How to deal with strong parents in the face of marriage
Most modern cities are only children. Marriage is the union of two families. Narrator: Ye Xiaogan is a 35-year-old bank clerk. My husband and I are both only children. Our parents have been with us since childhood, and they will take care of us personally in big and small matters. This love didn't stop with our marriage. My parents used to be executives of state-owned enterprises, and even now they are retired, their retirement salary is still very high. Although the husband's family is from the city, it is just an ordinary family, and the family is not rich. Therefore, the two families often have conflicts because of some money-related things. When I first got married, my parents strongly disagreed. My husband's family is very satisfied with me. The mother-in-law took her husband to the house to intercede. I didn't expect to be scolded by my mother. Since then, the elderly on both sides have complained. Even after we got married successfully, our relationship has been very stiff. My husband and I both know that our parents are good for us and hope that we can live a better life, but we are often caught between them and are embarrassed. The results of the senior high school entrance examination will come out soon. I hope my son can successfully enter a key middle school, and we are all happy. Who should I go back to when I get married? Narrator: Zhang Jialin is 30 years old. We are just two strangers in this familiar city. In college, we came here from different cities, met in the same school, knew each other, fell in love, and finally came together. Because we are only children, our parents want us to settle in their city. Unfortunately, one is in Guizhou and the other is in Hebei, and no one will compromise. I have discussed this matter with my wife many times, but every time she resolutely opposes it. I am the only one in our family, and I am going back to Guizhou. So are our parents. Before, we considered choosing my wife or my city to settle down, and then the other party took their parents to live together, but our parents insisted that the other city was not easy to live in, and no one would settle. Therefore, we finally had to choose to stay in Wuhan, although it has been almost half a year since we got the license, and we still don't have our own house. When we got married, in order to take care of the feelings of the elderly on both sides, we hosted banquets on both sides, but we could not settle in two cities at the same time. At present, parents are not old. In addition to the annual Chinese New Year holiday, my parents will rush to let us pass. It's generally ok, but it's difficult to wait a few years. I hope I can buy a house as soon as possible, make a splash in this city, and then I can live in this city with my parents. Let's live a good life. Narrator: After Li's 28-year-old teacher got married, her mother-in-law invited us to have dinner together, and we paid for meals in 700 yuan every month. Many colleagues envy us that we have ready-made meals when we come home from work every day, but I don't think so. My mother-in-law is not very good at cooking and lives frugally. She eats those dishes all year round. She likes to put the leftovers in the refrigerator and eat them the next day. My husband feels sorry for his parents. My husband and I are generally responsible for eating those leftovers. After giving birth to the baby, my husband and I discussed that we should stop eating with our in-laws and cook at home by ourselves, but my husband didn't agree. Two days ago, my mother-in-law took her daughter to the park to play, put her child on a stone bench and watched others dance by herself. Later, her daughter fell from it and cut her hand. After I took my daughter to the hospital for dressing, I insisted on taking her to my mother. My mother has always wanted to take care of her granddaughter. She is a retired teacher. I'm relieved to give her the baby. At present, parents are not old. In addition to the annual Chinese New Year holiday, my parents will rush to let us pass. It's generally ok, but it's difficult to wait a few years. I hope I can buy a house as soon as possible, make a splash in this city, and then I can live in this city with my parents. (Editor: Tan Mingxing)