Pay and return in the past, we have been saying: just pay, don't expect return; Only talk about dedication, not about giving. This is actually misleading and a distortion of human psychology. In fact, as far as people's psychology is concerned, if they pay, they will expect something in return. The more they pay, the higher the expectation of return. Of course, this kind of pay and return can be material or spiritual. If you give and get nothing in return, at least people's psychology will be unbalanced. As for those people who have paid and not been rewarded, but can do everything as usual, if they are not deceiving themselves, they must be people with high psychological quality. The former seeks psychological balance by deceiving himself and shows his generosity by deceiving others. However, then again, being able to say something that you don't expect in return shows the sour potential psychology of wanting in return, which is like paying a lot for love, but showing love that you don't want in return again and again. After all, pale words can't hide an uneven heart. I think this is just a kind of rhetoric when it is difficult to get a return or not at all, and it is not a true portrayal of his psychology. Imagine if the above confession is from the heart, then when he gets the return of love, will he tell the other party again-I have done a lot for you, but I don't want to get your return. Those efforts are my own will. You must not give me love in return for this reason. Would you please think it over? I estimate that in the face of this situation, 99% people will not say such things except ecstatic. Because, after all, after giving love, I always want to get love in return. It can be seen that people's hearts are still eager to be rewarded. As for the latter-those with higher psychological quality, even if their psychological quality is higher, I'm afraid it's because they didn't pay nine Niu Yi points or just think they did what they should do, so as to keep a psychological balance. This is like giving up your seat to the old, the weak and the sick, and donating money and materials to the people in the disaster area. Just do what you want, and naturally you don't ask for anything in return. If his contribution exceeds a certain limit, then he will also have a complex of longing for return. In fact, as far as the average person's psychology is concerned, he hopes to get a return if he pays, such as helping others and hoping to get their thanks, and paying for others and so on. Since most of us are ordinary people with common psychological needs and common psychological manifestations, we should respect each other's psychological needs, so that we can all have a peaceful mind. Doing so is good for both people and themselves. Why not? Think about it, if others pay for themselves, and they are aware of it, but they are indifferent, then we often have a sense of guilt, which is probably not as bad as psychological imbalance. Therefore, if you can give others a reward for their efforts, you'd better give others a reward; If you can't give back, you'd better not accept others' efforts. Perhaps such a refusal will hurt others' feelings to some extent, but a small injury is better than a big injury that may be caused in the future. In the past, we often said that our nation is a grateful and kind nation, and even put forward the moral principle that "a drop of water will be rewarded with a spring", which is not wrong, because this moral principle is actually a universal psychological need of people. It doesn't seem to matter whether to repay it with gushing spring water. It is important to have at least one expression of "reward". "Bao", my heart is calm; "Report", he will be at ease. Of course, this kind of "repay" refers to the return in a positive sense, and has nothing to do with "repay evil with good" or "repay evil with good". In short, as far as the mentality of ordinary people is concerned, if we can pay less in return, we can have more spirit of "helping others"; When you get a reward, you need less reward and more satisfaction. Then, we will live happier! Pay and Return Now go to the street and ask anyone casually. You have paid for others, so do you want to get a return? The answer is similar. Yes But classmates, you find that those who don't pay for us around you but don't need much in return are our dearest and loveliest parents. They take care of us every day, and they contribute more to us than ordinary people. They are selfless and dedicated. Do you know what they want most? What they want most is for their children to fight for breath. I heard a primary school classmate mention something. Her mother once told her that she should study hard to get their breath, because her parents suffered a lot during her growing up, so she was asked not to live up to their expectations. She also told me that her mother cried when she said it. She also really understands her parents' feelings. She studies hard, and her success is due to her parents' painstaking efforts. Her parents are very