First of all, in college, there are many choices. The circle in the university is particularly wide, including dormitory circle, club circle, department circle, part-time circle and so on. When you have a large number of potential friends, your energy is less for everyone on average. If you don't have a good relationship with this person, just have a good relationship with others. The more friends you make, the less you cherish and the more you like every relationship.

Second, when I went to college, the purpose of making friends changed. In fact, in junior high school and high school, making friends is simply making friends, nothing else, and the purpose is very simple. But when I went to college, the purpose of making friends changed. Some people want to be student cadres, others want to get everyone's support and get scholarships. When the other person's goal is achieved, you will be less needed and your relationship will not be as good as before.

Third, we spend less time together. Life in junior high school and senior high school is really a typical group life. Boys and girls even eat in groups and go to the toilet in groups. In general, being bored with each other every day can certainly cultivate feelings. It's different when you go to college. Everyone has their own busy things, and there is little time to get along. Sometimes people in a dormitory seldom meet each other. It's a bit difficult to cultivate true feelings.

Fourth, there is always a lack of emotional foundation among college students. It's not hard to find that some of your friends are still close when they meet again, even if they haven't contacted for a long time. Why? Because you have an emotional foundation. For example, you and A are children from the same village who grew up playing with mud. For example, you and B are netizens who have climbed over the wall to surf the Internet, so they are like-minded.

To put it simply, for a long time, everyone did one thing together. I think it will take at least a year. Most friendships in universities lack this emotional foundation, and most of the friends they make are nodding acquaintances. For example, I made some friends in public elective courses, clubs and student unions. After only one semester, we won't have any chance to get along, and our friendship will definitely fade.

Fifth, besides the same interests, the most important thing is time. Some people will say that it is not cost-effective to spend so much time and energy to cultivate a relationship with another person. That's why you can't make friends. You want to make friends, but you don't want to spend time and energy on it. How can I make friends?

Finally, to make real friends, you should find something meaningful to do, such as taking a part-time job, going to the library and playing games. Attract others with charm. Treat people around you sincerely, and then leave those who know how to be grateful and do meaningful things together. Only in this way can we cultivate true feelings.