But more people think that it is irrational for college students to delay their studies when they get married and have children, and the disadvantages far outweigh the benefits. "At an age when you should work hard, study more and travel around the world, you have returned to your family, been bound by your children, lost the most precious freedom and literary time in your life, and been directly ground into daily necessities and vinegar tea. It's really sad. If two people are studying and the family is not rich, it is a nightmare for children to go to school. " Lili, a junior in Shanghai, listed various shortcomings: her feelings are not mature enough, she is still a child, and she is easy to quarrel and break up; Economic pressure, the need for old-age care, dragging down parents. In this case, don't torture yourself or hurt your child.

Lili's cousin got pregnant unexpectedly in her junior year and got married in a hurry. I also dropped out of school, stayed at home for two years, failed IELTS and could not go abroad. All my previous plans were ruined. Cousin is very remorseful; "I have less time for myself, my body has become strange, and my life goals have been replaced by my children's life goals." Because of economic independence, uncontrollable time and lack of sense of responsibility, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is sharp, and husband and wife always quarrel. Recently, she is getting a divorce.

Some emotional experts said that it is very lucky to find a lifelong partner during college, but it is necessary to be cautious when getting married and having children. It is best to have three preconditions: first, academic stability and future work security; Second, the two are emotionally stable and have plans for the future; Third, economic permission and parental support. Early marriage and childbearing are not impulsive, but natural.