happy, for nothing but having such a good child. Actually, why don't my parents do this? They work hard every day for what, not just for me. I think I should repay them well once. My friends want you to give it to your parents like me. One cold and dark night, an old man's car broke down on the road in the suburbs. She waited for more than half an hour, and finally a car passed by. Without saying anything, the man driving got off to help. A few minutes later, the car was repaired. The old man asked him how much it cost. The man replied, "I just want to help others." But the old man insisted on paying some money as a reward. The middle-aged man declined her kindness and said, "I appreciate your kindness, but I think there are more people who need money more than I do." You might as well give it to those who need it more than I do. " Finally, they parted ways. Later, when the old man came to a cafe, a pregnant waitress immediately brought her a cup of hot coffee and asked, "Madam, welcome to our shop. Why are you still on the road so late? " So the old man told what happened just now, and the waitress said with emotion, "It's really hard to meet such a good man now. You are so lucky to meet such a good man. " The old man asked her why she worked so late, and the waitress said that she needed a second job salary to meet the baby. After hearing this, the old man insisted that the waitress accept a tip of $200. The waitress loudly said that she couldn't accept such a big tip. The old man replied, "You need it more than I do." The waitress came home and told her husband about it. Her husband was very surprised that there was such a coincidence in the world. It turns out that her husband is that kind of mechanic. This story tells a truth: no pains, no gains. When we "sow", we also plant our own future. Everything you do will be repaid to you in some way at a certain day, a certain time and a certain place where you need it most in the future. In addition to the law of reward, there is another law of excess reward, which means: "As long as you make more efforts in providing services, your recovery will definitely increase. Always walk an extra mile and always do more than you do. When you keep paying and pay more than you should, you will definitely get double compensation. " The universe is round. If you want love, you have to give it first. If you want to be happy, you must first give happiness. You will reap what you sow. Only ask those who don't ask about the harvest. Nothing is impossible, and nothing is impossible. I have always believed this sentence and sent it to all the partners who work together. This sentence is: "Any private effort will be doubled and displayed in public." Wu Ting's "Qing Zi, leisurely in my heart" and Cao Cao's courtesy corporal treat each other with sincerity, imitating "Duke Zhou vomited food", in exchange for "the world turns to the heart". If people want to have real and solid feelings, they must be satisfied with their hearts and treat each other with sincerity. What you sow, what you reap; What to pay, what to return. This is a cycle, a law that cannot be crossed. Zhong Ziqi died and Yu Boya broke the piano. It is not that Boya is too persistent, but that the friendship between Yu Zhong begins with mutual heart-to-heart. From the moment they met, they were no longer two people, and their hearts were intertwined. In childhood, Boya's heart was gone. Sadness is greater than heart. Boya had no choice but to break the piano. Therefore, I found the eternal swan song of my bosom friend between the minutes, which is touching to this day. Between friends, you don't need too much. The most rare thing is to meet with your heart and be honest. The sunshine of friendship will warm every corner of your heart. Sowing is love, and harvesting is love. /kloc-At the end of 0/6, the Dutch expedition began to look for a route to China and east indies that belonged to the Dutch themselves. They set sail with the goods exchanged by the merchants. On the way, they were trapped in the Arctic Ocean. Hunger, cold and disease claimed the lives of many sailors, but they didn't use any goods of the merchants. On the way, they met a sinking storm ship. While struggling to escape, they did not abandon any goods intended for trading, and finally they returned to their hometown. Although they didn't fulfill their mission, all the goods entrusted by the merchants were returned to Zhao intact before they left. This is their commitment to the businessman's conscience. Only by treating each other sincerely can we communicate and cooperate with each other. There are too many rules in doing business, and the most important spiritual temperament is honesty. Treat each other with sincerity, and there will be a banner of credit, and credit is money. Pay integrity, return integrity. Treat each other with sincerity. The relationship between people is actually that simple. As long as you are sincere, you can conquer all doubts and hypocrisy. But if you have ulterior motives, you will also despair in