Everyone, as an individual, is lonely from crying to quietly leaving life. But in this process, we don't even want to be afraid of loneliness. We need others' understanding, care and recognition, and others also need our support and help. All people need friends, without exception.
China people always attach importance to friendship. As early as the pre-Qin period, Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi left an allusion of "mountains and rivers meet bosom friends", and the ancients often said that "a thousand cups of bosom friends are few". It also shows that confidant is hard to find and friendship is hard to find. Speaking of friendship, one word has to be mentioned, and that is "Yi Jie Jin Lan".
Perhaps when it comes to this word, many friends will misunderstand it, thinking that it is used to describe the sworn sisters between women, but it is not entirely true. The word "Yi Jie Jin Lan" comes from Shi Shuo Xin Yu, which actually refers to making like-minded friends, and then it is extended to become sworn brothers, and we often refer to the true meaning of friendship as "Lan Jiao".
So why did the ancients use orchids as a metaphor for noble friendship? Perhaps this is related to the unique temperament brought by orchids, which is elegant and plain, and does not compete with others. The fragrance of flowers is fresh and fragrant, so it is called "Xiangzu". China literati have endowed this undisputed gorgeous Buddha with the reputation of a gentleman in flowers. Qu Yuan, a great patriotic poet, regarded orchids as the sustenance of a gentleman's pure and noble quality, and compared himself with Whelan, so orchids became synonymous with "gentleman" and "gentleman".
We often say that a gentleman's friendship is as light as water, and the unique fragrance of orchids, Jing Ya, is like a noble temperament of a gentleman, just in line with our understanding of a gentleman's friendship. Therefore, using orchids as a symbol of friendship is also an acknowledgement of the purity and nobility of each other's friendship. Although friends are indispensable to a person, we should also learn to make friends carefully. The ancients often said that "three friends are beneficial and three friends are unfavorable."
Only by sharing similar personalities and interests can such friendship last for a long time, and the friends you make are also the embodiment of a person's level and level. Therefore, cleaning up the circle of friends in time is a responsible attitude towards life. After all, there are not many confidants, and they are sincere.
Historically, Yu Boya and Zhong Ziqi, which are connected by mountains and rivers, are close friends. After Zhong Ziqi's death, Yu Boya sadly put down the piano. Perhaps, in his view, the most beautiful music in the world, if there is no bosom friend to appreciate, is better to let the sweet soul of nature return and make it a swan song.