She has a strong sense of purpose and determination in her work, just like an invincible Xiao Qiang.

In order to win the position of manager of M store, Manny must first pass a hurdle: collecting accounts for the company. As a result, I didn't go back to my hukou, but I lost my dowry money. This is a painful loss!

Mannia didn't collapse when she was about to be dismissed. She rallied and attacked again.

The client finally came out, but she found various excuses to evade. Manny came prepared and took it easy. The other party knew that she was indefensible, so she had no choice but to tell the truth: the boss deliberately defaulted on the payment.

The boss is more difficult to deal with. Rich girls are rich and willful and don't want to pay back the money. If you want to sue, sue.

In the face of the overbearing president, Manny is not discouraged and faces the difficulties: come to me when you are in a bad mood and I will help you solve the problem. I will be online 24 hours a day, at your disposal, until you are in a good mood, smooth, and pay back the money.

Many things happen. After some tossing, Mannia's patience, carefulness and sincerity finally touched the female boss, and she readily paid the arrears and passed the first level!

Seeing this, you may say: I also want to work hard, overcome all difficulties, stick to it and get what I want, but I can't. TV plays are all about making up stories and acting, which is still different from real life.

Mannia was lucky to succeed. She happened to meet a boss with a good temper. What if she tries and fails?

Talent and luck are uncontrollable factors, and we can't choose. We can only control ourselves. Isn't there a saying? The harder the more fortunate. Go all out and persevere, and the result will not be bad.

Wu Jingyu, a taekwondo star who won two Olympic Games and fought in the Olympic Games four times, said:

How can Rainbow Manny, who is over thirty these years, be strong inside, not overwhelmed by difficulties, be more frustrated and brave, have more fighting spirit, work hard in practice and hand over a satisfactory life answer sheet?

Great grandfather Zhihu V Gao's new book "Willpower Dividend" inspires us. It guides readers how to temper their willpower around the goal, upgrade their thinking system step by step, change the old way of thinking and behavior, and achieve the goal.

In "Willpower Dividend", we talked about an important tool "golden thinking circle", saying that if we want to convince others, we must talk about three points: What is this? Why do you want to do it? How come? The most crucial thing is "why". Where is the significance and value of this matter? It represents the motivation for a person to do something.

Grandpa Gao, the author, said in the book that all willpower masters use outlook on life and values to drive their goals. Their goals are closely related to their interests and life planning, and they can clearly see their future direction, being drawn by passion and dreams.

People who have dreams can't stop any difficulties, are willing to eat any hardships and can carry anything. Willpower is not only supported by consciousness and rationality, but also endowed with powerful spiritual strength by sensibility and subconscious.

On the day of national celebration and family reunion, border guards and soldiers gave up the opportunity to rest and reunite with their families. They are still defending the motherland, overcoming many difficulties and sticking to the border all the year round. What supports them is not only a strong will, but more importantly, the initial mission of guarding the frontier and serving the motherland.

Driven by a strong sense of patriotism and responsibility, the soldiers tempered their will in a difficult environment and realized their vows and life values as soldiers.

Therefore, when setting a goal, each of us should first ask ourselves why we want this goal. Is this goal something I like or am I forced to choose? Clear the meaning of the goal, you will have the courage and determination to overcome the difficulties, and you will not stop to doubt whether it is worthwhile to work so hard.

The author believes that the target implementation stage includes three links: understanding, solving difficulties and continuing to advance.

Records run through the whole process of target implementation. Train your consciousness through willpower notes and observe your behavior and feelings. Through weekly diary and gratitude diary, you can see your progress and build up confidence.

The author regards "recording" as his core habit in the process of growing up, which shows the weight of recording in his heart.

Why are records so important?

In a word, recording has three functions:

1. Help build up self-management awareness and supervise your behavior.

"The Power of Habit" recorded a study on weight loss methods in the United States in 2009.

The experimental results show that people who keep diet records every day weigh twice as much as others.

Recording makes the automatic monitoring and adjustment of eating from unconscious to conscious, which changes people's feelings and attitudes towards dieting, and subconsciously begins to accept dieting, so losing weight is no longer painful.

Similarly, it is extremely valuable to record time, money and the use of mobile phones.

Where did all the time and money go? How come 1 hour has passed after just looking at my mobile phone for a while?

Want to find out the root of the problem? Take out your notebook and write down the time, money and mobile phone usage every day! You'll make a great discovery.

2. Recording is a kind of feedback.

Dr. Halverson, a famous psychologist, said that feedback is an important and necessary factor for success. Without feedback, we feel like groping in the dark, wondering if we are off track.

