First, solve their homesickness. For many children, leaving home for the first time 1 time, leaving their parents for the first time 1 time, living alone in a distant place, entering a new environment and facing new faces, has a lot of discomfort. Especially when I am sick, on holiday, or on my birthday, I miss my parents' busyness more, and the family sits together in harmony and beauty. Some students even took the bus for 10 hours just to have dinner with their families. On these special days, as family members, we should call them in time, give them spiritual comfort, and prevent children from secretly crying in the distance.
Second, supervise their study. Although he is a college student, he is still a child after all, and he often has the nature of a child: playful. A considerable number of college students are addicted to the internet as soon as they arrive at university. Skipping classes, falling in love, failing the exam all the time, running a red light all the way, I didn't know I couldn't get my diploma until I graduated from college. This is not sensational. This year, China University of Science and Technology cancelled the registration of 18 students, and some students were reduced from undergraduates to junior college students. This is the most realistic example. In order to strengthen the management of universities, in 20 19, the Ministry of Education issued a document to strictly control the entrance of university graduation and cancel the "open examination" system of universities. The introduction of this spell has made many college students miserable. Under such strict circumstances, parents should not always hold the view that they should learn to manage their study and life when they grow up. It is also necessary to supervise them regularly, and even it is necessary to contact the children's counselors to find out their attendance at school, their study and their academic examinations in each period, and give them timely encouragement and supervision to ensure that they can learn things in college, succeed in their studies and graduate smoothly.
Third, deepen feelings. After the children finish the college entrance examination, from leaving home to going to college, it indicates the permanent separation of parents and children. During college, winter and summer vacations have become the most time for parents and children to get along. Once they graduate from college, many students stay and work in different places, so it is not easy to work hard outside. In order to gain a foothold in the company, they can't ask for leave, and they dare not ask for leave. Maybe I can see my parents for a few days a year, or maybe I can't see them for years. During the transition from school to work, parents and family members should often call their children to exchange feelings, understand their inner world and provide them with some necessary help in their emotional life. Let them feel the deep love of their parents and cultivate their gratitude.
Call your children. There are no parents who do not love their children, and there are no children who do not miss their loved ones. Frequent contact can not only solve the pain of parents' yearning for their children, but also help children get emotional comfort and encouragement from their studies and learn to be grateful. Why not?
The child has gone to college and is an adult. Generally speaking, children will come back every holiday. At this time, we should take the opportunity to ask him about things in school, such as study and life. At the same time, we should ask children to get along well with classmates and respect teachers. Usually make a phone call once a month and a half, or communicate with WeChat. Don't call your child every day, it will make him hate you. The most important thing is to ask children to study hard, not to repeat grades, and then not to graduate, which would be troublesome.
The growth of children is inseparable from the communication between parents. The same is true of universities. First, parents should first make it clear that universities are free-range education, relying on autonomous learning, which is not as strict as primary and secondary schools, and all time is free except school hours.
Many children are forced to study and finish their homework in primary and secondary schools. When I went to college, it was completely free-range education. No one will force you to teach yourself.
Many students don't know what to do when they get to college. Nobody cares about him, and nobody forces him to study. This phenomenon is most obvious in freshmen, and there is a period of confusion.
Second, parents should learn relevant professional knowledge at the same time, understand the top talents and career prospects in the industry, educate their children to make career plans, and make them feel that they are not fighting alone.
Parents learn professional knowledge at the same time, so that children feel that they are not alone.
My friend's child is studying clinical medicine 5+3 integration in Guangxi Medical University. He inquired about his daughter's professional knowledge and communicated with her online.
My daughter thinks that my father still knows professional knowledge, and my father is really powerful. So, he led his daughter to be admitted to the doctor of medicine of Peking University, and now she has obtained the qualification of English exemption for the doctor of medicine of Peking University.
Third, children can participate in more club activities and part-time jobs, and can exercise their courage, organizational skills and oral expression skills.
Participate in club activities and professional knowledge according to your hobbies and professional knowledge.
I like calligraphy. When I was in college, I joined the College Students' Painting and Calligraphy Photography Association. Through the association, I learned Tian Yingzhang's hard-pen running script and Ouyang Xiu's regular script. At the same time, I trained my courage and oral expression ability by organizing on-site calligraphy and painting competitions.
At the same time, as a tutor, I applied my knowledge of Chinese language and literature to practice and accumulated teaching experience.
