People born and raised in rural areas have an obsession with family reunion. But in middle age, people bought a house in the city through their own efforts. Parents just want to stay in the countryside for the New Year, but they can't leave. It will take a long time to go back to my hometown in the countryside. What should I do if I want to take a day's train to visit relatives in the city after the Chinese New Year?
Sometimes, it is a kind of helplessness not to go back to the countryside for the New Year. I have a career and a family in the city, but I can't take care of my parents in the countryside.
Sometimes, it is quite quiet not to go back to the countryside for the New Year. Once people who go out to make a living return home, they will face the thoughts of seven aunts and eight aunts. First, they will ask themselves how much money they earn a year, and then they will help fix the marriage. In this way, sometimes I don't go back to the village for the New Year, but also for a quiet.
Anyway, people who don't go home for the New Year may have unspeakable difficulties. After all, how can China people put down the word "reunion" easily?
First, people who go out in rural areas are all trying to make a living, and in order to earn more money, there are not many in rural areas.
Second, after going out in the countryside for a long time, I gradually don't want to go back to the countryside. Staying outside for a long time, I feel at home, and my living habits, quality and environment have certain influences. When you return to the countryside, you will feel unaccustomed.
The third is to take the children out. What will the children do if they return to the countryside? Nobody will take care of them. Even if we return to the countryside, the quality of education is certainly not as good as that of the city.
Fourth, people who often leave home go back to the countryside, where it is unpleasant and dirty. Many rural areas are still muddy roads, and the traffic is particularly inconvenient.
Finally, many people in rural areas rarely go back to the countryside when they are free. The above is my idea, I hope it will be helpful for your reference.
This is a very serious problem. The reason why many people don't want to go back to the countryside is that the countryside is not well developed, that is, it is difficult to find money and it is impossible to get rich by agriculture. China's rural land is contracted to households, and each household contracts one or two acres, which has not formed a scale. Therefore, if you farm at home all year round, you can only eat vegetables, and it is a bit difficult to spend money on things or treat people to give gifts.
So people with a little knowledge and culture have to go to work in cities. If you are lucky, you can earn a year's food for a few thousand yuan a month or two. Working outside is very easy, not as hard and tired as farming at home, and eventually you will be in debt.
Now some young people don't even know the basic farm skills. So many people are not used to staying in the countryside, and now the rural land is barren. We can all see it. I hope the experts concerned will consider this issue.
Now many rural people no longer go back to the countryside, even if there are old people at home. There are many reasons for this situation, the main reason is the great difference between urban and rural areas. In recent years, although the environment in rural areas has been greatly improved, the mess still exists. Sanitary conditions are very different from those in cities.
Children have grown up in the city, and they have adapted to the superior environment. Back in the hot countryside of Leng Xia in winter, many children don't like it, and some adults don't want the old people to get used to children.
The development of communication has brought people closer together. Many city people, using the video function of mobile phones and the WeChat transfer function, pay money to the old people's cards at home, video chat, and think that the old people are in good health, so they don't want to go back to visit.
Some are in cities, and they are under great pressure. Life is tight, it costs a lot to go home once, and I don't want to go back because of economic pressure.
There are also poor people who don't leave their loved ones, and there are rich people who don't return. If you don't mix well, you are afraid of jokes. Mix well, afraid of others borrowing money or finding a job by themselves. After much deliberation, I seldom go home.
Hometown is indifferent, and family ties are lacking. In these people's minds, family ties and homesickness are already very weak. They live in a self-centered world and lack gratitude and filial piety for the elderly. They don't know that sometimes companionship is more important than material things.
This phenomenon does exist, which is the change of the times, mainly for the following two reasons.
First, communication is now very developed, mobile phones are popular, and smart phones are popular, which is like building a bridge for family members who are far away from home. At ordinary times, whether family members or relatives and friends, the other party can communicate at any time. In particular, the video function of mobile phones has greatly improved the effect of mutual communication. Although it is far away from Qianshan, it seems to be just around the corner, and it is full of intimacy. Therefore, if there is nothing important in the rural hometown, most people don't want to go back to the countryside.
Second, the hardware facilities in rural areas lag behind those in cities, and they are also far behind in culture, education, medical care, entertainment, water and electricity, and transportation facilities. Also, most farmers have gone out to work now, and some even left the countryside. The lively rural scene in the past no longer exists. Therefore, rural people who are outside do not want to go back to the countryside.