deception and betrayal. Meet each other with heart and treat each other with sincerity: "People who have no faith can't be trusted." "If a big car has no track and a small car has no track, what can it do?" Don't abandon your sincerity, and don't forget to listen to the angel's singing honestly. The green leaves of Louling release themselves freely, set off the lotus flowers and squeeze out the shade. Although no one appreciates it, it will eventually turn yellow, but it believes that the next summer will still be full of green. Snow, enduring deep loneliness, protects crops with its own body. Although it finally melts into water, it does not regret, because farmers will smile. May, facing the snow, alone. Although it can't change the silence of the surrounding environment, it firmly believes that the first news of spring and all the colorful love are its best rewards. In the bustling crowd, in a hurry, I heard a voice, an angel's voice. Good people always have good dreams, and paying always pays off. Shang Yang was a reformer in the Warring States Period. He devoted himself to political reform and promulgated various measures. Although he was finally sentenced to the penalty of cracking the car, the development of Qin continued to grow. Isn't history's fair evaluation of him the best reward for him? Cao Xueqin, after the great changes in his family, was almost penniless. He didn't give in on the bumpy road of life, and fought stubbornly against bad luck. A Dream of Red Mansions is the best consolation for his extraordinary efforts. When your kindness at a meal is remembered by others, when you lift a finger and are called for help, how touched and gratified you are that an ordinary person is so respected by others. So, when a stranger struggling on a dark and muddy road reaches out to you, dear, please don't refuse, please extend your hand. The so-called beginning of life, human nature is good, and kind people just keep this beautiful nature. This precious nature made this disabled father resolutely pick up a rag to raise his children after his wife left because of a tragic accident, and take in homeless children with a loving and kind heart for their school. The great father's efforts were not albino, and the children he raised finally entered the university, and his face finally opened the most beautiful smile in the world. As the old saying goes, if people want to make great achievements in heaven, they must first suffer from their aspirations, their bones and muscles, their bodies and their bodies ... So when they occasionally fail in exams, when all their efforts point to a silent ending, don't sigh, don't be sad, you must believe that their efforts will always be rewarded. When you are chasing fame and fortune in the crowd, when you are flushed with others for a trivial matter, when you are depressed by your usual troubles, my friend, calm down and listen to the angel's singing with me! There is always a reward for giving. As its name suggests, Jill Zhang Scale symbolizes equality and fairness, accurately reflects the weight of things, and never takes sides. There is also such a big scale between heaven and earth, which specifically measures a person's pay and return, and how much he pays should be rewarded accordingly. An ordinary teacher has spent decades on a three-foot platform, shedding youth and sweat. With superb teaching quality and lofty professional ethics, he has won the attention and respect of the world. An ordinary traffic police stick to his post, solve problems for passers-by, stand up in front of disputes, punish those drivers who violate the rules, and safeguard the safety and interests of the people, which has won everyone's appreciation and praise. A hardworking housewife, who has worked hard for her family, raised children and cared for the elderly all her life, has won the respect of the whole family and become an indispensable backbone of a happy family. Ordinary people are paying in ordinary posts. What they pursue is not fame and fortune, but the large-scale between heaven and earth has rewarded their corresponding fame and fortune. On the contrary, some people who are lost in the face of fame and fortune and are unwilling to pay only for the return will only make this large scale more and more inclined until they fall into the abyss and cannot extricate themselves. A small accountant, obsessed with profit, addicted to the life of money. In order to meet their high consumption, they do not hesitate to betray their conscience, make false accounts and misappropriate public funds. In the end, the matter was exposed and he was jailed. A customs official, taking advantage of his power, accepted bribes from illegal traders, opened a green channel for his merchant ship, causing losses of more than 1000 million yuan to the national economy, pocketing his own money and damaging public interests, and finally waiting for him was severe legal sanctions. A teenage boy has developed a bad habit of laziness since childhood. In order to meet his living expenses, he embarked