Fourth, go to the library to learn professional knowledge.
As a student majoring in Chinese language and literature, I have always loved literature. I spent most of my spare time in the library, reading many literary masterpieces such as Romance of the Three Kingdoms, A Dream of Red Mansions, Home, Spring and Autumn Annals, Ordinary World and anna karenine, which are very helpful to my education and teaching.
Fifth, textual research prepares for future employment.
The employment direction of Chinese language and literature is mainly to be a teacher, so I took the teacher qualification examination, got the teacher qualification certificate, got the second-class A certificate of Putonghua, got the certificate of writing brush and pen chalk, and got the CET-4 and Computer Grade-2 in Sichuan Province, which made preparations for employment.
Sixth, strengthen extracurricular physical exercise. Good health is the capital of revolution. Only when you are in good health can you study well, work well, get a good job and live well.
In short, after college, parents need directional guidance, always pay attention to children's dynamics, and let children become better talents.
I am an educator, Xiaoshi. I concentrate on education and feel good. Don't forget to pay attention.
Need and necessity.
The first is the call of family. As the saying goes, children travel thousands of miles, and mothers worry. Children go to college, and most of them are far away from their parents. The gap in space makes parents miss their children more. Children will not give up when they grow up, because it is our nature. Children should never think that their wings are hard, so they can fly alone and ignore the care of their parents. Maybe they are a little nagging, maybe their views are a little backward, maybe there are some contradictions between generations, but behind these are deep love.
Second, continuous communication can convey each other's urgent needs in time and complement each other's advantages. We all have this experience: if there is less communication, we will gradually become strangers. This is true for relatives, friends, children and parents. Both sides have their own advantages, and sometimes they need each other. Only when the two sides communicate frequently and talk endlessly will they be willing to tell each other something. Now the whole world is the same fate, and it needs * * * * to build * * *, especially for every family whose blood is thicker than water.
My cousin, a precious daughter, is studying in Beijing. She greets her parents every morning, noon and evening. Occasionally, I miss something, so I will explain the situation afterwards. I'm in graduate school now, and I'm still insisting. Every time I see them, my parents are talking about their daughter's pride and happiness. The daughter talked about her parents' enthusiasm and happiness. It is enviable and worth learning.
So no matter from that point of view, children should continue to speak freely with their parents when they are in college. Only in this way can we build a harmonious family and better build our harmonious society.
Some parents complain that children only call home when they need living expenses. Just said how much money, and hung up before talking. Some parents said that the child blacked out WeChat. Some parents are also happy to say that when their children go to college, they will tell us everything, big or small. Why am I so different? This is related to the original way of communication between parents and children.
1, original communication mode
If the father is autocratic and doesn't like communication, or the mother likes nagging. Children will be rebellious. If parents don't seize the opportunity of senior three, they will change their communication methods and become democratic communication methods of equality and respect. Once the child goes to college. This relationship is hard to change.
In I am an orator, the rebellious orator said that he didn't want to change his relationship with his parents until his father was old and seriously ill.
In college, children don't want to change the original communication mode at all, and they don't have that much wisdom. So the parents called the child and the child was impatient. If, as the subject said, parents still call frequently, it will only force him to pull you black.
2. Children need independence
In addition to homework, I also play games, sports, entertainment movies, celebrity gossip and talk about the opposite sex. There is no pressure on peers to talk about things. And you don't need expert advice.
And they have a lot of things to do and need to make their own decisions. It's time for them to have independent thoughts. The topic of talking with parents is narrow. That's all my parents know. 10 I've been saying it for years. If you talk about professional knowledge, parents don't understand. If you talk about your parents' friends and jobs, your children are not interested. Children are interested in things, but they are afraid of parents' criticism and dare not say it. If it is a freshman, so much the better. There are some new things to talk about. Sophomore and junior, I really don't want to be too restrained.
3. The right to speak has always been in the hands of children.
Whether parents want to admit it or not, the right to speak is already in the hands of children. They can decide how much and what to talk about, and parents can only listen. Parents still need to find something else to do. Divert the children's attention. If the child needs you, you can show up again. Our parents have explained what they should do. How children don't study, skip classes, get confused and struggle-this is his personal topic. I believe he can overcome it. Our parents choose to believe. You can only choose to believe.