Hello, I'm Xiaohua from Shandong. I'm glad to answer that many people in the countryside don't go back to the countryside now, even the elderly. problem
There are many factors in this problem. Let me tell you something for your reference.
One: Man struggles upwards and water flows downwards. Who doesn't want to climb step by step? From the countryside to the town.
Two: In order to make a living, the wages in towns and villages are getting less and less now. Many rural people go out to work, some couples take their children, some get married and take their children and even the elderly.
Three: the conditions are not as good as the urban, medical and educational environment. What's worse than the countryside? Who wants to go back to the countryside when the conditions come up?
Four: compare the heart. Nowadays, young people don't want to work in the countryside, don't farm, and some even have to go to the city to buy a house when they get married. Young friends are bound to bump into each other. If he has a good one, I must be better than you. Desperate to save face and suffer.
Finally, to tell you the truth, I didn't say that nobody wanted to go back. There are many of us. It is difficult for the elderly to adapt to city life. I am from the countryside, too. I feel that the countryside is quite good, the air is fresh, there is no pressure from house slaves, and I am healthy and comfortable.
Now the countryside has become a gathering place for the elderly, because young people have gone to work and study in cities.
They seldom go home. Even during the Spring Festival, they go home after leaving their relatives in a hurry and then go back to the city. What do some old people think about children in rural areas now? They don't even like their rural hometown and don't want to stay.
Why not go back to the countryside?
1, cannot farm.
Although many people grew up living in earthen tile houses, they really can't farm. Suppose you want to go back to the countryside, in fact, how to make a living is enough.
In this village, every household is self-sufficient. Fertilization, pest control, sowing and harvesting are all done by manpower. If you can do farm work well, you will never starve to death.
If you can find a job in the city, will you go back to your hometown in the countryside? None of them can do farm work, and they are estimated to starve to death in the countryside.
2. Country roads are more slippery.
Routines are everywhere, and rural areas are indispensable.
Maybe things like Weibo are not common in rural areas, but it doesn't mean there are no routines in rural areas.
What can a bunch of women with no spiritual sustenance and husbands not at home do together? It's nothing more than spying on neighbors' gossip and chatting about others' gossip for fun.
This kind of gossip is no less than the crowd watching hot spots. Obviously, other people's family affairs have nothing to do with them. They just love to talk, pass on ten sentences of love, and then pass them back to the ears of the gossiped people.
You can't make money by farming in rural areas.
Due to the economic depression in rural areas in recent years, many agricultural products have either fallen in price or are unsalable. For example, some time ago, there was a bumper harvest of young garlic shoots, but they could not be sold at all, so we had to go to the fields to pull out young garlic shoots. The family is still as busy as a bee, otherwise there will be no garlic in the second half of the year.
Social acquisition, there is no contract agreement before delivery, and the unstable economic situation depends on luck. There is no other source of income, so we can only rely on planting flue-cured tobacco and signing a purchase contract with the state. It is difficult to sell beyond the contract. In addition, in recent years, it seems to improve the quality of tobacco leaves, but in fact it is to suppress prices. Finally, there is little cost left.
Although cities earn less money, it is better than rural areas, which is why they would rather live in cities than go back to their hometown in rural areas. It's not easy for rural people!
4, the life circle is difficult to integrate.
Many young people, because they have stayed in the city for a long time, are used to the comfortable feasting, so it is impossible to return to their original jobs. What you hear, see, say and do has nothing to do with the countryside, but you can't enter when you return to the countryside.
Why stay in town?
1, I can't help it for the children.
Many people who work in cities transfer their children to kindergartens and schools in cities. Education in cities is far better than that in rural areas. For the sake of children's future, it is impossible to go back to rural areas.
There is no future in the countryside.
In order to provide them with education, the family was dragged down and even dragged down. Many families are already heavily in debt, and it is difficult to continue to support them to start businesses in rural areas.
Moreover, not all the knowledge that rural college students have learned has room for display in rural areas. Even the graduates of agriculture and medicine are still not easy to find a platform to give full play to their abilities.
The more you go to the grassroots, the less opportunities, especially in rural areas. It is a fact that social competition is fierce.
Accustomed to the prosperity of the city
It's like a sailor who has seen the vastness of the sea. It's hard to get back to land and die in bed. Even though life at sea may be precarious, it can bring people opportunities that people who die of old age at home will never realize.
4, can let people who work hard see hope.