on the road of theft, kidnapping and robbery, and was finally caught while robbing money. From then on, the gorgeous juvenile season will be spent in prison. The world always hopes that the world will give itself much in return, but ignores how much it has paid for the world. The invisible scale between heaven and earth is fair to everyone, and only pay will be rewarded. Just like a song: there is justice in the world, and there is always a reward for paying; Saying is not as good as doing, and doing what you want to do is to be the best ... Only by letting yourself pay and be the best can our life be better. & lt& gt Last autumn, 507 households next door moved out and moved into a new family of three. I haven't seen the host very much, except that the host is a young aunt, the daughter of my fourth grade school. When they first moved in, they gave us a bad impression. They keep decorating all day, which makes us always "appreciate" their construction symphony. Moreover, the workers they hired were uneducated, and they took us away from the bench on the balcony of the corridor without saying hello, and put the board on the platform between the fourth floor and the fifth floor, which greatly affected the passage of 506 in our home and the same corridor. But in the end, they stopped suddenly. I think I'm scared. However, an event during the Spring Festival changed the atmosphere of the two families. One day, in the corridor, my parents and I met the hostess of 507. We didn't want to talk to her at first, but she said hello. We had to respond, so we exchanged pleasantries. "Where are you going this Spring Festival?" She looks worried. "My sister lives in Ningbo." Mom answers first. "What about 506?" "I also want to go back to my hometown. What about you? " "We stay here. It was originally for the final decoration of the house. Not long ago, I realized that you stopped working because of the noise. After listening to what you just said, I'm going to help you two families look after the house. " "No ..." After she said this, we began to feel embarrassed. "It doesn't matter, neighbors, it's right to help each other." I can't help but be moved. She stopped working some time ago to keep us quiet! We misunderstood her, but she was so popular that she helped us look after the house during the Spring Festival! I turned my head and found a warm smile on my parents' faces. I must have been touched. I had a comfortable and happy Spring Festival, but the difference was that I had a warm neighborhood in my heart. After returning to Hangzhou, our relationship became harmonious. If we meet, we will greet each other. When they do the last renovation, we won't complain. Let's go to their house. The whole floor is full of warm feeling. Looking back on the past four months, I can't help but think of a sentence: "Give a kindness and you will get more in return." Yes, 507 families repaired the rigid neighborhood relationship with sincerity and kindness, and thus started a new life in harmony with their new neighbors. Isn't this a classic example? Although I spent a Spring Festival here, I was recognized by my neighbors. Isn't this more rewarding? Really, pay a kindness and get more surprises. Pay and return are the reciprocal relations that people often measure. Are you afraid that you will succeed if you don't pay and get nothing in return? Many investors want to pay a small amount of capital and then return a huge amount of capital. Has this idea come true? Remember once a netizen engaged in entertainment and wanted to discuss with me how to exchange one point for ten thousand? I'm a little useless with him! If it is true, how long do you expect it to pay off? I asked this question! In fact, everything has to be paid for. Equal to love; Many people say that love does not necessarily have a return. I thought to myself, what is its return? What do you want when you fall in love with someone? Is lover happiness a reward? Many people regard it as an investment concept. What is the new love mode? Invest to meet the market demand and improve for consumers; This is a benefit. Many people don't understand what business opportunities are and what business value is. If others do well, they will follow suit. Will the result be the same as others? Too many people share limited rice, and everyone has only one or two in his pocket; Even if you make great efforts to fight and rob; Will the result change? When someone joins, the market capacity will decrease. This is the result of 2- 1 There is a sentence in Jing Li's blog, which I think is quite right: "Come streaking, go streaking." If you keep paying, you will get continuous benefits. Doing things doesn't have to be rewarded first; As long as you are happy, that's enough. There are victories and failures. "Naked people come, naked people go." This is the law. The Pay and Return of Love Judging from the plot of "Qiao Family Courtyard", Qiao Zhiyong actually started from scratch. When Joe's business was about to end, Joe's grandmother conspired with the shopkeeper Cao to borrow