Need to communicate frequently. The most important thing is safety. Especially girls. Girls have a special problem, mainly trying not to see anyone during school. It's not too late to wait until they graduate and have a stable job income. Being pregnant at school is terrible, and it is dangerous to life if it is not handled well. It will also be looked down upon by classmates and teachers, and it is difficult to be a man. Whether you are born or not sometimes determines the fate of your life. Therefore, during college, try not to treat others, and parents should communicate with their children in all aspects. Thank you.
The answer to this question is yes, and proper communication is needed. Parents and children are drifting away, but the process of children's growth should not be drifting away without books (letters). The reason for this is the following：
1. Children need comfort when they go to college for the first time. Children who go to college will be homesick when they leave home for the first time and face the new environment, and they need timely comfort and encouragement from their parents.
2. Knowledge growth is not mental maturity. The independence of the only child is weak. There will be a lot of confusion when you leave your parents and face life and study alone. Parents should understand, forgive and guide in time.
3. Children travel far and parents are concerned. As the saying goes, children travel thousands of miles, and mothers worry. Especially the only child, is all the hope and sustenance of parents and families. How far the child goes, how far the parents' hearts follow. On the premise of not affecting children's learning, communicate more to solve children's concerns and ideas.
4. Communicate in time to comfort parents' loneliness. Being far away from children is the beginning of loneliness in the one-child family, and it is also the beginning of the "pension mode" in which two children are relatively older. More communication with children can weaken or smooth loneliness.
Parents and children are karma in previous lives. They did it and cherished it. Parents should let their children drift away in caring eyes and reach the other side of life.
Parent-child communication is a two-way behavior. Children do not take the initiative to discuss with their parents their willingness to learn from the scriptures after they go to college. Too frequent contact between parents and children may be an interruption from the child's point of view.
Knowing that children are nothing more than parents, parents will have a basic judgment on whether children should worry more or not at home.
The communication habits developed at home before college can generally be maintained for a period of time when you first enter college, mainly depending on the influence of family environment on children.
For children who often maintain communication habits with their parents, the original habits will last for a while until the spiritual world has new interests.
When children go to college, parents choose to let go moderately, which is a positive attempt to parent-child relationship. As a part of children's life experience, university is the transition between children's student career and professional career, and also the transition from familiar simple environment to unfamiliar complex environment.
How much children grow up during their college years depends on their attitude towards the university, their attitude towards interpersonal relationships in the university and their attitude towards various daily affairs.
The so-called growth only means that people or things bring more positive meaning than negative meaning, and the interpretation of meaning mainly depends on mentality. Positive and optimistic people live more comfortably in college than negative and pessimistic people.
Children who go to college have a basically fixed psychological background, and there are only three kinds of daily situations. ① The ability to create problems is higher than the ability to solve problems; ② The ability to solve problems is higher than the ability to create problems; ③ The two abilities are equal.
The first situation is inevitably often "hanged" in universities. In the second case, you will gain a lot in college. The third situation belongs to the majority, and the final harvest depends on which direction it leans, and it is attracted by negative energy and tends to the first one; Attracted by positive energy, tend to the second.
In short, opportunities and risks coexist in universities. Whether children grow and gain depends on whether their psychological background is positive or negative, optimistic or pessimistic.
When children go to college, parents actually don't need to communicate too much with their children's channels. Why?
When children are in college, there are many things to do, such as attending student unions, painting and calligraphy parties and so on.
Still in college, I have integrated into a small society, and children need to face it alone. The independence of children is very important.
Parents should encourage their children to go to college and teach them how to get on well with teachers and classmates, so as to pave the way for graduation in the future.
Parents communicate with children, usually once a week. Just make a phone call and send a WeChat voice.
When I was in college, I usually communicated with my parents for a month, because I was very busy at that time, studying and taking part in learning.
I think it depends on whether the child is independent and his needs. If he wants to ask his parents for instructions or listen to their suggestions, his parents should communicate with him often. Help him make some decisions and give him some advice on getting along with others. There is also that children are not very reliable in doing things at ordinary times, and parents need to communicate frequently and give him some guidance. On the contrary, children are very independent and handle things carefully. After all, they have gone to college and can be more open. Communicate big things, handle small things by yourself, and have nothing to do with school. College life is rich and colorful, and children don't have enough time. They communicate with their parents every ten and a half months. There are many people here. Parents don't mind. You can leave a message for him when you miss him. You can leave a message for him when you are caring and considerate. He will call you back in his spare time. Give him more time and space, he has grown up.