"As long as it is a peaceful breakup, I prefer to maintain a good relationship with my predecessor after the breakup."
Chen Xiaoyu, a college student in Fujian, believes that couples can still be friends with their predecessors after breaking up. In life, she pays more attention to her interpersonal harmony. "I feel that as long as it is a peaceful breakup, I am willing to maintain a good relationship with my predecessor after the breakup."
She believes that there is a principle and a bottom line for making friends with her ex, that is, there can be no infidelity in the process of love, and both sides have accepted a peaceful breakup. "Cheating includes concealing the state of love and intimate contact with the opposite sex."
If you don't cheat during your love and break up peacefully, you can be friends. However, Chen Xiaoyu thinks that he can only be an ordinary friend. "Like a friend in a circle of friends. You can chat occasionally and talk about the current situation. "
When making friends with his predecessor, Chen Xiaoyu thinks it is necessary to explain clearly with his current one, so as to avoid misunderstanding and lead to the current emotional crisis.
She said that it depends on the current lover's requirements for maintaining a relationship with his predecessor. If the current lover disagrees, you can also delete the contact information of your predecessor.
"Not contacting your ex is the basis for starting a new relationship."
"Don't be friends after breaking up." Chen Ying, a college student in Hubei, believes that whether to be friends after breaking up is related to the reasons for breaking up. If you quarrel and get along unhappily, you are even less likely to be friends. Because friends also need to see each other and get along well. If we can continue to be friends, we want to do it again. If you get too close, you will remember that memory and can't get out.
Chen Ying said that a relationship is suffering from hurt and disappointment, as well as love and trust. Now that you have turned around, let the past become the past, don't add a trace of ink to the past, and let all the beautiful or not so beautiful end freely, which is a relief for yourself and the other party.
Qin Lili, a college student in Sichuan, also thinks that you should not be friends after breaking up. She said that after breaking up, she was more or less carrying her old memories and feelings, which was unfair to the next one. Since we are going to start the next relationship, we should put the last relationship in order. "Not contacting your ex is the most basic thing to start a new relationship."
YueYang went to college in Fujian, and he also supported the idea of not being friends after breaking up. He said that most relationships ended in discord and they didn't want to be friends after breaking up. "If we continue to be friends and become good friends, it can only show that both sides have failed to let go and may still be together."
He advised couples not to disturb each other after breaking up. "Even if we meet in the future, it is good to know that the other party is doing well."
Zhou Shuzhi, a full-time teacher of the Mental Health Education Center of Wuhan University of Technology, a registered psychologist of the Chinese Psychological Association and a national second-level psychological counselor. Photo courtesy of respondents
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