money from Joe through his marriage with Lu. Although this is a trick, it is the only way. Fortunately, Liu Yuhan was not forced to marry Qiao Zhiyong, but fell in love with Qiao Zhiyong at first sight. Liu Yuhan naturally has to pay all her money for such love. After three days of marriage, she not only didn't have a pillow with the groom, but finally found that Qiao Zhiyong had a woman in her heart, and the jstars married her just to borrow money. After learning all this, Lu made a choice to carry his love to the end. Three days later, she took Qiao Zhiyong and left for Taigu's mother's house without her mother borrowing money, trying to live up to her mission. Finally, her father Lu trembled with labor: "Who is the daughter who raised herself? A pair of wool socks actually cheated me of 500 thousand two silver! " Then, in order not to let Qiao Zhiyong be heartbroken, he personally went to the door to persuade his rival Jiang not to marry the only son of a half-dead family; For Qiao's business in Baotou, on the one hand, she cooperated with Qiao Zhiyong to set up a bureau among Shanxi merchants in Beijing, on the other hand, she asked Qiao Zhiyong to get to Baotou before the honeymoon was full; At the height of the battle of Baotou, he once again brought silver reinforcements to ensure the final victory; In order to satisfy Qiao Zhiyong's ambition to do great things in the world, and support him to go south to Wuyishan, north to Chaktu, and enter the banking industry, she repeatedly used a "jade cabbage" with a value of 502,000 silver, intending to make great achievements on Qiao Zhiyong. In this way, Liu Yuhan not only boarded his own property, but finally gave Lu Lao's business worth 3.502 million pieces of silver with 2.02 million pieces of silver to Cheng Elegant, just to save Qiao Zhiyong's life from prison. It can be said that she is a person who is willing to give everything for love, but what did she get? She got the right to love Qiao Zhiyong and Qiao Zhiyong's heartfelt gratitude: "You are really the lucky star of our Qiao family!" Is such a sentence, let Liu Yuhan shed tears of happiness. True love sometimes only needs one sentence in return. Ginger's love can be regarded as a kind of love with the same life, a kind of love that can't be obtained and becomes hate. No one knows how long this love can last in the long river of marriage and whether it will cause aesthetic fatigue. However, this kind of love is often as hot as fire and as deep as the sea, which makes people desperate. Although Jiang turned from love to hate after taking control of He Jia's huge property, he took a series of actions against Qiao Zhiyong, and ruthlessly made the choice of putting Qiao Zhiyong on the ground and ending it quickly, but these hatred in action could not make Jiang completely forget his beloved person, but put her in an extremely contradictory position. In fact, instead of venting her hatred and dispelling the pain caused by love, Jiang further deepened the original pain, so that she had to use the method of chanting to dispel the pain and trouble she felt in the world, but she didn't care, because love was still surging in her heart from time to time. Economics explains that "the deeper you love, the deeper you hate": the deeper you love, it means that the parties regard love and being loved as highly scarce resources. The scarcer the resource, the higher the value and the worse the substitution. Once the parties are deprived of irreplaceable high-value resources in real life, the greater the loss and the stronger the frustration of the parties. When this kind of loss can never be made up, the parties will pass on all the responsibilities to the other party who caused this kind of loss, and hatred will also arise. Jiang's love, the love that Jiang hates because of love, and the love that Jiang can't love or hate finally paid off. The last scene of the TV series is like this: Qiao Zhiyong, who is senile, dozes off on the couch in the middle hall of Qiao's courtyard, and Jiang, who is also white-haired, comes to see his cousin. Qiao Zhiyong said with emotion, "I already know that you put me in prison and you fished me out. In my life, I am worthy of Qing and jstars. The only thing I feel sorry for is you. When you get old, you can't owe the bill. I'll pay you back today. " So he knelt down on the spot and kowtowed to Jiang: "Be worshipped by me." Although Jiang has mixed feelings, there is no wave on his face. She calmly and generously tapped Qiao Zhiyong on the back with a cane, which was a reward for the love of her life. Looking at Qiao Zhiyong prone on the ground, ginger turned away. With a desolate and aging heart, I stumbled out of the jstars courtyard. In this way, Qiao Zhiyong made a face-to-face worship, and in return for Jiang's love, she was completely liberated physically and mentally, and drove her home. Jiang in TV series is a perfect woman, and Lu can be said to be the best among women. However, I'm afraid we can only use the word "unlucky beauty" to judge the lives of