Procrastination psychology is a book about procrastination psychology in contemporary society, written by Jane Bok and Lenora Yuan. The book always introduces procrastination from five aspects: procrastination and behavior, procrastination and psychology, procrastination and brain, procrastination and conquest, procrastination and suggestion. As doctors of psychology and counselors at the University of California, Jane Bok and Lenora Yuan began to offer individual group therapy courses for procrastination patients in 1979, and have been committed to providing psychological workshops and lectures for students, companies and public organizations all over the United States. They are active all the year round in Berkeley, a forum of Stanford University.
Procrastination affects almost everyone, from students to scientists, from secretaries to presidents, from housewives to salespeople. Based on their highly acclaimed and groundbreaking procrastination seminars and rich theories and experiences drawn from many psychological counseling fields, the two authors of this book have made a serious, detailed and sometimes humorous exploration on procrastination.
By identifying and examining the reasons behind our procrastination-fear of failure, success, control, alienation and attachment, coupled with our concept of time and neural factors in our brain-it lays a very solid foundation for us to learn how to understand the impulse of procrastination and how to take action in new ways.
After reading this book, as mentioned in the book, there are four reasons for procrastination: lack of confidence in success, aversion to being entrusted with tasks, distraction, and too ambitious goals and rewards. The author tells us that procrastination is a behavior pattern, which is interwoven by psychological root, biological factors and life experience. Making changes and learning new behavior patterns is a gradual process.
First, we are all anxious about procrastination, but we are procrastinating in anxiety.
"I know there are so many things piled up in front of me: open files, messy closets or just a phone call, an email that should be sent out, and my anxious little heart, but I still bite my nails and think, just stay a little longer, just for a while ..." "I am anxious every day, thinking about what to do, and then reading the webpage until midnight. What should I do? "
Second, why should we delay?
"We are all perfectionists, hoping to do well, but afraid of failure, so we are unwilling to take the first step." "Sometimes we do better by mistake because of procrastination; Sometimes because of procrastination, others praise us for being smart and efficient; As soon as the deadline passes, the feeling of relief is also very enjoyable. " "Procrastination stems from disgust and hatred. If we hate someone or something, we may feel lazy about this person or thing as an alternative resistance ... "
Third, the first step to overcome procrastination
Please abandon your fear, shame, worry and self-loathing. Only with a tolerant and optimistic attitude and a calm mood can we see clearly why we procrastinate and let the hand of procrastination loose from life!
College students' reading experience and understanding II
"Let's always go on the road and pursue justice and wisdom." Under the root of the world, the Millennium has been extended again, from ancient times to the present. In the years from generation to generation, heroes and philosophical warriors from zero to infinity rubbed against time with their own blood and influenced the justice and wisdom they pursued with the fireworks of the world. It embodies the pursuit of justice and kindness, and writes them on paper in the form of written dialogue. This novel mode also constitutes Plato's unique style, which can be widely circulated by later generations.
The Republic uses a unique writing technique, and in the form of dialogues between Socrates and a series of characters, it connects chapters and norms in an orderly way, which is as meaningful as postcards. The book generally expounds Plato's thoughts in philosophy, ethics, education, literature and art, politics and so on. , mainly discussing the ideal country. Through thoughtful dialogue, the characters in the novel express their yearning for truth, goodness and beauty and the blueprint for the ideal country.
What impressed me most was their thinking about human nature, truth, goodness and beauty:
Socrates: if there is a person who has the inner beauty of mental state in his mind, his body posture and manners also have the same harmonious beauty ... isn't such a beautiful and thoughtful person the most beautiful scenery in the eyes of experts?
Glaucon: Then it is the most beautiful.
Socrates: Besides, the most beautiful is always the most lovely.
Glaucon: Of course.
Humorous and gentle dialogue is very tense, and the loveliness of human nature and the blending of soul are gorgeous in simplicity. Although the theme of the novel is about the idea of building an ideal country, it carries the wisdom condensed in his mind. However, his exploration of Platonic love between human souls and the truth, goodness and beauty of human beings far exceeds my understanding of utopia and philosophical city-state, so that the soul can rely on it and the body can find a home.
When the wheel of history carries these remarks carefully forged by philosophers thousands of years ago into the 2 1 century, it is such a thin book that records the yearning for the ideal country and beauty, but it makes us feel unbearable. This is the power of pursuing day and night. It is heavy, the words are still clear, and the thoughts are still continuing, continuing our pursuit of the deepest desire of the soul from generation to generation, reflecting the most bitter charm. ...
College Students' Reading Experience and Understanding III
This book was originally a course on the history of China's philosophy. At the teacher's request, I read some books every day and insist on punching in. University is the first book to punch in this semester. For the book "University", I was deeply impressed by the following sentence: "Everyone knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything, knows everything at home, knows everything at home, and knows everything at home." Knowledge can only be acquired after understanding and studying everything; After acquiring knowledge, the idea can be sincere; Sincere heart, square heart; With a correct mind, we can cultivate our own character; Only through the cultivation of character can we manage the family and family well; Only when the family and clan are well managed can the country be well managed; Only by governing the country well can the world be peaceful. "... whether it is sincerity, integrity, physical cultivation, family harmony, national governance and world peace, in the final analysis, it is supported by knowledge. To seek knowledge, we must know the survival law of all things. As students, the pursuit of knowledge is our necessary survival skills at this stage.
In life, we will encounter many impetuous situations, such as the coming of the final exam, facing a few days of review time and a post-production book. There is no difficulty, and I usually feel that I can't start. "Zhi Zhi will decide later, then he can be quiet, then he can be quiet, then he can be safe, then he can think about it, and then he can get it." This passage in "University" tells us that when we are impetuous, when we are confused, we should know our goals, strengthen our ambitions, not be easily disturbed by other things, learn to remember and think about ourselves quietly when we are upset, and learn to study with a peaceful mind and treat people around us. University is the place where we pursue our dreams. Some people will do nothing in a comfortable time. People who are pursuing will not be eager for success, calm but not impetuous, think deeply and take the road of university step by step.
Reading "University" is to promote moral character, improve self-cultivation, enhance the charm of life and sublimate life. A well-cultivated person who can bring positive energy to everyone and society will be recognized by relatives, friends and even society. As a college student, we should study hard, grasp ourselves, seek knowledge, learn to improve our self-cultivation and moral conduct, and be good to the end. To do good things, we can start from the small things around us, not doing small things for good or doing small things for evil. "The so-called self-cultivation is in the right heart, but anger may not be positive; If you are afraid, you may be wrong; What is fun can't be right; If you are worried, you can't "cultivate one's morality". You can't have fears, preferences and worries. In the process of growing up, we should improve our rationality. Only by controlling one's feelings with reason and keeping a peaceful mind can one concentrate one's thoughts on action.
The book "University" teaches us a lot of learning principles and principles of being a man and doing things, and lives and survives with good moral cultivation. It is most important to strengthen your study, and then enrich and improve yourself. Strengthen your integrity and kindness in society, match your words with your deeds, remove dirt, influence people around you with your positive energy, care less and help more, and get self-improvement and spiritual purification.