Civil servants, teachers, bank employees and other occupations are still the "iron rice bowl" in the eyes of the older generation. These occupations have always been branded as "stable", and the so-called sense of security probably comes from this. In the eyes of most rural people, doing these occupations is a very happy thing. If we can find another "second generation" to get married, wow, what a winner in life!
But more people stay in the city because the so-called "stability" is constant, and what changes are really attractive. A job with a monthly salary of 5 thousand this year and 5 thousand next year is far less attractive than a job with 3 thousand this year and 6 thousand next year. Because the latter means that your ability has leapt, and your efforts and efforts have been affirmed.
House prices are high in big cities, so what? I just want to apply what I have learned. Big cities can at least give you an unrealistic fantasy, and maybe one day, you can also be the cover of a magazine.
There are not so many relatives and friends in the city, only "just right" care.
Friends you know in the city are more concerned about your career development and spiritual needs.
Because they are strangers, their origins and past will be diluted, leaving more equal communication. Also because of the "big" city, there is more space for each other, and friends can keep a comfortable distance. A friend worthy of heart-to-heart communication is also worth meeting me halfway across the city. Ordinary fair-weather friends say they will disappear if they can't see them.
The countryside is different. When you go out, you will meet two relatives and three acquaintances, and you will be embarrassed to refuse if you insist on chatting for half an hour.
It can be said that the question raised by the questioner is a new problem with the development of society. Judging from the problem itself, rural people go out to work and don't go back to the countryside. They take root around the city all year round. Even if there are old people and children at home, there are very few times to go home a year. After all, they just want to make more money. So from a personal point of view, even in the historical trend, nothing can stop people's yearning for a better life. However, behind all this, many new problems have emerged: lonely old people, left-behind children, poor land, housing crisis, living security and so on.
Lonely old man: As the questioner said, many young people in rural areas go to work in cities in order to pursue their dreams, and spend a certain amount of time in exchange for corresponding returns. Some even take root in cities all the year round, leaving their elderly parents in their hometown in the countryside, hence the term "lonely old man".
Left-behind children: It is worth noting that in this environment, left-behind children in rural areas are also a big problem, especially in the author's hometown. Children's parents work outside the home, most of them are taken care of by grandparents, and some of them are taken care of by their parents alone.
Poor land: young people go out to work, while old people have to take care of their grandchildren, and their physical strength is not excellent. Land abandonment is particularly common. For the land with convenient transportation, farmers can only sublet it to a third party for sowing, and which hillsides have become the hardest hit areas.
Housing crisis: houses are for people to live in. Some farmers are away from home all the year round, their houses are in disrepair, and the elderly are physically weak and unable to undertake the maintenance of their houses.
Life security: some people may think this is a bit exaggerated. Actually, the countryside is vast. For those remote mountain villages, sometimes money may not necessarily buy things. Some villages around my hometown are dozens of miles away from towns and villages, and the elderly can't drive, and most of them are natural villages of dozens of families. For these rural people, it is really difficult to live without young people.
Summary: People always want to live a good life. I used to work hard outside all the year round, but since I got married, I have to choose to look after my children at home with my elderly parents, so that I can spend more time with them and reduce their trauma. Finally, the author appeals to those rural people who are working hard outside to spend more time with their parents, so that their old age will be warmer and less lonely, because one day, we will all grow old.
Parents live a long and healthy life! The problem of supporting the owner can be said to be the problem of staying behind in rural areas, which is widely concerned by the society at present, and it is also a very heavy problem. The author believes that "it is difficult to go out, but you have to go back to accompany the elderly at home". Even if you are busy at ordinary times and time is tight, you should go back occasionally during the New Year! There is an old saying in the ancients: every family has a difficult experience, and everyone will get old! What's more, "the living parents, the poor inherit the wind" ...! Old people don't complain, they just care about them. What do they owe them as children? All people who are too busy to go home to visit the elderly are playing with inhuman D hooligans, and cherish them if they can. All the old people want is their children's wishes, not your material needs. Time to spend with the elderly is becoming more and more limited ...! Finally, I wish all parents in the world a long and healthy life!
Young people are used to staying in other places. They may feel fresh when they go back to their hometown in the countryside for a few days, but they will want to leave after a long time. After all, there is no colorful and convenient transportation and entertainment environment in the countryside, and there is no way to make money.
Old people don't like going back to the countryside because the situation in the countryside has changed. Maybe many friends of the same age have gone out, and no one even talks to them. The environment is too cold.