these two women in the play. They gave everything they had, but only got jstars' fortune and Qiao Zhiyong's loyalty to the Great Qing Dynasty! Their efforts and gains in life are very remarkable. But what's more interesting is that the TV series is arranged like this. What are you trying to say? Pay and Reward Since I became a class teacher, I have been very angry, because students don't study hard, they are often late and skip classes. I tried my best, but I didn't improve the students' grades. I am disappointed because I can't change their learning attitude and correct their bad habits. I began to slack off, listless in class, and too lazy to control students' violation of discipline. I think, in the face of such students, why pay so much? It was a gloomy afternoon. I was chatting with a colleague in my room when two students knocked on my door. When I opened the door, a green thing caught my eye. I took a closer look and found that it was a package made of two bamboo leaves, which was quite small. I asked coldly, "What is this?" One of the students whispered, "This is a small wild fruit. We call it' Little Myrica rubra'. I hope the teacher will like it. " I was about to say thank you when the two of them had already left, only to hear them loudly say, "You're welcome!" " "Driven by curiosity, we quickly opened it and found golden red bayberry, as big as corn kernels. I took two bites, sweet from my mouth to my heart. Later, I heard from other students that there were thorns on the tree of that wild fruit, and two students' hands were pricked in several places. They finally picked some, but they didn't want to eat them. My heart was suddenly stabbed-my concern for students was not in vain-and I couldn't help thinking of a sentence: there are no students who can't teach well, only teachers who can't teach well. I suddenly realized how much I hated iron before. After all, I am still a child and need patient teaching. They also have a lovely side. Pay, not necessarily return; No pains, no gains. Pay and Return Today, the composition topic of the students' exam is about pay and return. This topic has aroused many associations, so I mentioned the rusty pen and wanted to express my inner feelings and communicate with you. There is an old saying in China that "a drop of water is exchanged for a gushing spring", which teaches us to treat our family, society and the world we live in with a grateful heart. This is very necessary for the "recipient". Only by being grateful can we repay them and selflessly give the same kindness or care to those who need help and care, and the society will be warm. However, those who "pay" don't have to forget what they have paid, but focus on whether they have received the same return. Otherwise, "giving" is not a virtue, but it makes people feel shameful. In our life, we get a lot of benefits unconsciously, such as parents' upbringing and teaching, teachers' care and teaching, friends' care, lovers' consideration and care, and even natural giving and gifts. It is in this loving environment that we can live happily. Of course, we also unconsciously return. We are doing our best for our parents, teachers, friends and society. Everything is so natural, so harmonious, not deliberate and far-fetched. It is true that some people in this society pay more than they return, while others do the opposite, which makes some people psychologically unbalanced. There are sayings such as "Good people are rewarded" and "dogs bite Lv Dongbin". There was a time when I was complaining that my efforts were not rewarded. Either the students didn't understand their painstaking efforts or the leaders didn't see the results of their work. But if you look at things from another angle, you may have different views. It is my duty and my duty to pay for the students. Students can't understand and appreciate it now, but one day they will grow up and understand my intentions today. Leaders can't see their own achievements, which means they haven't tried their best. I believe that if they persist in their pursuit, they can achieve achievements that leaders appreciate. If I can treat these things with a normal heart, maybe my life will be happier. On the other hand, if you are dissatisfied with the temporary gains and losses, you will lose the motivation to make progress and lose the opportunity to be happy. How much to pay, how thin and how thick the return is, the conclusion varies from person to person. We often hope to get a big return with a small investment, but is it fair to others? People often say, "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. "If you can pay with a natural and peaceful attitude, you won't expect too high a return, and you won't have disappointed complaints and resentment. If we can be broad-minded and open-minded, perhaps life will reward us with more surprises: family harmony and happiness, steady progress in our career, recognition and closeness of friends, and our own happiness and peace. Can this be compared with the gains and losses of one place at a time?