Tonight, dad and mom video chat. My father asked her to tell me, "You can't always take care of the children at home, you have to go out to work, or you will be eliminated by society sooner or later."
On weekdays, when I go back to my in-laws in rural areas, my neighbor's aunt and sister-in-law will always say, "You are too good at having fun. You don't have to go to work and have a husband to support you. What a good life! " Unlike us ... "
Even the elder sister who occasionally buys a SPA will tell me with a sense of superiority: "A woman can't give up her career just because she has children, and it's the same to throw her children to the elderly. Only when women are economically independent can they go anywhere with confidence and dignity! "
I once doubted that my original choice was wrong. What a housewife who wastes her parents' education money and does nothing all day. Moreover, she is a "Mi Chong" lower than illiterate rural women (rural women have to work in the fields and go out to work besides housework and raising children).
In the face of others' incomprehension, I have also defended myself, but in exchange, it is still ridicule.
For example, when I say taking care of children at home, I mean spending more time with children and not missing every growth of children. Some people will say, "What does it matter whether you accompany me or not? Anyway, it is only a matter of time before children grow up. "
For example, when I talk about the surprise of showing children picture books, baking and playing with toys, someone will say sourly, "You are so idle. What do some children know?" When they go to school, there will naturally be teachers to teach, so why bother? "
For example, if I teach my children to eat, collect toys and wash their underwear, someone will say, "Let the children do such a thing. Anyway, you have nothing to do, so why bother to take care of the children? "
Therefore, I have hit the wall many times, and I don't want to explain. Anyway, people who can understand you will always respect you, and people who don't understand you will find it hard to stop her from saying sour words.
Since it is meaningless and communication can't reach a level, let's get along well and don't bother each other!
But outsiders can do whatever they want. If even your own relatives think so, it will really be a great distress in life.
Just like my grandmother, my parents, my uncle and aunt, my cousin and sister-in-law, almost all of them think that for me who has gone to college and received higher education, not working is a pity for my parents' upbringing and education for more than 20 years, and it is a degradation and waste of life.
It feels like watching a box of money I worked so hard to save, and it crashed into the fire and disappeared-what a pain!
However, if I tell them that I take care of the baby at home because I don't want the child to have a childhood without parents like me, because I don't want to miss every moment of the child's growth, because I don't want the child to accept the education of his parents' generation. They will only think that I am too sentimental and think too much, and will not understand my original intention at all.
Therefore, when interpretation becomes a unilateral confession, interpretation has no necessity and significance.
Think of a classic line in the movie "Finding You": "The world demands a lot of women. If you choose to be a working woman, some people will say that you are a bad mother who doesn't care about your family. If you choose to be a full-time mother, others will think that having children is a woman's duty, not a career. "
When the tide of the world economy pushes women into the wider world, they forget to loosen the shackles of their families while creating many possibilities for their lives. So, in desperation, women have to bite the bullet and stick to it.
When the balance between career and family becomes more and more a rigid requirement for women, when economic independence becomes the primary symbol of women's independence, and when ambition and maternal love become the two major tasks in life, how much sense of superiority can women get from the extra care in education?
Therefore, please don't laugh at those women who choose to take care of their children even if they have received higher education, let alone look for a sense of superiority as women from them, but respect their choices from the heart and make them feel a little relieved and confident.
Sometimes, if even women habitually attack women, how sad and wronged women's lives should be!