Indeed, without feedback, we don't know where we have gone and how far we are from our goal.

Usually, we can't always get feedback from people around us. We can only find feedback through self-monitoring, and recording is an excellent means to provide feedback.

The feedback tool recommended by my great-great grandfather in the book is Zhou Ji. He began to do it from 20 14, and thought it was a "secret weapon" for his personal growth. Weekly diary is similar to the well-known weekly review and weekly plan.

From April 20 16, Grandpa Gao answered questions in Zhihu, and today he has become a Zhihu V with more than 280,000 fans. How many detours he took, he recorded them every week, found problems and adjusted them in time.

Feedback helps us find problems, correct them in time, and move towards the goal.

3. Record feelings, lead to more thinking and change.

An important theory, triple brain theory, is mentioned in the willpower bonus. The human brain is actually composed of three parts: rational brain, emotional brain and instinctive brain. Rational brain is responsible for thinking and logic, perceptual brain is responsible for feelings and emotions, and instinctive brain is responsible for the operation of basic human functions.

For the conflict between rationality and sensibility, psychology has a classic metaphor, which is called "elephant and elephant rider". The perceptual brain is an elephant, and the elephant rider is a rational brain.

Most human decisions are made by the emotional brain. If you feel good, you like it and decide to take it. If you feel bad, don't. As long as the elephant has desire, the elephant rider can't stop it. So it's hard for us to stop brushing our mobile phones and dramas, because it feels good.

But is it really that good to brush your mobile phone?

The book introduces a method: deliberately record our feelings about things, let us experience our feelings about things again, refresh our original impressions, and thus change our attitude towards things.

If you record it several times in a row, you will have more feelings and thoughts about the matter of brushing your mobile phone, see clearly its significance to you, and change your attitude towards it. Next time you are bored, you don't have to brush your mobile phone to kill time. Try doing some push-ups.

Duke University scholars mentioned in a paper in 2006:

Many of our daily decisions and actions are unconscious, not all of them are well thought out, but they are all instinctive reactions of elephants.

Brush your teeth and wash your face, eat, make friends, shop, etc. Everyone has a fixed pattern, contains a person's habits, and is a program that the brain automatically runs. Among these habits, there are good habits and bad habits.

For example, brushing mobile phones and overeating are generally considered as bad habits, because they make us covet temporary pleasure, but they will bring us long-term negative effects.

Nevertheless, it is not easy to get rid of bad habits, because people are short-sighted and only see the present. The reason why people are addicted to bad habits is that it brings rewards through behavior, and it is this reward that makes us more and more enthusiastic and addicted. Brush the phone to satisfy people's curiosity, stimulate the brain, make people excited and forget their troubles. Watching interesting news can temporarily relieve stress and relax.

The book says that habit has four links: prompt, desire, behavior and reward.

If you want to get rid of bad habits, you have to make changes in these four links.

The trigger point strategy is recommended in the book. In the form of "if …… then ……", the scene and tips remain unchanged, and the reward still exists, but the behavior has changed, and the old behavior has been replaced by the new one.

Next time you want to see your mobile phone, you can say to yourself:

In this way, a simple "if … then ……" command is used to navigate the brain and make it perform an action automatically. The advantage of doing this is to simplify thinking. As long as the conditions are met and the brain is activated, an action will be automatically performed to avoid inner struggle and save valuable willpower resources.

Scientific research shows that everyone's willpower in a day is limited, and every decision in life will consume willpower. The more decisions you make, the more willpower you will lose, the less energy you will have, and the more easily you will be tempted.

Planning in advance with "if …… then" eliminates the need for complicated thinking and judging process, and also eliminates the need to resist temptation with willpower, forming an automatic process, making life simpler, more efficient and easier.

If such an instruction is executed for a long time, it will form a conditioned reflex and become a habit.

Great-great grandfather said in his book that the highest level of willpower is the stage without willpower, and many things in life are done automatically and effortlessly.

Scientific research shows that willpower, like muscle, can be enhanced through training.

Doing some difficult things can exercise your willpower muscles, such as putting off looking at your mobile phone for ten minutes, recording your diet for a day or getting up early. Every time we break through the challenge, our willpower is tempered and strengthened.

Willpower Dividend is a reference book to guide people to train willpower, telling us how to temper willpower by setting goals, how to adjust emotions to reduce willpower consumption, concentrate on work, go all out to create value and achieve life goals.

I hope everyone can benefit from the book, find the right management tools by objectives, practice both inside and outside, protect themselves with willpower, achieve their goals and reap growth dividends.

No matter how high the mountain is, as long as you climb it, you will always reach the top; No matter how long the road is, as long as you keep walking, you will get there.

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